BoatingBabe Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I recently started dating a police officer. I heard lots of negative things about them, but this guy seem very easy going....Do any of you have any insight on them?? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 i have talked with many women who dated coppers. cops tend to be less intelligent and more physical types, control freaks and they like to drink alcohol to excess and beat their women. this is what i have heard many times, not makeing any judgements though. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Was Married to one.. uh.. notice I said WAS.. LOL I'm not going to say your new guy is going to turn out to be an assclown with a badge.. but my own personal experiance.. be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
pedens001 Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I was a police cadet/explorer for 6 years in my town..and I quit over this kinda stuff...be on your guard with them...the job has a very high divorce rate and most of the time the police officer can get away with beating his wife or gf if he does that because if you become a victim of abuse and call the police...they will NOT help you ...they will do everything possible to let the cop/abuser off just because he's a cop....thats the Blue Protects Blue or Blue Wall of Silence Mentality.... During my time as a volunteer with a local pd I saw plenty of times how the cops who were married were having relationships on the side and it was completely permissable and the brass knew of it but always kept it under the rug out of fear of the PD getting bad pr... I would be careful if I were you cuz there are many women out there who are attracted to just the uniform and the cop is in a perfect position to cheat cuz the temptation is all around him.. Some cops are less intelligent people..I wanted to be one but I'm an intelligent person...I've since realized what a mistake I would be making being a cop...they don't get paid much, they deal with A LOT of stuff that they will keep to themselves which in turn they drink too much or party hard cuz hey they are a police they figure they can get away with it... Keep in mind not all are like this but these descriptions I've given represent a thin majority of them though...Just be careful and keep your guard up... Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Some cops are less intelligent people..I wanted to be one but I'm an intelligent person Doesn't make sense. Cops are people too. However, they go through a lot of s***. They've met societies worst and handle their situations differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoot Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by pedens001 Some cops are less intelligent people..I wanted to be one but I'm an intelligent person... Remember that next time you need their assistance. Good Grief! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoatingBabe Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 I think they get the "not intelligent" rap because they are quiet...They don't discuss their jobs and internalize a lot, therefore; people assume they are dumb. I think one must be pretty quick and street smart to keep up with criminals. Besides, that wasn't my question, I was more concerned about the psychological aspect of them. I hear they are domineering and controling. Well I will keep my eyes open and see how things with him turn out...as I said,he looks like he's very easygoing...so we shall see if it's an act or if he's the exception to the rule... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by BoatingBabe Besides, that wasn't my question, I was more concerned about the psychological aspect of them. I hear they are domineering and controling. Well I will keep my eyes open and see how things with him turn out... OK B.B., good luck... and remember that after he goes on a drinking binge and kicks the krap out of you to NOT call the police. If you did, they would show up and say "oh...look Sgt. Bob has smacked BOATINGBABE around a bit, she doesn't look good, but hey, that's OK cause Sgt. Bob is ABOVE THE LAW!!!" Link to post Share on other sites
seera Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Wow...I was reading everyones post and am just dumbfounded. I was married to a police officer and he is nothing like what I have read here. With any job there are always a few bad apples and people who can't handle the stress of their jobs, but for the most part, every police officer I have ever met have been very decent men with good families. Link to post Share on other sites
Mustard Bomb Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by BoatingBabe I recently started dating a police officer. I heard lots of negative things about them, but this guy seem very easy going....Do any of you have any insight on them?? Traditionally, the police are thought of as the lower-class defenders of upper-class values and persons. It's kind of a cool history, if you're interested. There is also some research on people who are drawn to jobs in which they have physical control over others - prison guards, cops, etc. From what I've read, it can be indicative of an certain personality type, but it need not be dysfunctional. There is also a lot on police officers and post traumatic stress disorder. Have you tried scholar.google.com? It's amazing. All that said, all you can really know is just this one guy. Why did he choose to be a cop? How does he feel about his work? Does he show any controlling tendencies at work or around you? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I think it depends on the person. Some cops are awesome and some cops are a**h***s. As you get to know him, you'll know what type of person he is. I wouldn't back off the relationship just because he's a cop. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Was Married to one.. uh.. notice I said WAS.. In my locale, many of the police officers are women. And many of them would find you quite attractive & desirable, Merin! __________________________________________ If a man eats a pound of pasta & a pound of antipasti, do they cancel each other out, leaving the man still hungry? Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Oops! Wrong button again! