in the dog house?

[Lady2163]

I guess I just don't understand this. (although I did have 3 d-days so obviously we weren't good at hiding things)

But to be so worried that you check his car everytime you get out for a stray hair. Don't wear make up so it wont smear Never show up with lip gloss on

 

One of the very few things we worried about was that every now and then I left marks on his body.

 

But oils and soaps and makeup and stray hairs, never thought about that.

 

Well, I'm not trying to brag, I have a sad history of being the OW. I was seduced by a 35 year old when I was 16 (and had the maturity of probably today's 12 year olds) and i did manage to keep my affairs secret (they were done while we were separated) so over the years, I've learned what works.

 

I did have a 17 year break of being the OW.

 

But I want no ddays, none. Good, God...3?

Never do I leave marks on him. There's a lot of gripping of sheets rather than him.

[IfWishesWereHorses]

People who aren't risk takers, don't take risks. Period.

[Got it]

Because: what's it got to do with me? I care about how he treats me.

 

 

 

We're good. Thank you.

 

Because it does. If he/she does X, then it will impact you because of Y. If he is in the dog house, then it will have X impact on you. . .

 

All of it is interconnected. Do you not see that? Your hypothesizing shows that it is interconnected even in your head. I don't see it as anything about how good you guys or not, that is something else.

[Got it]

Lil,

 

Really?! You're "good" yet almost daily you make posts guessing about his behavior.

 

As I said, and as everyone else seems to notice, this relationships seems to be very different in your eyes and his, you always seem like you're on the outside looking in and that you don't know him and what's going on any better than anonymous people online. Even in what you say to us about this "relationship" and what you then make threads about is contradictory.

 

If you're good and you "leave it alone" why all the threads dissecting cryptic actions??? If you leave it alone stop obsessively asking us about it, or you can admit you obsessively think about it and then just ask him...and clearly since you cannot ask him, you should wonder what kind of relationship that is where every time you want to know something about "your man" you have to ask people on the internet or sleuth around online.

 

Sorry but I wanted to highlight this again. This is what I was trying to say.

 

I am not saying you should leave. I am saying you are being disingenuous with yourself like MB is saying above. Your words are contradictory with each other. It's fine that you guys are at an arm's length with each other but then don't spend so much time trying to guess what is going on or what makes him tick. We can't answer these things for you. We are guessing even more than you. Only he can answer these questions, musings, or hypotheses.