Emotional Breakdown , Vent.

[dreamingoftigers]

You're going through your denial. You feel hurt and angry. You feel cheated. It's normal. It's nothing anyone here hasn't felt days after a break-up. I don't want you to think this is something out of the ordinary and that there is something wrong with you.

 

I lashed out at one ex specifically after we broke up. Called him every name in the book. Even when he blocked me I found a way to get my words across to him. I wanted him to pay. I wanted him to feel hurt. I wanted to make him regret what he did to me. It's a reaction when you hear things like him moving on. HOW DARE HE MOVE ON? What about the pain and hurt I feel? Did he love me? How can he walk away so easily? All that becomes a bomb waiting to go off, especially when you hear them going on with life as if nothing ever happened.

 

You called him an ass. Big deal. Calling him an ass pales in comparison to what his actions have done to you.

When I told my husband about Bubble's ex he said "What an ass(****)."

 

I don't think he meant that in an admiring way.

[bubblesbursted]

When I told my husband about Bubble's ex he said "What an ass(****)."

 

I don't think he meant that in an admiring way.

 

:lmao: that is actually funny.

of course he didnt mean it in a good way after all my ex is an assclown.

[dreamingoftigers]

To tell you something funny

 

Iam thinking of him as a girl. I am seperating Nate (yea jerkface has a name) the guy i loved and im thinking right now the guy isnt a guy its a girl , hence im kind of feeling better and not missing the person he is now.

 

confusing yea but its working.

 

That's too funny.

My conflict-avoidant ex was Nathan too.

 

Please tell me you weren't dating a 36 year old

[Chris715]

:lmao: that is actually funny.

of course he didnt mean it in a good way after all my ex is an assclown.

There you go. Think of all the things that made him an ass (let's be real, there's probably plenty) and rip him off of that pedestal that we all tend to build up

[bubblesbursted]

That's too funny.

My conflict-avoidant ex was Nathan too.

 

Please tell me you weren't dating a 36 year old

 

Heh nope! He was 22. But I think all Nates are similar?

 

He is a girl now so no attraction that way anymore

[bubblesbursted]

There you go. Think of all the things that made him an ass (let's be real, there's probably plenty) and rip him off of that pedestal that we all tend to build up

 

Chris, believe me he is an assclown.

 

blocked-unblocked -blocked -unblocked

 

God so annoying! I can list a 100 things right now that make him an ass. let me just count them

[bubblesbursted]

1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything

 

2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month?

 

3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong.

 

4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me

 

5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf?

 

6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind.

 

7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing.

 

I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness

[BC1980]

1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything

 

2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month?

 

3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong.

 

4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me

 

5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf?

 

6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind.

 

7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing.

 

I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness

 

My ex did one thing in particular that was a shytt move. Of course, I forgave him, and he basically did the same thing again. Why do we think we are so low as to stay with someone like that? So many people, myself included, end up happy that anyone is giving them the time of day, so they accept crap behavior. Bubbles, you are worthy on your own. It might take awhile to recover and believe that, but you will get there.

[Zahara]

1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything

 

2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month?

 

3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong.

 

4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me

 

5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf?

 

6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind.

 

7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing.

 

I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness

 

But didn't you say any woman would be lucky to have him because he was perfect? See how your emotions can cloud the reality of the who and what. He's just a guy.

[bubblesbursted]

But didn't you say any woman would be lucky to have him because he was perfect? See how your emotions can cloud the reality of the who and what. He's just a guy.

 

I remember He wasnt perfect I guess. I feel so much better now Zahara , thats good right? Or one of the phases of grieving ?

[bubblesbursted]

My ex did one thing in particular that was a shytt move. Of course, I forgave him, and he basically did the same thing again. Why do we think we are so low as to stay with someone like that? So many people, myself included, end up happy that anyone is giving them the time of day, so they accept crap behavior. Bubbles, you are worthy on your own. It might take awhile to recover and believe that, but you will get there.

 

You know this line speaks to me! You are exactly right. It will take time but we all will make through it

[Zahara]

I remember He wasnt perfect I guess. I feel so much better now Zahara , thats good right? Or one of the phases of grieving ?

 

No one is perfect. It's normal to idealize and romanticize an ex even when the majority of the relationship was crap. The good thing is that you are seeing through the fog.

 

It's good that you are feeling better but you will go up and down. Today you may feel good, tomorrow you may feel bad. There may be days that go by and you're on top of the world and then suddenly you're feeling bad again. Also, very normal. Expect the highs and lows. But as time goes, the lows will be few and far between and as you detach you'll have more and more better days. For now, if you go from good to bad through the days, it's just you going through the process of grieving and healing.