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 People have brought up some interesting points. The careers we choose do say a lot about us and about our personality types. But, just as in any other profession -- there are good, bad, and mediocre. It used to be that police officers were respected and sometimes even revered. Less so now I think because of our society as a whole. My brother (who is a biker) has a lot of cops in his club and they all seem like decent blokes with similar moral values as most folks that I know. What kind of cop is he? What does he deal with all day? Is he more or less likely to be involved in violence? Some cops have safer "beats" than others. I would be more likely - personally - to not date a cop because the chance of getting that 2AM call would increase. It would worry me to think my beloveds' life was in danger. Also, the things he sees and deals with on a daily basis can take its toll on him emotionally and that can have an impact on a relationship. But that goes for everyone. I wouldn't date a trial lawyer again either! Admittedly, I have lost a lot of respect for the police over the years. Generally speaking, they seem so much more belligerent than they used to, but that may reflect the society and what they deal with and the rules they do have to follow. They don't seem to lead by example anymore. I get so pissed at the cops that park in the handicapped spaces because they just have to run into the store for a second! (that happens a LOT around where I live) The Sheriff's in my area are worse. We got a ticket once for not having a license plate on the front of the car (we had just bought it) and when we went to court we asked some police officers who were standing in the hall if they were required to obey the same laws that the rest of us do and they said yes, and we asked specifically about front license plates and they said yes they have to do that too, and we then asked why we got a ticket for it yet we see so many police cars without front plates and they back-peddled and gave some lame excuse about it not being necessary for them because it interferes somehow when they are pursuing criminals! That's when I lost respect for the police. But, they are people too -- if I were not concerned about that 2AM call I mentioned, I probably would date a cop. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S In my locale, many of the police officers are women. And many of them would find you quite attractive & desirable, Merin! Bwah ha ah ha hA HA aha hAH Ah ah ha ah ho he Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Bwah ha ah ha hA HA aha hAH Ah ah ha ah ho he Uh... yeah.. Again... Merin has zero interest in dating or being married to a cop... BUT LOL then again Merin also has no interest in getting married at all... My EXH is an okay person... he is intelligent and a "decent guy" however I found the being married to him once he went to patrol to be not so great.. he still does things that I think are sh*tty simply because IMO he can... there are/were a lot of good people in his department that I still think are cool... but yeah.. again I've just seen a lot of divorce in this profession for various reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Uh... yeah.. ever thought 'bout goin' lesbo MERIN?? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale ever thought 'bout goin' lesbo MERIN?? Nah.. I think there are a lot of beautiful women in the world don't get me wrong.. But yeah.. it just wouldn't do it for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I think one of the issues is that some professions are a lot more than an occupation. Indeed they're a way of life, & not always conducive to family & relationships. In the military, deployments are always stressful, of course, but even in peacetime the duty day is very long. The other is often left alone, & at considerable distance from family & friends. In certain units, namely the Special Operations elements (i.e. Army Airborne & Rangers, Navy SEALs, etc.), divorce rates are exceptionally high. Troops in these units go to distant lands on very short notice. Half the time, they don't know where they'll wake up in the morning. Those often having a VERY difficult time lately are those in National Guard & Reserve units. Believing at the time they joined that the chance of being deployed was so remote that it did not merit consideration, they have now been uprooted from families, homes & careers. Many were completely unprepared for the emotions & the stress. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S I think one of the issues is that some professions are a lot more than an occupation. Indeed they're a way of life, & not always conducive to family & relationships. In the military, deployments are always stressful, of course, but even in peacetime the duty day is very long. The other is often left alone, & at considerable distance from family & friends. In certain units, namely the Special Operations elements (i.e. Army Airborne & Rangers, Navy SEALs, etc.), divorce rates are exceptionally high. Troops in these units go to distant lands on very short notice. Half the time, they don't know where they'll wake up in the morning. Those often having a VERY difficult time lately are those in National Guard & Reserve units. Believing at the time they joined that the chance of being deployed was so remote that it did not merit consideration, they have now been uprooted from families, homes & careers. Many were completely unprepared for the emotions & the stress. :Yay for Merin!: EXH= Cop Last Serious BF= Marine Uh.. hmmm.. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Merin :Yay for Merin!: EXH= Cop Last Serious BF= Marine Uh.. hmmm.. Okay, I understand now. You have a uniform fetish! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by Scott S Okay, I understand now. You have a uniform fetish! Naah...MERIN just likes her men with large kocks and small brains. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Naah...MERIN just likes her men with large kocks and small brains. You say that like it's a bad thing... No way man! Well... to the small brains deal-e-o... Some Police Officers are good guys... just not the one I was with. Some Marines are good guys... just not the one I was with. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I recently started dating a police officer. I heard lots of negative things about them, but this guy seem very easy going....Do any of you have any insight on them?? Two of my friends are married to cops as well and another has a husband who is about to become one. I won't lie, it really has been hard on them. Mostly because of the worry factor. It hasn't been too long, so I can only personally comment on how things are now, not 10-20 years down the road. We all have heard stats on cop/ff marriages and how they don't last...I think it depends on the couple involved. But you two are just starting out....In my previous job I got to know many Cops/ETF Officiers and Firefighters. Sick individuals, wicked sense of humours, good cooks and very (in my experience here) honest and trustworthy. The easy going is probably because of the job pressures. So much happens on the job, the stuff noone hears about or never makes the news. Sometimes it can be really damaging... Good luck though and play with those CUFFS in the bedroom! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BoatingBabe Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Good luck though and play with those CUFFS in the bedroom! For sure! He's already stolen a few kisses and I can tell he's a sensual guy...I just hope he doesn't turn out to be a wacko... As for the guy who said be careful, he can beat me up....HA!! I have never been in that situation..and If a man ever laid his hands on me, my father and brother would be be racing to kill him before I could. . Link to post Share on other sites
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