Leigh 87 Posted January 28, 2014 Share Posted January 28, 2014 Have you ever not liked one of your boyfriends/girlfriends friends, or vice versa? I have a boyfriend. One of my male friends is not too crash hot on him. My boyfriend is openly loving towards me, friendly to everyone around him, engaging and seems happy and eager to talk to anyone. Yet my male friend, an accountant, said that my boyfriend was annoying when he was drunk (my boyfriend does have a short term memory problem due to a stroke he had an age 19 but he IS all "there" upstairs, it was purely his memory that was afflicted). My accountant friend also stated that : He always wanted to take me on a take, and although that ship HAS sailed and he is happy for me and respects my relationship with my boyfriend, he gets a bit bitter that he (he is a classic "nice guy), gets looked over by girls even though he is, well super nice to them:lmao: He didn't say he hated my boyfriend, he termed it " he just hasn't grown on me yet". I have never disliked a friends partner as yet. 'Plenty of my exes friends disliked me though, as they didn't deem me ''hot enough" for him:sick: (then they would try to have sex with me behind his back:sick:) My current boyfriends friends and family like me a lot and are thrilled for him. My good friend had an ex; she was 17 and he was LATE 20's when they met! They fell in love at first site pretty much. Worst still; he was a TEACHER at her SCHOOL Naturally, her parents disowned her and she had to move away to live with him in the end. It tore up her family and she lost them for a period. They hated that man and would not EVER accept him or warm to him. What are your experiences? How often do things run smoothly? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 28, 2014 Share Posted January 28, 2014 When one friend or family member doesn't like your SO, it's a personality conflict. When they all don't like the SO, the person needs to take a good, long hard look at why. Because you mentioned the accountant wanted to take you out, I suspect jealousy colors his perceptions of your BF. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 28, 2014 Share Posted January 28, 2014 That would be my take too. Dead give-away. "I hate him because it should have been me." Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted January 28, 2014 Share Posted January 28, 2014 When one friend or family member doesn't like your SO, it's a personality conflict. When they all don't like the SO, the person needs to take a good, long hard look at why. Because you mentioned the accountant wanted to take you out, I suspect jealousy colors his perceptions of your BF. I agree! These only been one buddies girlfriend I didn't like, and that was a popular opinion, she was annoying - she had her tongue down his throat every 2 seconds! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2014 Author Share Posted January 29, 2014 Well, my friend said he didn't DISLIKE my boyfriend, but rather, my bf just hadn't grown on him as yet. A few male friends were initially interested in dating me, yet I shut them down and for the most part, they are very respectful AND, not to mention, they seem like quality people (decent enough to keep on as a friend). They never make moves or allude to wanting to be intimate. My boyfriend is very friendly and talkative, but I can see how he could be annoying to people that were to hang around him. My bf has a brain injury. He is totally normal, his intelligence and his cognitive ability is on par as before his aneurysm. The problem is, he forgets things short term. He can repeat things a few times. So, my guess is that my bf simply says the same thing twice to people? On our first date I don't recall anything odd. Maybe being overtly friendly can actually make people uncomfortable? My friend that isn't a fan of my bf is very friendly though, too:confused: Sorry, I am trying to figure out the reason why my friend doesn't like my bf Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 29, 2014 Author Share Posted January 29, 2014 I agree! These only been one buddies girlfriend I didn't like, and that was a popular opinion, she was annoying - she had her tongue down his throat every 2 seconds! Oh gross. Was he down for that? Or, was it mostly her pushing that very anti social behaviour down everyone ELSE throats? Oh my, I remember this older guy... I was merely hugging my boyfriend, sitting or laying down in a small part. We were not kissing at ALL. The man would look at us, shake his head, and then take a few more steps only to look BACK at us, and shake his head in an accusatory manner. Seriously. He looked back DOZENS of times, shaking his head at us:lmao: We were not even kissing or touching inappropriately. My good friend has a boyfriend who is totally crazy about her, yet in public he abhors being too lovey in front of his friends, he finds it rude to kiss and cuddle incessantly when other people are present. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 29, 2014 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Nobody liked my ex....even some of his family wondered what I saw in him. Major red flag much:eek:? Obviously much more extreme than your one friend kind of disliking/maybe jealous of your BF. I agree that if it's one person it's a personality thing.....if it's more than that - you need to assess the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted January 29, 2014 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Oh gross. Was he down forthat? Or, was it mostly her pushing that very anti social behaviour downeveryone ELSE throats? Gross it was - I had no desire to see them swapping spit. It was mostly her I guess, he was just a bit weak more than anything, she was just one of these girls who wanted the world to know she had a "boyfriend", though she broke up with him every other day. Literally you could be trying to have a conversation with him and she'd just literally jump downhis throat so you were left there like ".... okays, I'll just go then"! My goodfriend has a boyfriend who is totally crazy about her, yet in public he abhors being too lovey in front of his friends, he finds it rude to kiss and cuddle incessantly when other people are present. Yeah, totally! There's nothing in the world I wouldn't do for my girlfriend, I'd walk on water, but we were friends first and around our mates that exactly how we stay. It's just totally inappropriate to go PDA crazy IMHO. (hell, I feel like I'm being rude if I make out with my gf when the babies are watching ) Link to post Share on other sites
OpheliaSong Posted January 29, 2014 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Oh, your friend has a crush on you.....but seriously, don't pay him any mind and just enjoy your relationship. You really deserve to be happy after your last breakup. I am happy that you found someone. Of your friend can't accept your bf who had a brain injury, I don't know if that is the kind of friend I would want. Your bf can't help his memory problem. I wonder sometimes if people lack empathy in general anymore. You seem really happy so just enjoy your bf. You deserve this romance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PuravidaJQ Posted January 29, 2014 Share Posted January 29, 2014 TaraMaiden is right on it. I have the same thing happen to me. There is two friends of her that have those feelings towards of me. But just like you said, the ship HAS sailed. Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted January 29, 2014 Share Posted January 29, 2014 Both times family and friends didn't like boyfriends, they were right. Now I can see it in their eyes, when they don't like someone, even though they are polite to them. I can just tell. And their feedback is important to me. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 These guys who whine about women never liking the nice guys are just living in denial. I have no tolerance for it. Especially since it's so rare men ever like a woman just because she's "nice." It's just bitterness. Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Your friend is angry that he is not your boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
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