[bubblesbursted]

No one is perfect. It's normal to idealize and romanticize an ex even when the majority of the relationship was crap. The good thing is that you are seeing through the fog.

 

It's good that you are feeling better but you will go up and down. Today you may feel good, tomorrow you may feel bad. There may be days that go by and you're on top of the world and then suddenly you're feeling bad again. Also, very normal. Expect the highs and lows. But as time goes, the lows will be few and far between and as you detach you'll have more and more better days. For now, if you go from good to bad through the days, it's just you going through the process of grieving and healing.

 

So my emotions are playing a game with me?

[Zahara]

So my emotions are playing a game with me?

 

It's not a game. It's the natural process of grieving and healing. There will be good days and bad days at first. We've all been through it. It all doesn't get fixed in a few days. You have to understand you were in long term relationship and not to minimize whether years have a more profound effect than a month long relationship, healing doesn't happen overnight.

 

There are days you will feel strong and hopeful, but be prepared as there will be days when you feel let down and sad.

[Chris715]

1. Always keeping me hanging never texting me once to tell hebis cancelling or anything

 

2. never made me feel special, no sweet gestures. Hell i got my first rose from him last month?

 

3. Getting defensive when told what hebdid was wrong.

 

4. Asking for a time that he would meet me at? And him getting mad at me feeling like he was reporting to me

 

5. Always complaining how i dont get ready like normal girls and dont do so much make up? like wtf?

 

6. He even went to a length to say "i will always pick me before you" when we were together? god i waa blind.

 

7. Never got spoilt by him. Infact it was me getting him stuff, trying to be friends with his friends and what did i get? nothing.

 

I can go on and on and i dont claim to be perfect either. But screw kindness

 

Sounds like he didn't appreciate you and realize how good he had it. Definitely doesn't deserve you, time to move on

[bubblesbursted]

Please anyone...just talk to me.

 

I am not feeling good. anyone plz

[bubblesbursted]

Please anyone..

[JDPT]

How are you doing?

[bubblesbursted]

How are you doing?

 

thank you for replying. and no. I dont think so. i woke up feeling like ****. Had a dream about him. Was crying and threw up. it was a week ago he dumped me. I cant. Too many emotions. I cant deal with it.

[JDPT]

You are having a weak moment that's essentially all it is. Internalize the fact that as you are already experiencing everything and anything can trigger throughts and memories to resurface. Be gentle on yourself, and reroute your thoughts to the now. Understand that you are this stand alone you until that must fend for yourself.

[BC1980]

You have to power through the first weeks. I don't even know how I got through it. If possible, try to work on a project or something to distract you. Do anything. It's normal to break down like this. You are allowed to at this point.

[dreamingoftigers]

Hey Sweetheart.

 

Sorry there's been more upset for you.

 

It should start settling slightly soon.

[bubblesbursted]

Hey Sweetheart.

 

Sorry there's been more upset for you.

 

It should start settling slightly soon.

 

I look for your posts as soon as I get upset! Urs and Zahara's. I dont know it makes me smile and laugh.

 

It has been too down. Today was bad since it was a week back it happened. Exactly a week back..

[bubblesbursted]

You have to power through the first weeks. I don't even know how I got through it. If possible, try to work on a project or something to distract you. Do anything. It's normal to break down like this. You are allowed to at this point.

 

Today all I wanted to do was crawl in my bed and cry. Until one of my friends dragged me out to have Pizza. I couldnt even walk , until she forced me to eat. Now I feel sick to my stomach. And to top it, I went on facebook (big mistake) and saw his pictures (mutual friends tagged and posts since he has removed me? Idk) on my news feed. He is posting all happy things and posting something like "how I miss the old days S (his best friend-a girl)" , "How I miss eating pizza with you, it isnt the same with you" . I mean its like he is rubbing on my face. He always had pizzas together and he used to love it. It hurt.

[dreamingoftigers]

Today all I wanted to do was crawl in my bed and cry. Until one of my friends dragged me out to have Pizza. I couldnt even walk , until she forced me to eat. Now I feel sick to my stomach. And to top it, I went on facebook (big mistake) and saw his pictures (mutual friends tagged and posts since he has removed me? Idk) on my news feed. He is posting all happy things and posting something like "how I miss the old days S (his best friend-a girl)" , "How I miss eating pizza with you, it isnt the same with you" . I mean its like he is rubbing on my face. He always had pizzas together and he used to love it. It hurt.

 

Really tell your mutual friends that you don't want to hear About it AT ALL.

 

That you don't want any trace of him showing up in your feed etc.

 

Even go so far as to say that you don't want there to be any doubt that you are over your ex and 100% single to any suitable candidate that wants to date you.

 

Don't date yet or anything. Just clear the board.