pink_sugar Posted January 23, 2014 Share Posted January 23, 2014 So my dad calls me just to complain and say that I "complain on facebook too much", which I have not. I guess he was referring to the high cost of living in my area posts, which is a well known issue in my area by many. Anyways, as some of you know, my husband and I are moving to an area with more affordable costs of living. All the while, my dad talks about the past and how if we did things differently, we'd be better off and blah blah blah. Tell me something I don't know. There's nothing I can do about it now, but make better future decisions and moving out of the area to somewhere more affordable so I can save and buy a house within the next 5 years seems reasonable to me. But he just goes on and on about how all the jobs are in our current area and how immigrants struggle and etc to own a home here. He talks about not being negative, but him talking about what I could have and should have done differently is far from constructive. I already know about my mistakes and there's nothing I can do but move forward and do what's best for me now. My dad is in his fifties and will be having 4 roommates just to make ends meet...even though he makes 6 figures a year. That says a lot about how expensive it is here and it's only going to get worse. I wish I wasn't guilt tripped about it just because I choose not to have that way of live. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted January 23, 2014 Share Posted January 23, 2014 It sounds like your dad does not know how to express his concern and caring for you in a positive, healthy way. He may also just have a pessimistic, negative-outlook kind of personality. Things to really just accept about him and not take his negative crap to heart...just leave it with him, so to speak. (I know it's difficult...but it'll actually be a step for your own emotional well-being -- I don't mean to just use your understanding, acceptance to put with him when his Negative Neil starts shooting its mouth off in your direction.) Sounds like he has made a few bad life and financial decisions himself. My guess is he'd love for you to have it better and easier when you get to his stage of life. He just doesn't know how to say that or offer wise, encouraging support, advice. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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