guest572 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Absolutely not! That is incredibly selfish and unfair of her to ask of you. As strive said, move on without her. I don't know what is going on with her needing to be independent, but that doesn't sound like love to me. Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 My ex and I have been broken up for 45 days. We just started a period of no contact yesterday because she wanted to. We were together for 3 years and we both still love each other. She has promised me she will get back together with me at some point in the future, but she does not know when it will happen. She wants to be independent right now and is content being by herself and not having to worry about anyone else. She told me she has no other guys on her mind right now and that I should not be worrying about that at all. I love her very much and want to be with her, but I want to be with her now and I'm finding it hard to understand how she loves me but then doesn't want me now. So...in your opinion, should I wait? If you honor, and I mean REALLY honor no contact and do not text, fb, write, email, run into her or talk to friends about her....just totally dissapear, it will let her see that she misses you and will also make her respect you more that you were not needy or clingy and able to be independent, have your own life...it triples by a million the chances. Right now, walk away....do you, force your self to go have fun experiences, you dont want her to see same old same old....and no response to breadcrumbs if it kills you, do not reply to "friendzone" messages. Silence says it ALL. Honor her request. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Go read up on the advise you got in that other thread you started. Seems you're still not listening to her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 No you shouldn't wait. Her "promise" that you will together someday is BS. It's something people say to try to soften the blow. You can't count on something like that. I read your other thread. Your relationship may have run it's course. It may be something you did (smoking weed). It may just be that after 3 years you have grown apart. Either way you need to wrap your head around the fact that it's over & live your life accordingly. Please don't drown your sorrows in drugs or alcohol but don't assume she's coming back either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letmeknow Posted February 2, 2014 Author Share Posted February 2, 2014 We didnt grow apart. She truly still loves me and I love her. She is a Christian woman and raised her right hand to God when she promised me she would get back together with me. She wants space and I'm going to give it to her. I'm in a much better place than when I posted on this forum awhile back. I really believe that she will get back together with me at some point. She keeps re-iterating the fact that she will not be with any other guys. She doesn't want a relationship right now. I see a future with her and waiting 1 month or however long is worth it to me for a chance at forever. I'm going to try and go about my life like she isn't coming back. I know she is going to come to my Baptism on march 2nd. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 We didnt grow apart. She truly still loves me and I love her. She is a Christian woman and raised her right hand to God when she promised me she would get back together with me. She wants space and I'm going to give it to her. I'm in a much better place than when I posted on this forum awhile back. I really believe that she will get back together with me at some point. She keeps re-iterating the fact that she will not be with any other guys. She doesn't want a relationship right now. I see a future with her and waiting 1 month or however long is worth it to me for a chance at forever. I'm going to try and go about my life like she isn't coming back. I know she is going to come to my Baptism on march 2nd. A promise to God is the easiest promise to break. I wouldn't be holding your breath on this one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 We didnt grow apart. She truly still loves me and I love her. She is a Christian woman and raised her right hand to God when she promised me she would get back together with me. She wants space and I'm going to give it to her. I'm in a much better place than when I posted on this forum awhile back. I really believe that she will get back together with me at some point. She keeps re-iterating the fact that she will not be with any other guys. She doesn't want a relationship right now. I see a future with her and waiting 1 month or however long is worth it to me for a chance at forever. I'm going to try and go about my life like she isn't coming back. I know she is going to come to my Baptism on march 2nd. She says all that now...until she happens to meet someone else. Then says "I know what I said, but it just happened." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 She says all that now...until she happens to meet someone else. Then says "I know what I said, but it just happened." I hate to watch this, it's the oldest script in the book Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letmeknow Posted May 14, 2014 Author Share Posted May 14, 2014 I hate to watch this, it's the oldest script in the book ..She met someone else and posted posed kissing pics on facebook 3 months after we broke up and 2 months ago. I had sex with her 2 months ago when she came back into my life and I was realllllly hurt about it. I honestly thought she wanted to be "independent" and I had enough trust and respect in her to believe that. I was wrong and we havent talked in two months. I have been deleted from facebook, she changed her phone number, she deleted my friends facebook, her friends have blocked me, she blocked me, her mother blocked me...but she is with that same guy still. Women suck. Link to post Share on other sites
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