Should I tell my guidance counselor I have a stressful crush on my professor?

[isabellemarss]

I've been planning on talking to my counselor because of my personal problems. And I really want to open up to her about my crush on my professor.

 

It's becoming unhealthy because although I know I'm one of the best performing students in his class, I'm still very critical of myself and it hurts my self-esteem and confidence when he praises another student's work better than mine, to the point that I get severely upset. I have a great interest in the class so naturally I want to excel, but having a crush on the instructor intensifies my need to be the best. As a result, I set unrealistic expectations for myself and get frustrated and disappointed... while trying to look extra pretty in between!

 

I've never told my friends about this and I don't intend to. My professor is married and much older than me (I'm 18 and he's probably around 38-43?) Would it be a good idea to tell this to my counselor? I'm just kind of embarrassed of what she'll think of me, especially IF she knows my professor.

[FitChick]

I'm sure she's heard it all before.

[lavenderlove]

Isn't the idea of seeing a counsellor that you can tell them anything?

If this is bothering you that much, their job is to help you through this. Plus, even if your counsellor knows the professor, she must keep all information confidential. So you should be safe.

[GoreSP]

By 'guidance counselor' do you mean academic counselling or 'emotional counselling'?

 

Sorry for asking - where I'm from, a guidance counselor gives academic counseling.

 

My job kind of falls under the guidance counselling in the academic sense (as in student has a certain career in mind and I tell him/her what programs of courses would be best fitted for his/her goals) and to be honest, if a student told me she had a crush on her prof, I don't have the training to deal with this sort of thing...

 

But if she is a counselor as in someone you talk to about your personal problems and how they are intertwined with your academic life - then it's her job to hear and deal with stories like yours...

[d0nnivain]

I had the same question as GoreSP. If this counselor is an academic advisor I wouldn't mentioned it.