David87 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Hei Discover ... Focus man. Look read this short story, some other user reminded me of it. While walking among her people, the Cicones, in tall grass at her wedding, Eurydice was set upon by a satyr. In her efforts to escape the satyr, Eurydice fell into a nest of vipers and suffered a fatal bite on her heel. Her body was discovered by Orpheus who, overcome with grief, played such sad and mournful songs that all the nymphs and gods wept. On their advice, Orpheus travelled to the underworld and by his music softened the hearts of Hades and Persephone (he was the only person ever to do so), who agreed to allow Eurydice to return with him to earth on one condition: he should walk in front of her and not look back until they both had reached the upper world. He set off with Eurydice following, and, in his anxiety, as soon as he reached the upper world, he turned to look at her, forgetting that both needed to be in the upper world, and she vanished for the second time, but now forever. Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I just...you are of help..i just..hurt so mich...sooo freaking much...my head started to hurt from crying...I have..he is going/went trought the same...unlike me he was with his ex for 3 years...we are kind of there for each other ..i just can't stop crying...and...i don't know...aaaaaaaaaaaaaa Discover listen I know its really hard. Trust me I have it too. Because its all so fresh. I know how hard it is. I understand. See please listen to me Take a deep breath Have a glass of water Go out for a walk or call a friend Do it please. I promise you will feel better. Do it for yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 DO NOT ABUSE ALCOHOL. It will only make the sadness worse. A drink or two is fine...but going out to get blitzed is not going to help you at all. It will slow your progress. Crying is fine, but do what I may have mentioned before (I forget if I did or not). Set apart 20 minutes each day for your tears. Set a time. 4-4:30pm. Let all your emotions build up throughout the day. When that time comes - let them loose. Let it all out. After that 20-30 minutes, you're done. Until the next time. Keep to that schedule. Soon enough, those 30 minutes will become 5-10 minutes and eventually you'll wonder why you waste your time with welling over her and the past. And that my friend, is when the healing begins. That's when you realize there is no point of crying over her. These things happen, it wasn't meant to be. But don't kid yourself. I'm sure there were bad times too, you're just too focused on the good to realize the bad. Write that list, over and over. Add to previous lists. Get those negative thoughts out and on paper. You'll start thinking rationally instead of emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Discover it's perfectly normal to feel this way because you loved her with all your heart, but now she doesn't feel that way about you anymore..... that's life, people fall out of love.... Cry till you don't have tears left , let it out your sistem. Then hang out with your buddies, have a drink ore two, it's gets much better trust me, I was just like you two months ago, read my thread and you will se . Hang in there buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
RDawg Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Yes, no alcohol abuse please! xUnknown is giving excellent advice with those negatives lists. Right now just cry it out, sounds like all you can do. Why worry about your Dad seeing you like this? He and your Mom should be comforting you. That's a nice bit of mythology David told for us. The female of the species has been a problem for us since forever. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 The female of the species has been a problem for us since forever. You said it brother. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 6, 2014 Author Share Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) Thank you..all of you...I am so greatful that you are here for me...Thank you... I am not much of a drinker I find no pleasure in it whatsoever..I drink from time to time just with my friends a little I guess..while having a conversation.. I will go to a lesson now..I have to...I will write here as soon as i get back...I will call my friend ask him how he is doing since he got a call from her yesterday and looked pretty sad today... xUnknown...about the thinking...I always think rationally..I just feel to much..even while I was crying I knew that all my toughts were blinded by my emotions and I truly remember the bad times..oh god..she pisses me off when I think about it for a second...I just...I am so hurt because you know that secret hope we all have that the one you love is actually your saving grace....I feel like crying but i stopped now..I feel a bit better...I just hate when this happens to me..because when i fall apart..it is horrible experience for my entire self... Thank you xUnknow! Thank you Bubbles! Thank you David87! Thank you RDawg! I am greatful that I happened to meet (even tough online) people like you who support others without a doubt and need of anything in return rather than happiness from the object (meaning me) ! Edit: I just don't want to worry my family, I know they are here for me, they just don't deserve to see me like that because they have done everything for me to be a happy boy who has manners and some intellectual level. I just don't want to hurt them! Edited February 6, 2014 by Discover 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I will call my friend ask him how he is doing since he got a call from her yesterday and looked pretty sad today I would advice you not to call your friend....part of you wants to ask about what she was calling your friend about, don't do that. No contact means no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Yes, no alcohol abuse please! xUnknown is giving excellent advice with those negatives lists. Right now just cry it out, sounds like all you can do. Why worry about your Dad seeing you like this? He and your Mom should be comforting you. That's a nice bit of mythology David told for us. The female of the species has been a problem for us since forever. Ahem! "Us?" Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Ahem! "Us?" lol, much like the men have been an issue for women... Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 It doesn't have something to do with gender:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 6, 2014 Author Share Posted February 6, 2014 I would advice you not to call your friend....part of you wants to ask about what she was calling your friend about, don't do that. No contact means no contact. xUnknow you missed the point..he got a call from his ex lady Right now I feel so stupid...came back from the lesson..managed to fight with my mother...i feel mega bad...annoyed..angry...but most of all lonely...i can't stop thinking about all the things i did for her and i feel so stupid...i tought that...whatever..i should shut up.. Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 (edited) xUnknow you missed the point..he got a call from his ex lady Right now I feel so stupid...came back from the lesson..managed to fight with my mother...i feel mega bad...annoyed..angry...but most of all lonely...i can't stop thinking about all the things i did for her and i feel so stupid...i tought that...whatever..i should shut up.. Ohh, i thought he got a call from YOUR ex. Keep focusing on that list man. Write out your thoughts. Start a journal. Edit: Read this post... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/459474-ex-breaking-nc#post5510646 Edited February 6, 2014 by xUnknown Link to post Share on other sites
Maziexoxo Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I am defo feeling the same! The worst time is when you are laying in bed at night and instead of looking over to them, kissing them and saying goodnight or hearing their voice over a phone, instead you think about them and it makes you feel lonely. It is a awful feeling and may nights I've cried over my ex at night. But It doesn't stay like this forever! There will be a point where you gradually feel less sad and lonely, and each day it will get easier. Just if you have split up and you do still love eachother- make it work!! If not then go full NC on them and you will get over them. Oh god! I should sooo listen to my own advice sometimes! I still speak to my ex everyday! But I hope that you will take on my advice and not be as foolish as me! Good Luck x Link to post Share on other sites
Saxonhook Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Hey, I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm now almost 3 months into my split I see my kids at least 3 times a week but that still not helping me. Last night I slept from 9pm till 11am but woke up 16 times each time due to a dream that in some way I had my ex fiancée back just to roll over and realise I'm still in my parents spare room. Today I even tried to get her back but was again kicked down with her saying her and her new guy were really close and I know her answers to us getting back together. I just don't get how someone can fall out of love within weeks of splitting up from a 9 yr relationship, a family and wedding plans. If it wasn't for my kids I would've just disappeared or done something stupid I know it ? Cheers for listening guys and all of u keep ur heads up x Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 xUnknow you missed the point..he got a call from his ex lady Right now I feel so stupid...came back from the lesson..managed to fight with my mother...i feel mega bad...annoyed..angry...but most of all lonely...i can't stop thinking about all the things i did for her and i feel so stupid...i tought that...whatever..i should shut up.. How are you feeling discover? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 How are you feeling discover? Oh, God Bubbles..today was so strange... I enter school and she is not there..i sit on my desk then one of my friends comes and sits next to me instantly..THANKS TO HIM...I didn't sit with her or talk or anything..she continued with the sad looks which made me feel like **** for her but then again..what can i do... The afternoon was amazing...went to a massage..i haven't felt so good in days...after that i went home and had a chat with my friends i invited over..and then it became AWESOME... I went to my practise and I found out that every single jump i make means i can actually dunk a basketball...I played one on one with one guy i destroyed him...and i am excited because it is not my main sport...I played volleyball and managed to hit the roof for the first time in my life of the hall we play in...I found out my old sport habits of being freaking inspired to PLAY...I wanted to tell her every thing and i miss her even now but decided to go to a friends house so i can talk with him and share so i don't do stupid things...Found the date of my competition between schools 23.02.2014..I hope i win..I want to..I have lost only once in four years so I hope the last loss was productive..My body is a mess however now..feels broken and tired but i feel inspired...And besides my cousin baby is here and she is absolutely amazingly cute so i am planning on spending time with her and laugh at her big,amazed by the world eyes.. I can't say that I don't miss her..ow hell no...i LOVE HER ...but I guess she doesn't love me..now i just have to push ahead and make sure i handle things...I just hate that i can't share all this with her..but I guess that's how life is now...I just feel guilty that I am allowing myself to be happy after the break up... How are you Bubbles? Eating? Sleeping? Def Leppard - Rocket - YouTube < that god damned song making me jam all day.