Has anyone tried Meetup.com?

[kart180]

That has happened zero times in my experience. The only time that happened is the Truther guy at the Philosophy Meetup who nearly started a fight. Don't do something weird like that, just be yourself and be excited about what the group is doing.

 

Thanks but I do sound like Jonny Lee Miler and look a bit like him. Still when I'm shopping no women looks like me. I'm more of a " sit and approach me " guy.

[irc333]

Wait a min. asexuality among HUMANS exist? I need to Google this, because the facts remain that such things only exist in the animal or more likely lower animal kingdom (like molluscs).

 

Of course, we're talking about "Asexual" when it comes to internal plumbing though, so what kind of "A"-sexual are you talking about?

 

There don't seem to be any meetups for romantically-minded asexuals and virgins, which is precisely why I'm going to start one when my home renovation is done this spring.

 

You can laugh at me all you want, but I've met other asexuals at meetups before (not romantic meetups, though), and many of those asexual women were not only pretty, they were also smart and VERY romantically inclined... sort of like what a "ball of fire" would be like if she didn't want anyone else's genitals near hers.

 

BTW asexuality groups are an exception to the rule, because the men who show up tend to be outnumbered 4:1 by the women.

 

I pity those of you who need your sex fix.

[irc333]

I've seen it happen far too many times where two people who enjoyed a group began dating, then broke up, and one or both of them stopped showing up because it was uncomfortable.

 

That's called life.

 

There just things you have to suck up and deal with. Sure, you may feel uncomfortable, at first, but as the old saying goes, "This too, shall pass". ;-)

 

On the other hand, I've seen marriages occur from people meeting in Meetups.

[MixedUpChick]

I'm more of a "sit and approach me" guy.

 

You might want to change your thought process here. Why would anyone approach you? You need to interact with people a bit & be friendly & interesting, just sitting quietly isn't either of those things. If you just sit & wait for people to approach you, there's a good chance that either 1) nobody will approach you or 2) the people who do, will be people you're not interested in. Go for it, push yourself out of your comfort zone a little & be proactive about approaching others, to increase your chances of success.

[Eau Claire]

I am not broke but I barely got enough money to go to 1 Meetup group tops every 2 weeks.

 

This is why, after that one Meetup, I rather work a second job instead. Make myself a little more productive. After all, I really didn't talk to anyone that night so it was, in essence, a huge waste of time and money.

 

I belong to a half dozen meet up groups. They don't cost anything but a token dollar or so. We don't collect anything for our 2 hiking groups or dance group. My boyfriend will give the organizer $5 now and again as a donation.

 

Meet up organizing subscription per group are $12/ month. Our social dance club has just over 600 members...about 25 cents each member a year. Some groups like a wine club may have individual costs but ones like our hiking group have no additional costs. More or less free except for a dollar here or there.

[Better]

That's called life.

 

There just things you have to suck up and deal with. Sure, you may feel uncomfortable, at first, but as the old saying goes, "This too, shall pass". ;-)

 

On the other hand, I've seen marriages occur from people meeting in Meetups.

 

I choose not to do that. No matter how strongly you state your opinion, it isn't more correct nor does it change mine. I don't understand why you are trying to "teach" me or convince me that I am wrong.

[irc333]

We do have our "too cool for school" types in the Meetups. Kind of par for the course.

 

You might want to change your thought process here. Why would anyone approach you? You need to interact with people a bit & be friendly & interesting, just sitting quietly isn't either of those things. If you just sit & wait for people to approach you, there's a good chance that either 1) nobody will approach you or 2) the people who do, will be people you're not interested in. Go for it, push yourself out of your comfort zone a little & be proactive about approaching others, to increase your chances of success.

[Eau Claire]

We do have our "too cool for school" types in the Meetups. Kind of par for the course.

 

Ours hardly have any. Perhaps beyond that stage in life. Regular guys and gals having fun. The only group over represented as a slice of the population are new immigrant women and nerds.

 

From your negative postings I'm sure glad I don't live in your town. There seems to be a lot of weird people.

