Zero friends and spend free time at home.

[NGC1300]

Some of it is by choice. While others thrive having lots of friends and places to go, I find friends a burden. When I'm not working, I'm home exercising, studying, or just doing chores. I do love riding motorcycles, so yes I do get out but it isn't to do anything social as I ride alone.

 

I've reached the point of being content with this. The only reason I feel lonely is due to lack of female affection; not because I don't have friends because again they are a burden to me.

 

Anyway, we all know how petty and judgmental some women can be, so how should I handle the above issue when beginning to date?

 

Should I just explain this on the first couple dates, or will it come across insecure?

 

If things progress beyond the the second date and she starts spending time with me, she's eventually going to notice my phone NEVER rings, and that I have nobody in my life. No matter how energetic and confident I may come across to her, she's going to think I'm a loser.

[mammasita]

You sound like an introvert, not a loser.

 

I don't see a need to explain anything. As long as you have things that you find fulfilling to occupy your time so your not making any woman the center of your universe, I see no issue.....I might be slightly biased because I'm an introvert as well.

[Bito]

If she thinks your a loser because your an introvert then she is not the girl for you.

 

If you think friends are a burden then I hope you relize overly judgmental women are as well.

 

Don't worry about stupid stuff like that and just focus on your current interaction.

[NGC1300]

Oddly enough if you went back 5 years I'd have quite a few friends, or at least I regarded them as friends.

 

But then I changed jobs and slowly lost touch with so many people. I feel a bit bad, and yet I'm not too bothered by it because I know their lives are different now as well.

[ktya]

There are women like you.

My ex being one of them.

 

She had no friends and nothing to do except lounge around the house all day. She had a kid but with no friends or family to babysit it made the problem worse.

 

It drove me insane because i would have liked to have more free time in my house alone.

 

Maybe you will find someone like her.

 

Or maybe you can find a girl who is busy all the time who you only see once in a while. That type might work for you too.

[ZackSteele]

NGC1300

 

The only thing that you should identify yourself with is being an Introvert

That is nothing to be dwell or worry about. Your either Introverted or Extroverted. So no problem there

 

However,

You can Fix situations that are going on in your life

 

You talk about being with a girl and feeling weird if she wonders why you have no friends…

Well,

I hate to break it to you, but you will Never be with a girl (or be the type of guy that she wants to keep seeing) if you don't go get your social life together

 

Im not even saying that you should go out with goals of meeting a large social crew to hang out with on the weekends

But you should go out

 

Its your only way to improve your situation

[newmoon]

Some of it is by choice. While others thrive having lots of friends and places to go, I find friends a burden. When I'm not working, I'm home exercising, studying, or just doing chores. I do love riding motorcycles, so yes I do get out but it isn't to do anything social as I ride alone.

 

I've reached the point of being content with this. The only reason I feel lonely is due to lack of female affection; not because I don't have friends because again they are a burden to me.

 

Anyway, we all know how petty and judgmental some women can be, so how should I handle the above issue when beginning to date?

 

Should I just explain this on the first couple dates, or will it come across insecure?

 

If things progress beyond the the second date and she starts spending time with me, she's eventually going to notice my phone NEVER rings, and that I have nobody in my life. No matter how energetic and confident I may come across to her, she's going to think I'm a loser.

 

 

you don't have to make excuses for how you live your life, to anyone. you don't have to explain it away or feel odd or uncomfortable. and it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you if you don't have a large social circle. I'm very extroverted, but I have about 3 friends and my dogs, that's it. my phone never rings either, and who cares. other people are not as social as we give them credit for. most married/dating couples spend time with one another, right? a total of 2 people, and their phone calls are calls from babysitters, parents, etc. at least if your phone isn't ringing she'll know you aren't playing around on her... see? upside! I had a bf like this (absolutely zero friends) and it didn't make one bit of difference - we hung out together and he made friends with my friends.

[Teknoe]

Some of it is by choice. While others thrive having lots of friends and places to go, I find friends a burden. When I'm not working, I'm home exercising, studying, or just doing chores. I do love riding motorcycles, so yes I do get out but it isn't to do anything social as I ride alone.

 

I've reached the point of being content with this. The only reason I feel lonely is due to lack of female affection; not because I don't have friends because again they are a burden to me.

 

Anyway, we all know how petty and judgmental some women can be, so how should I handle the above issue when beginning to date?

 

Should I just explain this on the first couple dates, or will it come across insecure?

 

If things progress beyond the the second date and she starts spending time with me, she's eventually going to notice my phone NEVER rings, and that I have nobody in my life. No matter how energetic and confident I may come across to her, she's going to think I'm a loser.

 

 

Agreed with others. Introvert, not a loser. I myself have become a lot more introverted over the past few years. Although I have a small handful of folks I consider friends, I don't see them beyond once every 2-3 weeks, and I like it that way. It's not too often, yet not so far apart that I feel super lonely. Like you, I enjoy spending time at home left to my own devices (sports, movies, Netflix, video games, work-related stuff etc.) than going out with acquaintances that I don't really connect with (anymore). I totally get what you mean when you say burden. It's exactly why I cut off a group I was seeing for over a year. Toward the end, I find going to the invites were becoming more and more burdensome for me, so I slowly peeled away and ignored their mass invites.

 

I don't think you necessarily have to explain your situation. But you have to be realistic and meet a girl who agrees with your lifestyle. In other words, another introverted homebody type.