smile95 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Can someone tell me (since I am not a busy person) if it is possible to be going thru a divorce and child custody and a CRAZY job where you work 10 hrs a day and most wkend and still claim to love your girlfriend(me). I never get any of his time, yet he will not end it with me and will not accept me ending it. We love each other, but it is already a LDR and we never talk anymore either. If we do, it is for 5 minutes. I know I deserve more and want more, but he admots he is sooo busy. I suggest we take a break because it is taking a toll on me and I cry all the time and then he just accuses me of finding someone new. What do you do when youlove someone so much but are unhappy!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 I never get any of his time, yet he will not end it with me and will not accept me ending it. You left out the part where you signed over your free will and independent mind. If you want to end the relationship because of the toll it is taking on you emotionally, he can either accept that and leave you alone or continue to harrass and stalk you until the cops throw him in jail. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Do you love him enough to see it through until things calm down? Link to post Share on other sites
Author smile95 Posted January 13, 2005 Author Share Posted January 13, 2005 I do love him very much. I have waited almost 3 yrs for him and STILL they are fighting over the dovorce. I have been patient and I am starting to wonder if I am just scared of being a lone and that is why I have hung on so long. I know I will miss him if I end it, but I am hoping that would fade. the hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Three of Swords Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I have a darling friend who is the OW and she has been waiting for 7 years for her man to divorce his wife! As much as I love her - I would like to give her a not so gentle nudge and suggest to her it may be time to move on as I don't think he will ever leave his wife. And if he ever does, I wouldn't be surprised if they still didn't end up together - just from what I know about him. But hey - what do I know. Hope springs eternal. I am a friend, so will just support her whatever happens. I know you are the girlfriend here and not the other woman. I just used her scenerio to illustrate the length of the wait for the divorce. How long should a person wait? Until they decide that they just can't wait anymore. No one can give you an answer to that one. As for being scared of being alone. Aren't you already always alone anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Author smile95 Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 funny you say that......I am alone all the time anyway!!!! It is more of a mental state of being al one....knowing he is gone. That is something that I would have to get over. thanks for your help. Everyone says I will know when to leave. How do you leave when you love somoene who really has done nothing wrong( a certain scenario) but just is not making you happy? THIS CONSUMES MY THOUGHTS!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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