Debo Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Does someone telling you, after three months together, that they don't want to pursue a long distance relationship mean they don't love you even when they tell you they do love you? In this case, both parties couldn't see either moving to the same place for at least three years. Plus the woman had two young kids, ages 5 and 10. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I don't know that someone saying they don't want to persue a LDR means they don't love you.. but I do think sometimes love really isn't enough.. and from what you've said there wasn't REALLY an end in sight regarding the distance.. Without compromise and the willingness to do what it takes to sustain the relationship.. while it doesn't mean the parties involved don't love one another.. I think it does mean the parties involved have other more meaningful priorities.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Debo Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 Thanks for the response, Merin. I guess it's just that I would like to think that love can't conquer all and sometimes, like you said, love can't overcome other circumstances. And that all the things she said to me were true and the circumstances were just unavoidable. BTW, Nice picture in you avatar. Is that you? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Debo Thanks for the response, Merin. I guess it's just that I would like to think that love can't conquer all and sometimes, like you said, love can't overcome other circumstances. And that all the things she said to me were true and the circumstances were just unavoidable. BTW, Nice picture in you avatar. Is that you? You're welcome.. I'm sorry for your situation.. AND Yep that's me.. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Debo Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 Quite sexy, you are. <In my deep Barry White Voice> Link to post Share on other sites
serendipity67 Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Having a LDR is very difficult. Its not that the Loves not there, but just being together is not enough. You need that physical contact to connect and grow. If either are not in the position to move - then that becomes extremely difficult. During times of emotional distress, you may find yourself reaching out to the opposite sex - bucause that "person" isn't there. There has to be more than the desire - it takes work. If you it - make it work. Come together and meet in the middle. Link to post Share on other sites
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Debo Does someone telling you, after three months together, that they don't want to pursue a long distance relationship mean they don't love you even when they tell you they do love you? I don't want to pursue a relationship = I'm just not that into you. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 When I read the first sentence of your post, my first thought was that it must be a woman. And I was right! When a woman who loves you says after three months that she can't go on like this it means "let's take this relationship onto a higher level!" She wants to move in with you or marry you. Or she simply wants to know where you stand and what to expect. She needs to know your feelings and plans for the future so she can count on something more stable with you. She wonders if the LDR is just a waste of time. She needs your answer, and she needs it as specific as it can be. (not a vague one) Link to post Share on other sites
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