Seaturtles Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 My boyfriend always talks about these other two girls he thought is really cute/hot in his other classes. He mentions them a lot. It doesn't bother me much at first, but it starts to bother me a lot now. When we are together, he will go on their social media sites and look at their pictures. I really don't know if he's doing this to make me jealous, but I have a strong guts feeling that he does it all the time. He told me before that they are out of his league...which bothers me a lot. He even mentioned about wanting to **** one of them as a joke. It makes me really believe that he is the type to cheat if they give him the chance. Yes, we are sexually active..which makes me wonder if he is just staying with me because it gets his business done. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 He's a disrespectful, immature jerk. Does that help? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seaturtles Posted February 2, 2014 Author Share Posted February 2, 2014 He's a disrespectful, immature jerk. Does that help? We had a fight about this. His explanation: All guys, whether they have a gf or not, will think other girls are hot/sexy and will think about doing them. Thinking =/= he will do it. He promised he won't. I'm just staying because most of the time, he's a really sweet boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
chelsea2011 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Thinking and shoving it in your face are two different things. Heck anyone male or female "think" about someone hot, but people with integrity don't shove it the face of someone they care about. Dump him. You deserve better. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 We had a fight about this. His explanation: All guys, whether they have a gf or not, will think other girls are hot/sexy and will think about doing them. Thinking =/= he will do it. He promised he won't. I'm just staying because most of the time, he's a really sweet boyfriend. I need to strongly disagree with his warped logic. Sure, plenty of men find other women attractive. But do they openly ogle them and joke about having sex with them? No, they don't. The ones that do are disrespectful and immature and not thinking with the head on their shoulders. What a huge turn-off. How old is your "sweet" boyfriend? He has a lot of growing up to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ctxinfl Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 My boyfriend always talks about these other two girls he thought is really cute/hot in his other classes. He mentions them a lot. It doesn't bother me much at first, but it starts to bother me a lot now. When we are together, he will go on their social media sites and look at their pictures. I really don't know if he's doing this to make me jealous, but I have a strong guts feeling that he does it all the time. He told me before that they are out of his league...which bothers me a lot. He even mentioned about wanting to **** one of them as a joke. It makes me really believe that he is the type to cheat if they give him the chance. Yes, we are sexually active..which makes me wonder if he is just staying with me because it gets his business done. No guy worth your time should be talking about other women like this. It's one thing for us to talk about attractive women when we're hanging out with other guys, though to do it in front of your wife/girlfriend/fiance is completely disrespectful and rude. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 We had a fight about this. His explanation: All guys, whether they have a gf or not, will think other girls are hot/sexy and will think about doing them. Thinking =/= he will do it. He promised he won't. I'm just staying because most of the time, he's a really sweet boyfriend. This is complete and utter Bovine Scatology. He's talking complete crap. Using 'all men' as an excuse just goes to show how narrow his thinking is.... Maybe all guys under 18, who can't control their hormones and get an erection at the sight of Betty Boop, who have the mentality of an infantile gibbon - will do this.. Most men, in a committed relationship - definitely do not. Dump his ass. If they're really out of his league, he's lost on all counts: Both them, as unobtainable, and you, as unavailable. because you most certainly fit their description, and he doesn't deserve you. Sorry hun - dump him, and sooner, rather than later. Like - today would be good. Start the week on an up.