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hey there,

 

I feel your pain. My GF just ended our 3.5 yr relationship. I had already bought her a ring to propose and everything. It has been a little over a month and I am still miserable but trying to get over it. I broke NC so that we could talk in person. I thought this would at least help me with closure. I wanted to tell her how I felt and let her know the future plans I had, since she always doubted my commitment. Well, it ended up being 4 hours of tears and alot of subsequent pain. I also found out that she has been on a couple dates which really tore me apart

 

Our situations are not exactly alike, but there was a time in my relationship when I decided I needed time to see if I really new what I wanted. I broke her heart and we didnt speak for a month or two. I was content with my decision for a while. One day someone brought up her name and all of a sudden I was overwhelmed with emotion.

 

I called her a few days later and somehow convinced her to take me back. I finally realized what a mistake I made. Unfortunetly we broke up and that is a hole nother story.

 

I suggest do NC at all costs. Dont return his emails dont answer his calls or texts, and avoid the places he hangs. Trust me I am a guy, once he sees you have moved on and this is not bothering you he will come crawling back.

 

And if he doesnt, well this is the healing process and you will love again. I wish I could take my own advice because I am just as heart broken as you.

 

 

-search4what

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Darn it!!!! NC is SOOOOOOOO hard! I just fall into him so easily. Today he called me while I was in class just to say have a good day. Then after he finished work, he invited me to the library to study. It was fun, he flirted and I didnt do it back, and at the end of the night when we hugged goodbye, he kissed me on my cheek. I know I probably shouldnt be thinking this, but that was one of the greatest kisses! :love:

 

But on to other things, when he invites me to study again, should I go? Or is it still a better idea to do NC for a bit? And how long should it last? I know I can last a week and a half, but still...

 

Thanks everyone for your advice, its much appreciated!!! :)

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Well since that night at the library he has called me in the morning to say good morning and has texted me to say have a good day for the past 2 days. i havent answered the phone all the time and it seems like when i dont is when i get more of a response from him. Like today when he called me around noon, he sang to me like he always used to do on my voicemail. then when he got off work he called me but i was on the other line and didnt answer him, so he called me right back. strange if you ask me. i just want to know what goes on in people's heads when they act like he does.

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stang15, I did the same to my gf and once she got a it really touched something in my heart and I asked for her back after a few months. Please email me

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