kart180 Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 I have news for you, my friend. Yes, David Beckham is a nice looking man, but not all women want a "David Beckham". Don't compare yourself to someone like him, just be the best YOU that you can be, and be confident in yourself & what you have to offer. Take a chance, walk up to a woman & say hello. If you don't try, and keep trying, you're just missing out on opportunities. Most women aren't going to approach you if you look closed off, or uncomfortable in your surroundings. Relax & try, don't be afraid of failing. Really really a heartfelt thanks, I'm just a a guy who not really into dating so as u said I need to get out there and try. To be honest, every time I see one of those bloody match.com ads, I really just want to kill myself. I adore Beckham because he is a great father and just a great footballer. Did u see last nights late night with jimmy Fallon and . I also admire jonny lee miller from cbs elementry. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 OP - I don't think you necessarily need someone who "gets" you, but rather someone that "accepts" you. Someone that is open-minded and understanding of differences in opinion. When I was actively dating, I would have dates give me an absolutely disgusted and ridiculous look when I told them my favorite music group. It was absolutely off putting. My guy now absolutely HATES most of the people on my iPod playlist and listens to a lot of rock bands that I've never even heard of. But still, he will sit and listen while I spin my playlist and sing loudly and just laugh and tell me how cute I am. Even though I don't get his music AT ALL, I will tell him to turn it up! These kinds of relationships can be hard to find, but I think if you look at other aspects in their life and listen to them express views on different topics, then it will reveal what kind of partner they may be for you. This not right, your man should embrace diffent style of music. I personally love rock music and pop music but now do like country after the Florida Gergeioa line song. Link to post Share on other sites
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 This not right, your man should embrace diffent style of music. I personally love rock music and pop music but now do like country after the Florida Gergeioa line song. This is not right?? Why not? Everyone has their own personal preferences. Rock is his preference, but he will listen to a variety. What he doesn't like is mostly mainstream music you see on the Billboard Top 100. He likes artists that write and compose their own music and play instruments. My point is that he will listen to this music if I am enjoying it, and doesn't think any less of me because of it. THAT is how it should be. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted February 1, 2014 Share Posted February 1, 2014 As a shy, slightly nerdy guy who has never been in anything close to a real relationship i jsut have to keep on hoping and believing that there is someone out there who truly 'gets me' and i look forward to that day. i constantly see it happen around me with friends and family but never for me And yes approaching people can be very hard, especially if like me self-confidence isn't exactly a strong point. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 This is not right?? Why not? Everyone has their own personal preferences. Rock is his preference, but he will listen to a variety. What he doesn't like is mostly mainstream music you see on the Billboard Top 100. He likes artists that write and compose their own music and play instruments. My point is that he will listen to this music if I am enjoying it, and doesn't think any less of me because of it. THAT is how it should be. :yes agreed Link to post Share on other sites
WordvAction Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Read this when very tired and thought it said "Finding someone who gets my jokes" lol. But yeah, there's a ton of people and only a few that you will connect with on every level. Search and ye shall find, or not find but still find other really cool stuff in the process 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nebulae Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 I think it would be really difficult, impossible even, to find someone that understands you and relates to you about everything in life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 I think it would be really difficult, impossible even, to find someone that understands you and relates to you about everything in life. Yes, impossible to find someone who relates to you about everything. Difficult, but not impossible, to find someone who relates to you about everything that matters to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Here's hoping. Though my shy introverted self doesn't seem to be getting approached that much, but on the other hand, I often forget things like, "look up." "Smile." etc. Over here where I am, looking up and smiling at the few women that make any eye contact, often have a shocked look when seeing me smile at them. It's automatically assumed that I'm some wacko. True story. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Salvatore85 Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Because people actively search for someone who "gets" them. Human beings have taken the easiest thing ever(dating) and turned it into one major cluster eff. Seriously it's not that hard, find someone who you enjoy being around regardless of what you have in common and just have fun. We've created far too many hoops for a suspecting partner to jump through when in reality the only thing that should matter is how the other person makes you feel, not what they can do for you or provide you with. You need to be this height, this shape, this rich, this educated blah blah blah. For Christ sakes just have fun, quit worrying about someone's résumé when dating or we will end up continuing this trend of ridiculously high divorce rates and be just a bunch of unhappy people spending our lives with someone who checks off marks on a list instead of actually making you happy. And Anya this wasn't exactly directed at you because I don't feel you're being unreasonable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 I'd rather someone who really *wants* to get me, even if we are worlds apart. I'm too weird to "be getted" anyways. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Here's hoping. Though my shy introverted self doesn't seem to be getting approached that much, but on the other hand, I often forget things like, "look up." "Smile." etc. That's sweet, and a lot better than "stop being sarcastic or acting indifferent towards the man you like!" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Quite shy but so friendly. Just need to get out there and try to be nice. However she think I can her best mate instead of her BF. I would a women who is likes British and like David Beckham. He is just great guy Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Over here where I am, looking up and smiling at the few women that make any eye contact, often have a shocked look when seeing me smile at them. It's automatically assumed that I'm some wacko. True story. Just like checking someone out, there is an art to smiling at a woman without coming across as Hannibal Lecter. I find a lot of my fellow men have a problem with this art Your eyes doesn't need to be planted on a woman whilst checking her out, and your "smile" should be subtle without your teeth on display 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I'd rather someone who really *wants* to get me, even if we are worlds apart. I'm too weird to "be getted" anyways. Oh my kooky Scorpio. There's nothing weird about a Greek-nosed, husky-voiced, French-speaking lady. Besides, what you'd consider weird, I'd consider unique and alluring about you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Oh my kooky Scorpio. There's nothing weird about a Greek-nosed, husky-voiced, French-speaking lady. Besides, what you'd consider weird, I'd consider unique and alluring about you. Oh, you honorable Pisces warrior. You are so kind to overlook my horrible accent in french, which -alas!- comes from the same place as my nose. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 It's very important to me that the women I date song smoke, dip or use any tobacco products. She should also be sober or drink socially such as wine . That's my only delabreakers Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Someone who gets me would have to put up with my reclaimed vanity. And dizzying array of jeans and trainers. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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