When LDR partner fall ill/sick, what can you do ?

[blackandwhite123]

Hi guys,

 

Just being curious about this topic. What will you do when they fall sick/ill ? You cant physically be there and take care of him/her. I know a surprise visit is the best solution, but other than that what can you do ? Feel free to share your experience and ideas.

[TaraMaiden]

Nothing....

 

To clarify:

It depends on the severity of the sickness/illness.... If someone contracts a nasty head-cold, let them heal on their own. Risking the exchange of harmful bacteria isn't really doing anyone a favour...

 

If on the other hand, the person has been exposed to something life-threatening, a bedside visit (condition allowing) is a great and natural thing to do.

[justwhoiam]

What will you do when they fall sick/ill ?

Please define the severity of the sickness/illness.

If it's a cold, I just try to be understanding, helping and caring even from abroad.

If it's a (deep) depression, I go out of my way, being there for him any time of day or night, comforting him, supporting him, being positive, etc.

Should it be a life-threatening condition, almost dying, I guess I'd take the first plane and go there. It didn't happen yet. I hope that moment never comes...

[Itspointless]

Should it be a life-threatening condition, almost dying, I guess I'd take the first plane and go there. It didn't happen yet. I hope that moment never comes...

It did happen to me. Hence my presence on this forum. Not long after we started she became ill again. I guess it is not life-threatening, but it is serious. She left me no room for a choice on my own, she has cut me out of her life. I actually just started a thread in the coping section about dumpers who dump you because of medical issues.

[justwhoiam]

about dumpers who dump you because of medical issues.

Or medical issue excuses. That is quite a pattern among catfish, and people you've never really met and claiming to be who they are not. Soon or later, they need to end it somehow.

[Itspointless]

Or medical issue excuses. That is quite a pattern among catfish, and people you've never really met and claiming to be who they are not. Soon or later, they need to end it somehow.

Yes that happens. Here it actually is true. I dont know if the never having met part was directed to me, we had a physical and real relation. Or where you just reacting to the thread I mentioned? In that case, yes that could be quite an extension.

Edited February 4, 2014 by Itspointless

[justwhoiam]

Yes that happens. Here it actually is true. I dont know if the never having met part was directed to me, we had a physical and real relation. Or where you just reacting to the thread I mentioned? In that case, yes that could be quite an extension.

I'm not sure if it can apply to your case, but usually there are several threads every month in this forum regarding this (fake medical issues). If you've never met, chances are it applies to your story too.

[Itspointless]

I'm not sure if it can apply to your case, but usually there are several threads every month in this forum regarding this (fake medical issues). If you've never met, chances are it applies to your story too.

I can imagine. I almost wish it had been fake. It was also a bit more complicated then written here. If i had never met her and it wouldn't have reached a certain stage I wouldn't have called it a relation. I do see that some people here do. Anyway, I hope you guys never have to deal with it.