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 (edited) Not all men think this way. No, really. Not all men fantasize about screwing other women (once they have a girlfriend). I was with my boyfriend today. A hot girl walked past; white shorts and singlet with toned, tanned skin and a lovely face. He didn't look twice at her. He didn't notice her. He didn't look at her. I noticed this "hot girl" far more than my own boyfriend. I said to him " you're too good to be true. You act like you seriously DON'T even THINK about banging hot chicks when you spot them. He just said" I look at them the same way I do any other person. I don't think about having sex with other women. I look at porn occasionally but that's about it insofar as other women me and my imagination is concerned. I am 27. Just had my birthday. I have never, until this man, came across a boyfriend who was like this. Other guys had all previously fantasized about other women they saw. I know it's a long shot, but I truly believe that some men don't just imagine every hot chick they see naked. By the way. Your boyfriend is even more obnoxious than my ex, when it comes to checking out other women. That's quiet a travesty, that another man could even come close to the way my ex was with other women he came across in public. Definitely dump him. He could other wise be a saint; this behavior alone is enexcusible. He should make you feel like he thinks you're the beautiful woman to him out of all the women in the world. Guys like this do exist and you can find one. You can behappy Edited February 2, 2014 by Leigh 87 Link to post Share on other sites
justlife Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 He really sounds horrible, I always think talking about fancying other people while in a relationship should be a sensitive topic anyway because it could easily upset the other, but to throw it in your face like that is horrible. If you are mainly with him for sexual reasons then I suppose you can stay with him if you feel you can put up with it, but he doesn't sound like the type of person one would want as a life partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Seaturtles Posted February 2, 2014 Author Share Posted February 2, 2014 Not all men think this way. No, really. Not all men fantasize about screwing other women (once they have a girlfriend). I was with my boyfriend today. A hot girl walked past; white shorts and singlet with toned, tanned skin and a lovely face. He didn't look twice at her. He didn't notice her. He didn't look at her. I noticed this "hot girl" far more than my own boyfriend. I said to him " you're too good to be true. You act like you seriously DON'T even THINK about banging hot chicks when you spot them. He just said" I look at them the same way I do any other person. I don't think about having sex with other women. I look at porn occasionally but that's about it insofar as other women me and my imagination is concerned. I am 27. Just had my birthday. I have never, until this man, came across a boyfriend who was like this. Other guys had all previously fantasized about other women they saw. I know it's a long shot, but I truly believe that some men don't just imagine every hot chick they see naked. By the way. Your boyfriend is even more obnoxious than my ex, when it comes to checking out other women. That's quiet a travesty, that another man could even come close to the way my ex was with other women he came across in public. Definitely dump him. He could other wise be a saint; this behavior alone is enexcusible. He should make you feel like he thinks you're the beautiful woman to him out of all the women in the world. Guys like this do exist and you can find one. You can behappy I know! I mean, of course, sometimes I do joke about a cute guy here and there. BUT I never make it serious and I will never, ever look that guy up in Facebook. For me, I do not show interest in the guys I joke about. Apparently for him, it sounds like he's serious. It's just something I really can't stand. To be honest, I don't even know if he find me attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 (edited) We had a fight about this. His explanation: All guys, whether they have a gf or not, will think other girls are hot/sexy and will think about doing them. Thinking =/= he will do it. He promised he won't. I'm just staying because most of the time, he's a really sweet boyfriend. This solidifies what some of us already knew....boys will be boys, and men will be men. Yes we are all human, and it's only natural that if we see something that tickles our fancy, certain parts of our cerebral might process that information differently...this doesn't equate to me wanting to jump on that thing that walked by. We all walk past a cartier / rolex/ ferrari store and look, doesn't mean we want to go inside and purchase the item....cos it's not personally my cup of tea To be honest, I don't even know if he find me attractive. How are the 2 of you if you don't mind me asking? That might have something to do with it....Majority of teenagers and people in their 20s are so vain about this kind of childishness. This is not to say some folks in their 30s, 40s, and 50s aren't just as bad....I mean look at dating sites for crying out loud, a lot don't know what they want still at their age Edited February 2, 2014 by Tayken Link to post Share on other sites
tinderbox8888 Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 You have the right to say "that's nice that you think they are hot, but you need to stop making those statements to me". I have had GF's that were okay with me saying wow she's hot, others that would have caused a huge fight. Set it down simply for him, leave those comments for his friends. They make you feel badly and he needs to respect your wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
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