Realist3 Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I told him what was said in the conversation and he is also mighty pi$$ed that he is still lying to her and suggested I contact her myself, before I ever said it to him. -------------------------------------------------- Based on our conversation it sounds as though he is still denying the affair to his wife, although she keeps asking him questions based on my husband's email and phone call. (I said to him that I wouldn't ask him if he had now told her - that's your choice - but it sounds like you haven't). These seem to be contradictory. Link to post Share on other sites
janedoe67 Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I have told my husband the whole story of how last week I suggested lunch and he agreed, but how we spoke on the phone instead. He was a bit disappointed that I didn't tell him last week but is ok about it. I told him what was said in the conversation and he is also mighty pi$$ed that he is still lying to her and suggested I contact her myself, before I ever said it to him. To be honest I don't think I will - she'll figure it out one day if she keeps asking questions and he's just not worthy of any more time. I just wish I didn't have to work with him at all. I could easily forget him if he wasn't in my face everyday! You need to stay away from this woman whose marriage YOU chose to invade and work on your own marriage and the lack of remorse you seem to have for your own actions. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysGrowing Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I am confused over your husband being ok with you making then changing the lunch plans to discuss work, that turned into discussion of the affair, what the OM is or isn't doing, what the OBS does or doesn't know but is angry over the OBS supposed reaction to it all. Most would not be okay with the private lunch in the first place, let alone changing the day and the topic, which is being relayed third hand by someone who has a horse in the race. Is the OBS the only person with their head in the sand? Is the OBS the only person who is not facing the seriousness of the situation? Is the OBS the only person still being lied/deceived? Link to post Share on other sites
VeronicaRoss Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I am now so furious that he might have done this and made me out to be something that I am not. I might be an adulterer but I’m not a liar or a bunny boiler!!!! I’m thinking I’ll confront him at work next week with this theory and see if he’ll admit it to me. What is so ridiculous about it all is that I know things about him, personal physical things that only a lover could know. Does he want me to contact her and tell her what I know… I’m just so mad… OK, I got a chuckle out of this. So over the top ridiculous. I had a boyfriend a very long time ago that would come up with stories like this to bait people and laugh gleefully at the self-righteous indignation he boiled up in forums. Maybe he or Paul Hendry has found LS. If you're not a troll Tarnished, holy cow. If you are, congrats I'm sure you're going to enjoy this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarnished Posted February 10, 2014 Author Share Posted February 10, 2014 OK, I got a chuckle out of this. So over the top ridiculous. I had a boyfriend a very long time ago that would come up with stories like this to bait people and laugh gleefully at the self-righteous indignation he boiled up in forums. Maybe he or Paul Hendry has found LS. If you're not a troll Tarnished, holy cow. If you are, congrats I'm sure you're going to enjoy this one. Gee how funny are you, Veronica Ross. Yeah, I'm a troll. A troll who this morning lay in bed in the foetal position, unable to stop crying, wracked with pain and guilt over what I've done to my husband, hurting because the OM won't acknowledge his part in the affair which makes me feel dirty and worthless. Not that it should matter to you but I have long term depression and therefore am not handling any of this very well at all. Your careless comments are just enough to tip me over the edge today. I think I'm done here. Link to post Share on other sites
VeronicaRoss Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 Ugh, sorry about that! I honestly didn't think it was real, so bad on me. Yes you are in a lot of hurt, really think you'd be a lot better going to a therapist for some real help. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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