dreamingoftigers Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 You're going through your denial. You feel hurt and angry. You feel cheated. It's normal. It's nothing anyone here hasn't felt days after a break-up. I don't want you to think this is something out of the ordinary and that there is something wrong with you. I lashed out at one ex specifically after we broke up. Called him every name in the book. Even when he blocked me I found a way to get my words across to him. I wanted him to pay. I wanted him to feel hurt. I wanted to make him regret what he did to me. It's a reaction when you hear things like him moving on. HOW DARE HE MOVE ON? What about the pain and hurt I feel? Did he love me? How can he walk away so easily? All that becomes a bomb waiting to go off, especially when you hear them going on with life as if nothing ever happened. You called him an ass. Big deal. Calling him an ass pales in comparison to what his actions have done to you. When I told my husband about Bubble's ex he said "What an ass(****)." I don't think he meant that in an admiring way. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 When I told my husband about Bubble's ex he said "What an ass(****)." I don't think he meant that in an admiring way. :lmao: that is actually funny. of course he didnt mean it in a good way after all my ex is an assclown. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 To tell you something funny Iam thinking of him as a girl. I am seperating Nate (yea jerkface has a name) the guy i loved and im thinking right now the guy isnt a guy its a girl , hence im kind of feeling better and not missing the person he is now. confusing yea but its working. That's too funny. My conflict-avoidant ex was Nathan too. Please tell me you weren't dating a 36 year old 1
Chris715 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 :lmao: that is actually funny. of course he didnt mean it in a good way after all my ex is an assclown. There you go. Think of all the things that made him an ass (let's be real, there's probably plenty) and rip him off of that pedestal that we all tend to build up 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 That's too funny. My conflict-avoidant ex was Nathan too. Please tell me you weren't dating a 36 year old Heh nope! He was 22. But I think all Nates are similar? He is a girl now so no attraction that way anymore
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 There you go. Think of all the things that made him an ass (let's be real, there's probably plenty) and rip him off of that pedestal that we all tend to build up Chris, believe me he is an assclown. blocked-unblocked -blocked -unblocked God so annoying! I can list a 100 things right now that make him an ass. let me just count them 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything 2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month? 3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong. 4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me 5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf? 6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind. 7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing. I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness 2
BC1980 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything 2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month? 3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong. 4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me 5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf? 6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind. 7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing. I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness My ex did one thing in particular that was a shytt move. Of course, I forgave him, and he basically did the same thing again. Why do we think we are so low as to stay with someone like that? So many people, myself included, end up happy that anyone is giving them the time of day, so they accept crap behavior. Bubbles, you are worthy on your own. It might take awhile to recover and believe that, but you will get there. 3
Zahara Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything 2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month? 3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong. 4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me 5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf? 6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind. 7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing. I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness But didn't you say any woman would be lucky to have him because he was perfect? See how your emotions can cloud the reality of the who and what. He's just a guy. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 But didn't you say any woman would be lucky to have him because he was perfect? See how your emotions can cloud the reality of the who and what. He's just a guy. I remember He wasnt perfect I guess. I feel so much better now Zahara , thats good right? Or one of the phases of grieving ? 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 My ex did one thing in particular that was a shytt move. Of course, I forgave him, and he basically did the same thing again. Why do we think we are so low as to stay with someone like that? So many people, myself included, end up happy that anyone is giving them the time of day, so they accept crap behavior. Bubbles, you are worthy on your own. It might take awhile to recover and believe that, but you will get there. You know this line speaks to me! You are exactly right. It will take time but we all will make through it 1
Zahara Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I remember He wasnt perfect I guess. I feel so much better now Zahara , thats good right? Or one of the phases of grieving ? No one is perfect. It's normal to idealize and romanticize an ex even when the majority of the relationship was crap. The good thing is that you are seeing through the fog. It's good that you are feeling better but you will go up and down. Today you may feel good, tomorrow you may feel bad. There may be days that go by and you're on top of the world and then suddenly you're feeling bad again. Also, very normal. Expect the highs and lows. But as time goes, the lows will be few and far between and as you detach you'll have more and more better days. For now, if you go from good to bad through the days, it's just you going through the process of grieving and healing. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 No one is perfect. It's normal to idealize and romanticize an ex even when the majority of the relationship was crap. The good thing is that you are seeing through the fog. It's good that you are feeling better but you will go up and down. Today you may feel good, tomorrow you may feel bad. There may be days that go by and you're on top of the world and then suddenly you're feeling bad again. Also, very normal. Expect the highs and lows. But as time goes, the lows will be few and far between and as you detach you'll have more and more better days. For now, if you go from good to bad through the days, it's just you going through the process of grieving and healing. So my emotions are playing a game with me?
