aarsky Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 At new years an ex g/f brought up the subject of forgiveness saying tHAT IT IS A NEW YEAR AND TIME TO PUT EVERYTHING IN THE PAST. SHE THEN TOLD ME SHE HAD SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO TRUST ME WITH, BUT THAT I WILL HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE HER WHEN SHE TELLS ME. THE NEWS! SHES PREGANT WITH ANOTHER MANS CHILD. SHE ASKED FOR MY HELP IN EVERYWAY. I OFFERED ORIGINALLY BUT HAD QUESTIONS FOR HER ABOUT THE OUTCOME. SOME WHAT IF QUESTIONS. SOMEHOW, THIS ALL TURNED OUT INOT A BIG ARGUEMENT AND NOW WE ARE NOT SPEAKING AT ALL. SHE SAID THAT BECAUSE I HAD DOUBTS SHE DIDNT WANT MY HELP AFTER ALL, AND NOW IM CONFUSED. FIRST OF ALL SHE LIED ABOUT WHO THE FATHER WAS, AND THE THING IS SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ONLY WEEKS BEFORESAID SHE DIDNT NEED A MAN AGAIN IN HER LIFE AFTER I EXPLAINED TO HER THAT MAYBE WE SHOULD BE GOOD FRIENDS AGAIN AND SEE WHERE IT LEADS FROM THERE. THAT IS WHAT I AM HAVING TROUBLE WITH. I GUESS IT WAS A PLOY MAYBE TO REMOVE ME FROM HER LIFE ALTOGETHER, AS SHE SAID THE REASON SHE TOLD ME WAS TO TEST ME TO SEE IF I WAS TRUST WORTHY AGAIN. IM VERY LOST IN ALL OF THIS WHOLE THING AND NOW I WILL NEVER KNOW THE TRUTH BECAUSE WE DONT TALK AT ALL ANYMORE. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I'm sorry.. What?! This girl you're talking about is an EXGF right? The two of you were not together when she got pregnant by someone else? BUT she decides that her new years "resolution" is to be honest... so she tells you she is pregnant, that it's not yours.. and she wants you to help her out.. You agree to help her.. but have some questions to ask of her.. she gets pissed and says she was "testing" you to see if she could trust you.. What?! Now you say you will never know the truth.. although I'm not sure about what.. because the 2 of you are no longer speaking.. What?! Huh.. Well all I can really offer here is this.. I can see why she's an EX.. Sorry Link to post Share on other sites
Author aarsky Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 I am just trying to say why would someone go through all of this trouble if they wanted me out of their life to begin with. Why even get me involved or tell me anything. I shouldve stuck to the no contact rule. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by aarsky I am just trying to say why would someone go through all of this trouble if they wanted me out of their life to begin with. Why even get me involved or tell me anything. I shouldve stuck to the no contact rule. Honestly the only thing I can think of is, she knows the Father in question is an idiot and isn't going to help her out in any way with her pregnancy or baby when he/she comes and she was hoping that you would jump into it with her with your eyes closed.. When you said okay.. BUT wanted some answers (understandably so) she didn't like it because she is hiding some other crap from you and she bailed... I also agree that the NC rule is an excellent idea.. and just like a diet.. even if you eat the damn twinkie in a moment of weakness and starvation.. it still isn't to late to resume it again... Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author aarsky Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 Thanks for your insight. I am glad to hear a womans point of view. I will miss her, alot. We were so in love at one time. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with her and things went bad. She will be hard to get over, thats for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Dude, you are so lucky. She could have said it was yours and forced you into marriage or tried to pin child support on you. You got off easy. You know that whole "life" thing, enjoy it - you earned it. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by aarsky Thanks for your insight. I am glad to hear a womans point of view. I will miss her, alot. We were so in love at one time. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with her and things went bad. She will be hard to get over, thats for sure. You're Welcome She may be hard to get over.. (mostly because I suspect she will continue to bug you until you've had enough) but honestly.. she's got some issues and problems to resolve and you can't save her or make her okay... Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts