Marge Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Is getting blown cheating? Note if you are m or f I want to know everybodys thoughts on this and how men feel versus women. My man says its nothing- like shaking hands. Thanks. Marge Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Marge My man says its nothing- like shaking hands. Given the source and how you've described this guy in your posts, that's not surprising. Oral sex = sex. Period. Its cheating if you do it outside of a monogamous relationship with someone. For him, its not cheating because in his mind - he has diminished it to the point where it is too meaningless to consider 'cheating'. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I am a female and I think it is cheating.... Like shaking hands ewww, that's a little out there! Do you think it is approiprate for people to blow your man??? How would he like it if guys went down on you?? ( can't get over shaking hands) "Hello my name is Stone nice to meet you now get on your knees BIOTCH!" HAHAHA Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I don't understand why you keep starting threads on this (basically the same) topic, yes oral sex=sex no it's not "okay" that your "MM" is getting oral sex from yet "another" "OW" (not you, and not his wife). In most (I'd hope) opinions it isn't right and you shouldn't put up with it! BUT if you WANT to go ahead and deal with it and allow him to treat you this way (since you can't CHANGE him but you can LEAVE him) then, yes for your world it's "okay" Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 getting blown is cheating.. i consider just making out cheating.. even a kiss on the lips. If its on the cheek from a friend its ok but any kiss on the lips to me is cheating. but making out or fuc|<ing someone is the same to me. CHEATING.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Yes. Even if you don't inhale. Link to post Share on other sites
Fritz Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Mustard Bomb Yes. Even if you don't inhale. That depends on what your definition of is, is . Yes, getting blown is cheating. If it was like shaking hands, well I'm willing to bet a lot more people would be happier in this world (more std's too though). 'Hi, are you here for a package tour or would you just like a blow job?" "Nice to meet you, mind if I go down on you?" Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I have orgasmed from strange things before, but never from a hand shake. YES, hello its cheating. I am a female. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 i'm male: yes, having your penis in another person's oral cavity is cheating cause it is defined as sexual activity. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Female. Yes it is CHEATING!!! My man says its nothing- like shaking hands. OK LOL! So what would he say if a guy went down on you...What would his 'expression' be then? Would it still be considered "shaking hands and nothing?" I bet you he would do a 180 and say ohhh, but that is different! Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I wish I had thought of that "it's just like shaking hands" line. Social functions would be so much more interesting. Just imagine the receiving line at a wedding. Instead of kissing the bride on the cheek she goes down and takes a load. Simple solution Marge. Nest time you and this doofus are out somewhere, and you meet a guy he knows, when he sticks out his hand to introduce himself to you, go down on him and tell your guy you are just shaking hands. I guarantee he changes his tune reeeaaaaal quick. Oh yeah, Male here. Link to post Share on other sites
RowanRavyn Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Devildog I wish I had thought of that "it's just like shaking hands" line. Social functions would be so much more interesting. Just imagine the receiving line at a wedding. Instead of kissing the bride on the cheek she goes down and takes a load. Simple solution Marge. Nest time you and this doofus are out somewhere, and you meet a guy he knows, when he sticks out his hand to introduce himself to you, go down on him and tell your guy you are just shaking hands. I guarantee he changes his tune reeeaaaaal quick. Oh yeah, Male here. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Devildog Simple solution Marge. Nest time you and this doofus are out somewhere, and you meet a guy he knows, when he sticks out his hand to introduce himself to you, go down on him and tell your guy you are just shaking hands. Right....and MARGE you should let his friend ejaculate in your mouth, HA AH HAH HA AHAHA HHA AH HA AHAHA HAHH A Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by RowanRavyn I have orgasmed from strange things before, but never from a hand shake. YES, hello its cheating. I am a female. LOL! We may need to explore these other 'strange things' in another thread! Yes, its cheating. Can you get an STD from oral? Yes? Well then since STD is SEXUALLY transmitted disease then it's sex and if you consider sex with someone other than your SO cheating, oral is cheating. Now, if he feels its no different than a handshake, tell him you would like to get some 'shakes' from some of his friends just to be polite, and to see if they have a, uh, firmer grip than him! Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Marge Is getting blown cheating? Note if you are m or f I want to know everybodys thoughts on this and how men feel versus women. My man says its nothing- like shaking hands. I agree with Alphamale. I consider that cheating for the same reason. I agree with Mixwell as well. Making out, a kiss on the lips. (wonder if your boyfriend considers that cheating?) A kiss on the cheek and a hug is okay. That's more of a polite way of greeting people that you have known for a long time so that's more acceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Female here. A blowjob *is* cheating (either giving one or receiving one) To be fair, giving or receiving a cunnilingus is also cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
very-confused-girl Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Im female. Yes, its definitely cheating! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 I wish I had thought of that "it's just like shaking hands" line. Social functions would be so much more interesting. Just imagine the receiving line at a wedding. Instead of kissing the bride on the cheek she goes down and takes a load. Could you imagine the photo album?? HEhehehehehehe!! NOW that's funny!! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Marge, have you ever found ONE SINGLE PERSON other than your "bf" who thinks that oral sex is just like a handshake? I mean, heck, even Bill Clinton didn't make that idiotic claim. I'm female, and I am quite certain that of all the 1000 people in my Rolodex, 997 of them would agree with the consensus here. Isn't it funny? You probably were able to THINK and USE YOUR HEAD before you got tangled up with that loser/user you call your bf. And he's taken even that away from you... Link to post Share on other sites
Chris_T. Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 How is this even in question? Link to post Share on other sites
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Chris T: Marge's man is sub-human. she cannot get enough of his life-endangering brain-dead philosophies. Meh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Marge Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 Ive allowed myself to be abused for 5 years. All your posts are great. Cut me a liitle slack- I feel like Ive been shaken up in one of those christmas water balls with the fake snow inside. I dont know which end is up- thats why I am asking you guys/gals. Sometimes one is so close to the situation that one cannot see, or feel what is right. Well, maybe I know in my head what is right, but the time hasnt come yet where I have the strength to act. That is why Ive been hanging out here. I actually just found out yesterday -it was coming for 4 years. While in college I worked at a mental institution. I couldnt tell the doctors from the patients. The only way you could tell was by who had the keys. The point being that when you are surrounded by something you become like it. You cant tell what is right anymore. Thanks. Marge Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Originally posted by Marge Ive allowed myself to be abused for 5 years. Okay Marge... I'm hoping that this isn't the same guy... If it is then you are really just in a dead end road here. If he is going out getting a "hand shake" here and a "hand shake" there, then you really need to dump this guy. "What was coming for 4 years?" That he is a cheater... Link to post Share on other sites
Mustard Bomb Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Cut me a liitle slack Okay. You've been hurt. Now, stop hurting yourself and others. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 Guy here... Yup, it's cheating. Doesn't really matter what the legal definition of "sex" is -- getting or giving a blowjob to somebody other than one's partner is a massive display of disrespect to that partner. "Just like shaking hands"... interesting. My serial cheating TBXW is quite the social butterfly; I expect she "shook hands" with a lot of people during the marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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