To give up or to keep trying?Lost confused!

[DarkDeath]

About three months ago my ex-g/f and I hit a rough spot in are relationship that neither I nor her could control. Her father took it into his hands to do everything to break us apart by all means it worked. We, meaning her and I got into an agrument right before we went on break well I just gave it time. Sent her a message a few days later saying I love her and I sorry that I didn't want to loose her because of what her father was doing. I got no reply but a phone call from her father he was scanning her emails telling me to leave his daughter alone. I get back to school and she ended it.

 

I figured with our current problem this was best as well and didn't do anything but say hey I'm sorry all wait the few months until you become 18. She told me I agree I think we need some time to ourselfs and need to learn more about each other again. She called it a fight to over come and there was nothing I could do because I already had her heart. I asked her to home coming in feb. I will go as friends but I told her thats cool but if your going to hold back your heart and you feelings I can't keep going on this I need to know that this is what you want truely. On new year eve we talked for nearly 6 hours about our relationship, recaping events, special moments, things that went bad and how we could fix it. She gave me I need time to heal, Just give me time mike for I need to heal theres not much you can do but stand by my side.

 

Soon after she started seeing a guy for about a few weeks. I dropped dead! It hurt like a stab in the back. I didn't know weather she was just playing it or something. We still were talking but on a small scale for I was trying to go out of the picture awhile for she said we should date someone to see if we truely feel this way.

 

About a few days ago I found out that she had red flaged a lot on this new guy, and wasn't going to date him. I don't know rather to start back getting to know her more, gain her trust back, relight a flame in heart. I just lost my grandfather a few days ago, when I seen her she knew something had happened and gave me a hug. Sat down with me and talked to me about it, just kind of hung out with me for a few hours.

 

We started out as friends grew into lovers. We were together for a year and half. When she said she need time to heal. It was time to heal from some mistakes at the begining of are relationship I was making until about six months into it as well as a home coming problem we had.

 

What do I do?

I still plan to take her to home coming is this a bad move?

What are my does and don'ts?

Ask me anything for I'm asking for your advice anything is welcome

[Zoot]

From her actions, I would assume she wants to date around and pinpoint on what she is looking for. The only thing you can really do is give her the space she asked for and respond as a friend when the situation arises. Trying to put yourself back into the picture after each of her dating errors - will only push her further away.

 

There is no guarantee she will chose to resume a relationship with you. At some point, you too, will have to make some decision as to whether you want to wait to see what she will do or move on yourself. There is no clear easy decisions im situations like this. You have to follow YOUR heart and respect HERS.

[DarkDeath]

Well I told her yesterday too get ahold of me if she would like to do something. She of course did a group of friends went an played pool she was checking me out kind of flirtish but not physically. I responded back but not with high in responses. Today her friend called and asked if i have some money to do something. I said sure what is she planning on doing? She said skating and that she would like to go as well. I was like cool call me later on about details. She can't call me and I can't call her for her dad is screening her phone calls as well.

 

My heart says you love her you've shared so much with her. Your trying to get over her, your hurting to cause your forcing yourself to. But at the same time I think why the heck am I doing this I don't want some of the stuff that is happening. I know soon after home coming I'm going to sit down and have a talk with her. I'm going to tell her the line ends here either this or that I can't keep living like this. But if she says she needs a few more months I might consider it based on what she says.

 

I don't really know what her heart says for the whole fact she might just be giving me false hope or it might really be the truth she's never lead me on in the past. I'm not sure if she is now all I know is she's coming around more and she's talking to me more. I haven't talked about our relationship for awhile. For all I know she could be trying to rebuild this and be one step ahead of me right now.