PreciousOne Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Every time I get the strength and try to go no contact he always pushes himself back through. This time he cried saying he cant live without me and begged me to take him back or at least talk to him. Its just so hard to do because I have these feelings for him and I couldn't stand seeing him breakdown like that. Yes he has broke me down may time in the past but it seems as if my feelings for how this relationship has me feeling have just gone numb. I feel empathy for him but I know that it shouldn't be that way. I don't know what to do its as if part of me has accepted this as my future but the sensible side doesn't want to. I am having a tug of war within myself and I don't know wtf is going on I don't want to be a OW forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Kalee35 Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 The song Gravity by Sara Bareilles came to mind reading your post. The guy keeps coming back and it's so hard to say no. I'm sorry for what you are going through. You just eventually have to make a decision if this is what you want for the rest of your life. You deserve so much more in my opinion. Hugs to you sweetheart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PreciousOne Posted January 31, 2014 Author Share Posted January 31, 2014 Thanks for your words of kindness. Link to post Share on other sites
Kalee35 Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 You're welcome Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoaster Rider Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 It's called manipulation... he knows if he cries and carries on you will feel bad and cone back to him. Played that game so many times I lost count. Don't feel bad, just walk away like you originally intended. Do it now, before he decides he doesn't want you anymore and you really feel like **** because you took him back so many times..I lived it. Good luck :-) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
vanellope Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 these MMs know very well that if they divorce, then we will be together with them. I don't believe they don't understand this simple rule. They just don't want to divorce and choose to build the real life with us, they do cry and bag instead to get our attention, caring, love and sex. don't hurt yourself again, you deserve better. they are poor guy. Link to post Share on other sites
vanellope Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 (edited) this married man bag me and crying to ask me back when I told him I can't live on this life and stress anymore. after a week he throw me under the bus when his wife saw our mails. Edited January 31, 2014 by vanellope Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 Every time I get the strength and try to go no contact he always pushes himself back through. This time he cried saying he cant live without me and begged me to take him back or at least talk to him. Its just so hard to do because I have these feelings for him and I couldn't stand seeing him breakdown like that. Yes he has broke me down may time in the past but it seems as if my feelings for how this relationship has me feeling have just gone numb. I feel empathy for him but I know that it shouldn't be that way. I don't know what to do its as if part of me has accepted this as my future but the sensible side doesn't want to. I am having a tug of war within myself and I don't know wtf is going on I don't want to be a OW forever. When you are so sick and tired of being the OW and all that it brings into your life in a bad way, settling for less and less as time goes on, when you hit your enough is enough stage, you'll find the strength inside of you to end it once and for all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
proseandpassion Posted January 31, 2014 Share Posted January 31, 2014 yeah, just remember, the minute DDay happens, you're gone. Poof. I have told my MM this many times. He insists THAT WON'T HAPPEN, but I am no fool. I have also been involved with other unavailable men (one guy I was deeply in love with was still living with the mother of his child, but they weren't together)--and trust me, the single person gets left alone most of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PreciousOne Posted February 1, 2014 Author Share Posted February 1, 2014 I am absolutely certain that he would at least for a little while drop me so to speak. A few years ago she caught us and I guess he lied his way out of it and he stayed away for like two or three days and then afterwards it was as if nothing had happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PreciousOne Posted February 1, 2014 Author Share Posted February 1, 2014 this married man bag me and crying to ask me back when I told him I can't live on this life and stress anymore. after a week he throw me under the bus when his wife saw our mails. This is kind of an reaction I would like I feel that getting angry would help me out tremendously and I know I should be mad at him but at the same time he's not doing anything but what I'm allowing him to do. If I could get over on someone I probably would, well in a situation like this. Good luck with you and your situation though. Thanks for your response. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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