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So today I got a request from an old friend of mine. Of course I accepted and went straight to comment on something she posted , seen my ex in the comment section. Boy I went O **** at first.

 

I haven't spoken to her since November. Been avoiding any chance or accidental run in/brush like the plague since d- day. I was so tore up so I have been off in my own little world for the past. 3-4 months doing everything I can do to recover the best I can. And I think it worked.

 

I said to hell with it and clicked on her. I truly realized TODAY , the person I've been missing/so sad about just does not exist anymore . the fantasy in my mind has finally been quelled,hopefully for good. I didn't find her that attractive. I didn't feel any jealousy or hatred. It was nice in a way to see her. But that's as close as I want to get again.

 

I don't know if this is normal at all but I felt a sense of relief, a weight lifted off of my chest. I thought I missed her. But truth be I didn't at all. I missed what once was and you just can't let yourself miss something that doesn't exist.

 

I really hope this post helps somebody else going through troubling times. If i put this in the wrong section I apologize in advance. It seemed more suited to self improvement instead of breaking up. Happy days are ahead of us all

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Potentially, looking at your ex's facebook is a VERY bad idea. I'm glad that seeing her Facebook helped you, but for other people...it might not be the case. It's a dangerous game. I disabled my Facebook two weeks ago partially for that very reason; so far, I enjoy life without Facebook. I would recommend staying the hell away from Facebook during times of rehabilitation, but for some people...that's a whole other issue.

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There is also the option of blocking people you don't want to "accidentally" run into on Facebook.

 

When you block somebody they cannot see anything that you do or view your timeline and vice-versa. Even if the two of you comment on the same post on a mutual friend's timeline, neither of you will see the post made by the other person.

 

You may be over her and that's great, but human curiosity can be a dangerous thing and you might find yourself "innocently" lurking around your ex's page and, believe it or not, that can become addictive and it's unhealthy.

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