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Oh, God Bubbles..today was so strange... I enter school and she is not there..i sit on my desk then one of my friends comes and sits next to me instantly..THANKS TO HIM...I didn't sit with her or talk or anything..she continued with the sad looks which made me feel like **** for her but then again..what can i do... The afternoon was amazing...went to a massage..i haven't felt so good in days...after that i went home and had a chat with my friends i invited over..and then it became AWESOME... I went to my practise and I found out that every single jump i make means i can actually dunk a basketball...I played one on one with one guy i destroyed him...and i am excited because it is not my main sport...I played volleyball and managed to hit the roof for the first time in my life of the hall we play in...I found out my old sport habits of being freaking inspired to PLAY...I wanted to tell her every thing and i miss her even now but decided to go to a friends house so i can talk with him and share so i don't do stupid things...Found the date of my competition between schools 23.02.2014..I hope i win..I want to..I have lost only once in four years so I hope the last loss was productive..My body is a mess however now..feels broken and tired but i feel inspired...And besides my cousin baby is here and she is absolutely amazingly cute so i am planning on spending time with her and laugh at her big,amazed by the world eyes.. I can't say that I don't miss her..ow hell no...i LOVE HER ...but I guess she doesn't love me..now i just have to push ahead and make sure i handle things...I just hate that i can't share all this with her..but I guess that's how life is now...I just feel guilty that I am allowing myself to be happy after the break up... How are you Bubbles? Eating? Sleeping? Def Leppard - Rocket - YouTube < that god damned song making me jam all day.. Dont feel guilty! Its a good thing to know you are keeping yourself busy I am so happy for you discover. Keep yourself occupied and you will be better soon. Just avoid her at school if possible , keep nc. You dont know i am so happy you are feeling okay after so long! Keep it up Take care of your health as well i know its hard but TRY! And meh, i am feeling okay just ups and downs. Today was adown though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 C'mon Bubbles..chat with me..if you want to that is..why is it a down? want to talk about it? To be honest when I think of my ex..I miss her so much it tears me apart...at the practise..surprisingly there were so many girls some of them really beautiful but i couldn't help but want to see her.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 Ok..I don't understand what I am doing wrong..Even this site hates me ;x... I just write down how I feel and my messages keep going to a moderator.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 C'mon Bubbles..chat with me..if you want to that is..why is it a down? want to talk about it? To be honest when I think of my ex..I miss her so much it tears me apart...at the practise..surprisingly there were so many girls some of them really beautiful but i couldn't help but want to see her.... Its just i dont know what I was thinking, I thought I could handle it and all so I texted him 2 days ago,"I hope w can be friends in future". And he never replied. I mean I broke NC after this long thinking I can handle it etc etc. I guess I over estimated myself. It was a down yesterday -.- And I know what you mean . But you wait and see with time you will finally meet someone who would make you forger your ex! Just hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Its just i dont know what I was thinking, I thought I could handle it and all so I texted him 2 days ago,"I hope w can be friends in future". And he never replied. I mean I broke NC after this long thinking I can handle it etc etc. I guess I over estimated myself. It was a down yesterday -.- And I know what you mean . But you wait and see with time you will finally meet someone who would make you forger your ex! Just hang in there. Same goes for you Bubbles! Make sure you take care of yourself and let this be a lesson to you, do not text,call or stalk him. Disappear from his life,isn't that what they all wanted? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Discover Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 ok..How long do I have to wait for my posts to appear? What am I doing wrong,can a moderator explain this to me, please! Bubbles, just a tought occured to me,after everything I had with her, it has to end in indifferents? This hurts me.. This song makes me want to fall in love again xax... Skillet Salvation Lyrics - YouTube 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Same goes for you Bubbles! Make sure you take care of yourself and let this be a lesson to you, do not text,call or stalk him. Disappear from his life,isn't that what they all wanted? Yea, thats what they want..I just dont know , its like I dont know him anymore. Ugh. I am just so frustrated at him. But I believe in karma. Link to post Share on other sites
bubblesbursted Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 ok..How long do I have to wait for my posts to appear? What am I doing wrong,can a moderator explain this to me, please! Bubbles, just a tought occured to me,after everything I had with her, it has to end in indifferents? This hurts me.. This song makes me want to fall in love again xax... Skillet Salvation Lyrics - YouTube You know what? I was beating myself around thinking the same thing. Its like we are suddenly strangers. God Thats the spirit Discover! You will fall in love with a much better person! Link to post Share on other sites
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