ummidunno Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 My Ex-boyfriend is dating a girl I work with. We dated 4yrs & broke up 5 months ago. He cheated on me, we tried to work through it, but I just couldn't get over it, so we ended it. Now, he's dating a girl in my school program. She's in most of my classes and I'm struggling with it. I tear-up every time I see her. I have mid-terms and papers due, I'm falling behind, and I start to break-down just thinking about school. I can't take a break from my program or change classes, and I don't know how to cope. I don't want to be "that girl" in my program who seems possessive of her ex, but I have to WORK with the girl he's screwing and see her all the time. I worked so hard to get into this program, and my marks and professionalism are my #1 priority. This is my career network, and I don't want my colleagues to have a negative opinion of me. Am I being unreasonable? Should I say nothing? What might my colleagues think of me if I asked them not to see each other? My school is really big on professionalism, so I worry if I asked for some extensions while I dealt with it emotionally, they would just think I'm jealous and immature. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
LiliesNoLilies Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 It's none of your business, who your ex is seeing after your breakup. But I know it hurts, and for that I'm sorry. But think of it this way. My guess is, having to see your ex's current girl is going to sting for a while. But sabotaging your career over this will sting for much, much longer. Don't know what this "big on professionalism" field of yours is, but try to think long term. Link to post Share on other sites
seekingpeaceinlove Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Say nothing. You have every right to feel pain, jealousy, anger but keep it to yourself. The relationship you once had with your ex is over and this new girl has nothing to do with you and your feelings. You must deal with them on your own. Be "that girl" who exemplifies strength and grace in the face of hardship. Carry yourself with professionalism and dignity in your school program and then come home and cry, shout, and scream if you need to let it out. Be "that girl." You can do it. You'll be surprised at how empowering this will be for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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