[MixedUpChick]

We do have our "too cool for school" types in the Meetups. Kind of par for the course.

 

I'm not sure if this was supposed to somehow pertain to my post that you quoted, because it seems almost completely unrelated.

 

Ours hardly have any. Perhaps beyond that stage in life. Regular guys and gals having fun. The only group over represented as a slice of the population are new immigrant women and nerds.

 

None of the groups I've ever been to have much of this going on either, most everyone is friendly & welcoming. Although related to my earlier post that irc quoted - most people don't go looking for people just sitting & watching the world go by, to try to include them. If someone is off by themselves & not really participating, you pretty much assume they're not interested in interacting with others very much.

[KatZee]

Im newly single (7 mo) and I really need to get out to meet new people. I heard about this site, and being Im in a big city, there are tons of groups.

Just curious how it works and what you thought of it if you joined.

 

This was precisely the reason I joined Meetup.com. I had become so isolated from my friends that when my ex dumped me I literally had like one or two people to call to go out with. I joined Meetup and was initially scared and worried it would be a ton of nerds, or super awkward, and although I did go to one weird Meetup event, and it WAS awkward and nerds, I did find an all girl's group very soon thereafter and spent a bunch of months doing a lot of cool things around my city, met new people who were very normal and in the same situation as I was pretty much. It was fun to have things to do a few nights a week, and just get my mind off the breakup and reinvent myself.

[ltjg45]

I belong to a half dozen meet up groups. They don't cost anything but a token dollar or so. We don't collect anything for our 2 hiking groups or dance group. My boyfriend will give the organizer $5 now and again as a donation.

 

Meet up organizing subscription per group are $12/ month. Our social dance club has just over 600 members...about 25 cents each member a year. Some groups like a wine club may have individual costs but ones like our hiking group have no additional costs. More or less free except for a dollar here or there.

 

Well, the cost of the actual meet up was $25 and, since I didn't know anyone, I had to catch a cab back home, which is another $30.

 

So it was a costly event, to say the least.

[KatZee]

The meetup group I was/is part of is free. I would not pay one cent to join a group. These are not professional or company based things, why should someone have to pay? If you're paying to DO something like dinner, drinks, an event, fine, but I really don't understand yearly fees at all, and totally steer clear from those guys.

[MixedUpChick]

The meetup group I was/is part of is free. I would not pay one cent to join a group. These are not professional or company based things, why should someone have to pay? If you're paying to DO something like dinner, drinks, an event, fine, but I really don't understand yearly fees at all, and totally steer clear from those guys.

 

Some groups ask for a yearly contribution from members, because it costs $144 a year to run a group (the Meetup.com website requires it). I don't ask for my members to pay a yearly fee, for a variety of reasons... but some of the other meetup groups in my area ask members to pay anywhere from $3-10 a year to recoup the fees, which seems reasonable.

[Disillusioned]

Wait a min. asexuality among HUMANS exist? I need to Google this, because the facts remain that such things only exist in the animal or more likely lower animal kingdom (like molluscs).

 

Of course, we're talking about "Asexual" when it comes to internal plumbing though, so what kind of "A"-sexual are you talking about?

 

A-freakin'-mazing, ain't it??? Just look up asexuality dot org and see how many thousands of people around the world have joined since they started in '02. And no, I'm not going to pay for the hole in your floor caused by your jaw dropping and crashing through it.

 

On the other hand, I've seen marriages occur from people meeting in Meetups.

 

That's no fairy tale... I left a certain meetup group for single gamers 2 years ago because I felt like I didn't fit in, but back when I left, the organizer (a widower who'd remarried) announced that the group just had its 14th marriage in the 2 years it had existed back then. The "too cool for school" types would probably not have anything positive to say about that.

[mario_C]

Well, the cost of the actual meet up was $25 and, since I didn't know anyone, I had to catch a cab back home, which is another $30.

 

So it was a costly event, to say the least.

Ouch. The NYC ones are tough like that; my writers' group is $10 each (plus train and occasional cab). Singles nights' are $12, 15 and up. Even match.com nights are way cheaper.