d0cholliday Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 we ended up talking and we talked through what needed to be changed if we get back together, made great progress in my opinion. just don't know what to do next? Did you get back together? Sounds to me like you didn't... Look man, I really know how it is, what you feel, you can check my thread and you'll see that I'm still hurting, but not as much as I used to... Tried the talking, had sex, hanging out, but the only thing that really helped me, not much but it did, is NC... It's great you had the talk, but don't push it now, just continue on with your life, each day is a strugle, and wait to see her intentions, that's the only thing we can do at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 long story short me and my girfriend broke up, we were together for 9 months madly in love, we broke up as i was too clingy etc, was a bad boyfriend. we stayed in contact and nearly got back together last night. however she said she needs time and space to miss me as she feels she hasnt had time to miss me to really want me back. she said she hates kissing other guys and loves spending time with me. she said when she has time and space she will come running back to me. so i guess my best option is nc? she really does love me. she said she needs to loose me in order to find me Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 she said she hates kissing other guys because its not me Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 she said she doesn't want to commit 100% until shes 100% sure about us. Link to post Share on other sites
sak21 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 she is very honest imo..thats exactly what a woman feels when she thinks that you ve pushed too much too quick..not a lot of women talk about how they really feel..woman's feelings grow during absence..she is very 'to the point'..give her the gift of not seeing you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 yes I have to agree.. at least she's told me exactly what I need to do and I suppose I just need to do that now, NC? Link to post Share on other sites
sak21 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 i guess so..take time to improve yourself..be a better you..let her come to you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 12, 2014 Author Share Posted February 12, 2014 she said everytime she see's and spends time with me she wants to get back together, im going nc for a week as its what she asked, however she got upset and angry last night when i didnt text her back, i still havent and wont until the week is up. she opened up and just said she's scared to give it another go incase it doesnt work out. but then when she see's me she wants to give it a go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 12, 2014 Author Share Posted February 12, 2014 my problem is i could go nc for years, and she could be crying for 24hours a day, absoloutely miserable and want me back and she still wouldnt say it to me, shes very stubborn like that. i know she wants me back, she just feels scared. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 my problem is i could go nc for years, and she could be crying for 24hours a day, absoloutely miserable and want me back and she still wouldnt say it to me, shes very stubborn like that. i know she wants me back, she just feels scared. If her personal pride is more important to her than her love to you, then you are not a priority to her. You need to go NC for much more than a week instead of doing this friendzone stuff you are doing. If she truly wants to be with you she'll make it clear. But there's no reason for her to do that when you are always in contact and you won't go away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 12, 2014 Author Share Posted February 12, 2014 its not personal pride, its like self punishment she would rather punish herself. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 its not personal pride, its like self punishment she would rather punish herself. Whatever you want to call it, my point remains. If she is willing to put something else in front of any desire to be with you, then she doesn't want to be with you. I don't care how stubborn she is, if she truly wants it she'll go after it. She's not going to give you what you want right now because she doesn't have to -- you don't have the strength to let her go and let life take its course. She knows this, therefore she can string you along for her own comfort, even if she doesn't consciously realize she's doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 12, 2014 Share Posted February 12, 2014 its not personal pride, its like self punishment she would rather punish herself. She's not interested in you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author footballman Posted February 15, 2014 Author Share Posted February 15, 2014 she reconciled after a period of NC and we are back together. she said she doesnt know why it took her this long to realise she loves and wants to be with me, success story for all ye hopefuls out there, keep faith but GO NC! its the only way. thanks everyone for all your help, really appreciate it Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted February 15, 2014 Share Posted February 15, 2014 she reconciled after a period of NC and we are back together. she said she doesnt know why it took her this long to realise she loves and wants to be with me, success story for all ye hopefuls out there, keep faith but GO NC! its the only way. thanks everyone for all your help, really appreciate it Did you actually go NC? Three days ago you said you were talking to her. Either way, I would pump the brakes a bit and refrain from calling this a "success story" just yet. Just take it slow and don't get ahead of yourself. Best of luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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