turnera Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 She's posted about her money problems, her family problems, and now says she sees nothing wrong with sleeping in until 10 every day...she asked for advice by posting about them and then bringing them into someone else's thread. *shrug* That's my advice. That's the beauty of forums - ignore what you're gonna ignore anyway, and maybe someone else will see it and think, well, yeah, maybe I should be looking at MY habits since I'm having the same problems. And if she never wakes up earlier to get something extra done to work on her money problems - the main reason she HAS to be with her crappy dad for a week in the first place, well, she'll never know, will she? Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) Aren't you having severe money problems? Why not get just 6 hours sleep for awhile and go around and do dog walking or plant sitting or car washing or something, in the mornings, to bring in some more money? I would if I knew someone in need of those services, but I do not. And a lot of people won't just hire any old stranger to walk their dog nowadays without going through an agency...even then nothing is guaranteed. I signed up for a website called Care.com that provides networking for baby sitters, dog walkers and etc, but considering how overpopulated my area is, there is no difference than actually applying to a regular job. A lot of those still require an interview. If it was as simple as getting up early and washing someone's car or etc for money, I would do it, but mostly everyone we know are also having financial issues so they cannot pay for these extras. A lot of people can't in this economy. Also, I'm staying with my dad for a week, because my husband has to stay an extra week at his job before he can transfer to the location we're moving to. We would have moved when the end of our 30 day notice period was up at our apartment, but his manager asked him to stay an extra week before his transfer. Completely out of our hands and nothing to do with my lack of willingness to "get up early and wash someone's car". And no, I never brought my financial issues into this thread. I was simply relating to the OP about living at home with controlling parents. It was not off topic in the least. Let's stay on topic. I take care of business and do what's asked of me. What time I get up is not relevant and no one's business. It's not like I'm getting up at noon and playing video games all day. Edited February 5, 2014 by pink_sugar 2 Link to post Share on other sites
liquid_amber Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 She's posted about her money problems, her family problems, and now says she sees nothing wrong with sleeping in until 10 every day...she asked for advice by posting about them and then bringing them into someone else's thread. *shrug* That's my advice. That's the beauty of forums - ignore what you're gonna ignore anyway, and maybe someone else will see it and think, well, yeah, maybe I should be looking at MY habits since I'm having the same problems. And if she never wakes up earlier to get something extra done to work on her money problems - the main reason she HAS to be with her crappy dad for a week in the first place, well, she'll never know, will she? i don't see what her sleep habits have to do with her financial problems. do you realize that people work all kinds of different hours? some people function better at night, so they look for work that allows them to sleep later and start work later. the fact that someone sleeps until 10 has nothing to do with whether or not they're productive, and it has no bearing on financial issues as long as the person has a job. if i'm not mistaken, Pink was working full time until recently, and now she is planning to relocate to a new area. when she starts a new job, she will work the hours required by the employer. until then, she has every right to sleep as late as she wants. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Of course she does. But she's posting on someone else's thread about how horrible it is to have to stay with her dad because of money. In her case, she is complaining about her dad but she wouldn't be there if she wasn't having money problems, and as you say yourself, she has no job currently. IMO, if she wants to get away from her dad so badly, bring in more money. That is all. Link to post Share on other sites
liquid_amber Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 Of course she does. But she's posting on someone else's thread about how horrible it is to have to stay with her dad because of money. In her case, she is complaining about her dad but she wouldn't be there if she wasn't having money problems, and as you say yourself, she has no job currently. IMO, if she wants to get away from her dad so badly, bring in more money. That is all. fair enough. but i still don't see what sleeping until 10 has to do with bringing in money. how about getting a night job as a cocktail waitress? they make great money, but they work late nights, so they often sleep until noon. getting up early isn't the only way a person can make money. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 (edited) Of course she does. But she's posting on someone else's thread about how horrible it is to have to stay with her dad because of money. In her case, she is complaining about her dad but she wouldn't be there if she wasn't having money problems, and as you say yourself, she has no job currently. IMO, if she wants to get away from her dad so badly, bring in more money. That is all. Um no, as I said before it's not because of money that I am staying with him. My husband's employer asked him to stay an extra week after our 30 day notice period to our apartment ended. Being a guest for one week hardly gives anyone the right to complain about sleeping habits. Edited February 5, 2014 by pink_sugar 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 fair enough. but i still don't see what sleeping until 10 has to do with bringing in money. how about getting a night job as a cocktail waitress? they make great money, but they work late nights, so they often sleep until noon. getting up early isn't the only way a person can make money.Works for me. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Um no, as I said before it's not because of money that I am staying with him.Really? I thought you said this: I am in a similar situation. I lost my job in December and my husband and I were forced to leave our apartment and stay with family until we get back on our feet. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 btw, sorry for the T/J. I'll drop it now. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 (edited) Really? I thought you said this: Sure, but we're not staying with my dad. A lot of people fall on hard times. In her case, she is complaining about her dad but she wouldn't be there if she wasn't having money problemsYou act as if I had a choice in the matter. I never asked or expected to be laid off my job. And no, it's not as simple as "just go out and make more money". Easier said than done. S**t happens. I sure hope you never have to experience a job loss. Edited February 7, 2014 by pink_sugar 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I have. Sudden job losses. And I went out immediately and applied for fast food jobs to keep money coming in, knowing it might last a week or 6 months. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I have. Sudden job losses. And I went out immediately and applied for fast food jobs to keep money coming in, knowing it might last a week or 6 months. So how come you are implying I'm not doing that? I definitely have applied for retail jobs way below what I was previously making, because anything is better than unemployment insurance. Sometimes even those jobs are hard to come by in this economy. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I'm sorry, I didn't see you saying that you had been applying. Glad to hear it. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I am confused about why you need them to let you move out. Just tell them you are moving out, and do it. That's what I did, and my mother threw a hissy fit and made my life hell until the day I was able to move out, but oh well. It was worth it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I am confused about why you need them to let you move out. Just tell them you are moving out, and do it. That's what I did, and my mother threw a hissy fit and made my life hell until the day I was able to move out, but oh well. It was worth it. My dad did the same thing when I moved out at 18. Funny the way parents are. You just have to put your foot down and let them be them. Sometimes it takes years to realize you really do have control over your life and that your parents cannot make you do anything. Even now, my dad is doing the same thing, because he doesn't want me to move out of the area. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 The one thing I see time and time and time again with people in their 20s is this: they want to be treated like adults, but fail to realize that it's not the parents who will 'grant' them adult status. It's the young adults who have to take the STEPS to act like an adult, and give consequences to their parents who still see them as children and treat them that way. Thus has it ever been...it's the kids' job to take the steps. We all get it, eventually. Well, most of us. I have a friend who never moved out of her home. Even when she married, she stayed at home. Still there. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 MakeItHappen -- Instead of being on the internet and wasting time doing that (which we are all guilty of), use that time to take a little part-time job, pay off that loan (or stiff them for a few years), save up for fourth year. Stay gone from home because you're busy going to school and working, just put all your energy into school and saving money. Then once you have enough money, find a roommate and get a cheap place of your own and pay for your 4th year yourself if your parents are such little bitches that they won't pay for it unless they get to control you. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Wanna know a great, easy way to make money? Shop garage sales, put the items up on eBay or a local bookoo.com site, sell them and deliver them, take the profit and buy more stuff (or save it), etc. I have a friend who does ONLY that, and she makes a lot of money. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angelajackson13 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Don't worry your time will come. Just love your family... Link to post Share on other sites
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