Zahara Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 So my emotions are playing a game with me? It's not a game. It's the natural process of grieving and healing. There will be good days and bad days at first. We've all been through it. It all doesn't get fixed in a few days. You have to understand you were in long term relationship and not to minimize whether years have a more profound effect than a month long relationship, healing doesn't happen overnight. There are days you will feel strong and hopeful, but be prepared as there will be days when you feel let down and sad. 2
Chris715 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything 2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month? 3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong. 4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me 5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf? 6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind. 7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing. I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness Sounds like he didn't appreciate you and realize how good he had it. Definitely doesn't deserve you, time to move on 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Please anyone...just talk to me. I am not feeling good. anyone plz
Author bubblesbursted Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 How are you doing? thank you for replying. and no. I dont think so. i woke up feeling like ****. Had a dream about him. Was crying and threw up. it was a week ago he dumped me. I cant. Too many emotions. I cant deal with it.
JDPT Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 You are having a weak moment that's essentially all it is. Internalize the fact that as you are already experiencing everything and anything can trigger throughts and memories to resurface. Be gentle on yourself, and reroute your thoughts to the now. Understand that you are this stand alone you until that must fend for yourself. 3
BC1980 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 You have to power through the first weeks. I don't even know how I got through it. If possible, try to work on a project or something to distract you. Do anything. It's normal to break down like this. You are allowed to at this point. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Hey Sweetheart. Sorry there's been more upset for you. It should start settling slightly soon. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Hey Sweetheart. Sorry there's been more upset for you. It should start settling slightly soon. I look for your posts as soon as I get upset! Urs and Zahara's. I dont know it makes me smile and laugh. It has been too down. Today was bad since it was a week back it happened. Exactly a week back.. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 You have to power through the first weeks. I don't even know how I got through it. If possible, try to work on a project or something to distract you. Do anything. It's normal to break down like this. You are allowed to at this point. Today all I wanted to do was crawl in my bed and cry. Until one of my friends dragged me out to have Pizza. I couldnt even walk , until she forced me to eat. Now I feel sick to my stomach. And to top it, I went on facebook (big mistake) and saw his pictures (mutual friends tagged and posts since he has removed me? Idk) on my news feed. He is posting all happy things and posting something like "how I miss the old days S (his best friend-a girl)" , "How I miss eating pizza with you, it isnt the same with you" . I mean its like he is rubbing on my face. He always had pizzas together and he used to love it. It hurt.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Today all I wanted to do was crawl in my bed and cry. Until one of my friends dragged me out to have Pizza. I couldnt even walk , until she forced me to eat. Now I feel sick to my stomach. And to top it, I went on facebook (big mistake) and saw his pictures (mutual friends tagged and posts since he has removed me? Idk) on my news feed. He is posting all happy things and posting something like "how I miss the old days S (his best friend-a girl)" , "How I miss eating pizza with you, it isnt the same with you" . I mean its like he is rubbing on my face. He always had pizzas together and he used to love it. It hurt. Really tell your mutual friends that you don't want to hear About it AT ALL. That you don't want any trace of him showing up in your feed etc. Even go so far as to say that you don't want there to be any doubt that you are over your ex and 100% single to any suitable candidate that wants to date you. Don't date yet or anything. Just clear the board. 3
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