Priv Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 No problem. Thought you might like it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 an unattractive person is still attractive to someone, everybody has their own tastes and preferences. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 @OP..... You seem to have received a menagerie of responses this far, but I'll just like to add my 2 cents worth. It's all about putting your best foot forward and having your ducks in a row ...Nobody said it was going to be easy....I personally detest with a passion coffee houses, movies and other stationary ideas as a first day idea. It's the ubiquitous first date that most people seem to want to do, and it just oozes..."I am unable to come up with a different idea" Subliminally find out what this person's hobbies / interests are that haven't been listed on their profile, and use this to your advantage. For example if someone is into gardening (although it's winter now), you can plan a trip to an indoor gardening center or by simply just going to a big box store that has a garden section......it shows that you are tracking when it comes to them. you get this gist here The one thing that I haven't seen mention in threads of this ilk, is that when you are going to meet someone that you are really interested in...for the love of God, put some effort into your appearance (strike out: jeans, running shoes, hoodies, t-shirt, suit sandals, shorts). Instead as a guy/man, wear nice un-pleated trousers (pants), dress shirt, and dress shoes along with a *hint* of cologne on you. Just like an interview, presentation is everything and you don't get a second chance. The average classy woman doesn't want a scruffy looking guy, and definitely doesn't want one that stinks of alcohol etc. You want to be on a high without being brash from the moment you meet....a woman will notice your dress sense / scent and probably compliment you on it....don't be a fool and pay the compliment back. To both genders: Showing up like you are going to hangout with your buddies / female friends is unacceptable, and there is nothing more silly than a date telling you...." I feel under dressed", you should because this is a first date not a second date :-) Again, nobody is saying show up in a suit or a ball gown here Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 @OP..... You seem to have received a menagerie of responses this far, but I'll just like to add my 2 cents worth. It's all about putting your best foot forward and having your ducks in a row ...Nobody said it was going to be easy....I personally detest with a passion coffee houses, movies and other stationary ideas as a first day idea. It's the ubiquitous first date that most people seem to want to do, and it just oozes..."I am unable to come up with a different idea" Subliminally find out what this person's hobbies / interests are that haven't been listed on their profile, and use this to your advantage. For example if someone is into gardening (although it's winter now), you can plan a trip to an indoor gardening center or by simply just going to a big box store that has a garden section......it shows that you are tracking when it comes to them. you get this gist here The one thing that I haven't seen mention in threads of this ilk, is that when you are going to meet someone that you are really interested in...for the love of God, put some effort into your appearance (strike out: jeans, running shoes, hoodies, t-shirt, suit sandals, shorts). Instead as a guy/man, wear nice un-pleated trousers (pants), dress shirt, and dress shoes along with a *hint* of cologne on you. Just like an interview, presentation is everything and you don't get a second chance. The average classy woman doesn't want a scruffy looking guy, and definitely doesn't want one that stinks of alcohol etc. You want to be on a high without being brash from the moment you meet....a woman will notice your dress sense / scent and probably compliment you on it....don't be a fool and pay the compliment back. To both genders: Showing up like you are going to hangout with your buddies / female friends is unacceptable, and there is nothing more silly than a date telling you...." I feel under dressed", you should because this is a first date not a second date :-) Again, nobody is saying show up in a suit or a ball gown here Well I feel the same about bowling, every has that in their profile and it's annoying Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Hm, nah. When wanting a job I try to show off as best as I can and hope the pay is good. I'd expect more from a date. Link to post Share on other sites
SYLLPalmer Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 @OP..... You seem to have received a menagerie of responses this far, but I'll just like to add my 2 cents worth. It's all about putting your best foot forward and having your ducks in a row ...Nobody said it was going to be easy....I personally detest with a passion coffee houses, movies and other stationary ideas as a first day idea. It's the ubiquitous first date that most people seem to want to do, and it just oozes..."I am unable to come up with a different idea" Subliminally find out what this person's hobbies / interests are that haven't been listed on their profile, and use this to your advantage. For example if someone is into gardening (although it's winter now), you can plan a trip to an indoor gardening center or by simply just going to a big box store that has a garden section......it shows that you are tracking when it comes to them. you get this gist here The one thing that I haven't seen mention in threads of this ilk, is that when you are going to meet someone that you are really interested in...for the love of God, put some effort into your appearance (strike out: jeans, running shoes, hoodies, t-shirt, suit sandals, shorts). Instead as a guy/man, wear nice un-pleated trousers (pants), dress shirt, and dress shoes along with a *hint* of cologne on you. Just like an interview, presentation is everything and you don't get a second chance. The average classy woman doesn't want a scruffy looking guy, and definitely doesn't want one that stinks of alcohol etc. You want to be on a high without being brash from the moment you meet....a woman will notice your dress sense / scent and probably compliment you on it....don't be a fool and pay the compliment back. To both genders: Showing up like you are going to hangout with your buddies / female friends is unacceptable, and there is nothing more silly than a date telling you...." I feel under dressed", you should because this is a first date not a second date :-) Again, nobody is saying show up in a suit or a ball gown here Whoa! Why is it foolish to return a complement? I find only jerks are stingy in this capacity. Please do expound. Also putting too much effort forth on a first date seems armature IMO. So essentially based on your feedback he is going to be dressing up and taking a first date to home depot. Forget that! Stick to the coffee house for a meet and greet unless you met her old school. Old school dress it up and pick her up and wine and dine her. Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Whoa! Why is it foolish to return a complement? I find only jerks are stingy in this capacity. Please do expound. Also putting too much effort forth on a first date seems armature IMO. So essentially based on your feedback he is going to be dressing up and taking a first date to home depot. Forget that! Stick to the coffee house for a meet and greet unless you met her old school. Old school dress it up and pick her up and wine and dine her. I had a women tell me years ago that she doesn't do coffee dates because she can't see herself getting all dressed up and putting on heels to drink some coffee lol Link to post Share on other sites
SYLLPalmer Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 I had a women tell me years ago that she doesn't do coffee dates because she can't see herself getting all dressed up and putting on heels to drink some coffee lol Appears to be just another school of though. Clearly not from Southern Cali. Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Appears to be just another school of though. Clearly not from Southern Cali. The solution would be to put on relaxed footwear lol Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 (edited) Whoa! Why is it foolish to return a complement? I find only jerks are stingy in this capacity. Please do expound. Also putting too much effort forth on a first date seems armature IMO. So essentially based on your feedback he is going to be dressing up and taking a first date to home depot. Forget that! Stick to the coffee house for a meet and greet unless you met her old school. Old school dress it up and pick her up and wine and dine her. Good thing am not in SoCal then isn't it? Who said anything about "dressing up"...did you read the part in my post where I specified what I meant by making the effort in how you dress for your date? Home Depot point was just a miniscule part in the grand scheme of things from my post. Wine and dine on a first date...how is that working out for ya? Perhaps the whole presenting yourself proper, is just something that is common place everywhere else that is not the US? The wearing of sweat pants, jeans and running shoes is not exactly my cup of tea armature...am guessing you meant Amateur? complement....compliment? school of though.....school of thought? Clearly not from Southern Cali You got that right Edited February 2, 2014 by Tayken Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 some people are late bloomers Me me me (raises hand) Link to post Share on other sites
WP4046 Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Me me me (raises hand) Nothing wrong with it Link to post Share on other sites
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