Don't blame fiancee's Mom..it's HER

[Laurynn]

Whatever you do, don't blame your fiancee's Mom for any of this. If your fiancee is running to her Mom and telling her of your problems, naturally a Mother is going to side with her daughter, and see things the way her daughter sees them. Mother and daughter...a bond that can't be broken.

 

Your fiancee needs to get it through her head that what goes on in your relationship (problems, stresses, etc) is BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU. If she needs to share things with friends, that's okay........but her running to her Mom, that's only going to poison her Mom/family's opinion of you, as you're finding.

 

You really need to sit down and discuss this with your fiancee. Let her know how you feel about all this. Let her know, that out of respect for YOU and your RELATIONSHIP, she needs to quit running to her Mom.....that all that will do is cause major friction between all three of you.

 

If she can't understand this, and can't stop doing this...then I'd seriously reconsider marrying her. A good marriage is one in which there is a high degree of loyalty to one's spouse. If she can't grasp that concept now, she likely never will........and you'll end up hating your inlaws and they'll end up hating you.

 

Laurynn