nadinefleur Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 I am fed up of the dating "game".. Why is it all a game? Why do us women have to hold back incase we 'scare' a guy away. Why can we not be ourselves? I swear I screw up every relationship or any potential relationship by just being myself. I find it incredibly hard work and effort to have to play games in order for the guy to chase me... I am not a fake person, and always wear my heart on my sleeve, but when it comes to dating this scares guys off! They think I'm 'crazy', but I swear I'm not!! I tell a guy I like him and he runs for the hills. I tell a guy I want honesty and he runs for the hills, I tell a guy I don't like games and he runs for the hills. How can you act casual and aloof when you have emotions inside? I don't think I will ever find love, its too much hard work 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ChessPieceFace Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Because people are animals. Men have it much worse ... Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 How quickly do you tell a guy you're falling for him? Link to post Share on other sites
shinealight Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Don't worry i feel the same i tell her how i feel and she just runs away and i know she likes me but is afraid or clearly doesn't want something to happen, but comes running for you know what. Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 I am fed up of the dating "game".. Why is it all a game? Why do us women have to hold back incase we 'scare' a guy away. Why can we not be ourselves? I swear I screw up every relationship or any potential relationship by just being myself. I find it incredibly hard work and effort to have to play games in order for the guy to chase me... I am not a fake person, and always wear my heart on my sleeve, but when it comes to dating this scares guys off! They think I'm 'crazy', but I swear I'm not!! I tell a guy I like him and he runs for the hills. I tell a guy I want honesty and he runs for the hills, I tell a guy I don't like games and he runs for the hills. How can you act casual and aloof when you have emotions inside? I don't think I will ever find love, its too much hard work Well it goes both ways. When men tell a girl they like her, she "runs for the hills" as well. And perusing this board, there's pages and pages of threads on this board about that very subject! I don't know how old you are but if you're in your 20s don't worry so much about it. Love will find you, no need to look too hard for it. As for the games, in the meantime there's no harm in playing along You have a pretty user name btw. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Be yourself but insist on men being genuine before you jump into anything. You seem like a genuine person so make your the men you involve yourself with are genuine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadinefleur Posted February 3, 2014 Author Share Posted February 3, 2014 Well I thought the latest guy I was dating was genuine. I am in my mid to late twenties.. and I waited about 2-3 months to say that I liked a guy I was seeing. Maybe I'm going after the wrong guys... But I feel like men have it so easy and women have to play so many games in order to keep a guy interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Well I thought the latest guy I was dating was genuine. I am in my mid to late twenties.. and I waited about 2-3 months to say that I liked a guy I was seeing. Maybe I'm going after the wrong guys... But I feel like men have it so easy and women have to play so many games in order to keep a guy interested. Step one week in a man's shoes and you will change that tune. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadinefleur Posted February 3, 2014 Author Share Posted February 3, 2014 Step one week in a man's shoes and you will change that tune. Hahaha I find that really hard to believe... Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Hahaha I find that really hard to believe... Of course you do. Just like a million men are about to pounce on you and say that women "have it easy". Which is silly of course. Link to post Share on other sites
DL2mer Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Anymore, if a girl starts playing games I'm gone. I've been lucky to have dated three women that didn't play games and were very genuine. To be honest I've almost stopped dating. Games are a deal breaker for me and I have walked away from some very attractive women because of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I wish I knew... I just know that... one day you will meet the right person and it will be all good... Link to post Share on other sites
Salvatore85 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Well I thought the latest guy I was dating was genuine. I am in my mid to late twenties.. and I waited about 2-3 months to say that I liked a guy I was seeing. Maybe I'm going after the wrong guys... But I feel like men have it so easy and women have to play so many games in order to keep a guy interested. Men have it easy? Oh boy lol. We have to act like douche bags just so females will give us a chance. If we're nice or don't run for the hills when you tell us how you feel we're no longer a challenge and deemed a waste. Imagine having to be a jerk so you can get a date, it literally makes no sense whatsoever lmao 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Hahaha I find that really hard to believe... Sometimes I wish I was in a woman's shoes myself. So I know why you have doubt concerning that statement. So do I when it is reversed. Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) Finally, someone who agrees with me on this subject. I've been saying this in like forever back when the dates I had went cold and distant. (I'm a guy btw. ^^ ) Edited February 4, 2014 by Teraskas Link to post Share on other sites
InnocentMan Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 If the men you date are constantly running for the hills, just because you say you like them, then you probably need to drop down a division. Same goes for men that have the same trouble. People that are genuinely interested in you, don't bolt just because you say you like them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadinefleur Posted February 4, 2014 Author Share Posted February 4, 2014 Men have it easy? Oh boy lol. We have to act like douche bags just so females will give us a chance. If we're nice or don't run for the hills when you tell us how you feel we're no longer a challenge and deemed a waste. Imagine having to be a jerk so you can get a date, it literally makes no sense whatsoever lmao Is this a joke? Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Is this a joke? Unfortunately, it is not a joke. The "nice guys" a.k.a. the ones who doesn't act like untamed animals, at least over here, is most always single. I have seen guys who is walking in public with their underwear showing and yet they have women AND children. I am just dumbfounded by it all. Of course, that is just one example but it is one of the worst things I ever seen. It really do help lower the desire to go after the opposite gender. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I don't think I will ever find love, its too much hard work oh yes you will. it's all in the game Link to post Share on other sites
InnocentMan Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Unfortunately, it is not a joke. The "nice guys" a.k.a. the ones who doesn't act like untamed animals, at least over here, is most always single. I have seen guys who is walking in public with their underwear showing and yet they have women AND children. I am just dumbfounded by it all. Of course, that is just one example but it is one of the worst things I ever seen. It really do help lower the desire to go after the opposite gender. You seem to know what works to get a woman, so why not just do it? Act like an animal, and show your underwear..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadinefleur Posted February 4, 2014 Author Share Posted February 4, 2014 oh yes you will. it's all in the game So you are saying I shouldn't be myself, and I should 'pretend' that I don't like a guy? How should a woman play this game? I think I just lost someone I really liked because I was myself and didn't play games... Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 You seem to know what works to get a woman, so why not just do it? Act like an animal, and show your underwear..... Even I don't want a woman THAT bad to go to such extremes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nadinefleur Posted February 4, 2014 Author Share Posted February 4, 2014 Well as a woman, I can tell you that I don't agree with how you say men should behave to get a woman. Because I don't like arseholes, and if I sense a guy is playing games it turns me off. I would much rather be with a guy who is nice and who tells me how he feels. Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Well as a woman, I can tell you that I don't agree with how you say men should behave to get a woman. Because I don't like arseholes, and if I sense a guy is playing games it turns me off. I would much rather be with a guy who is nice and who tells me how he feels. Exactly. Yet I feel that this as well as being an all round gentleman is hugely underappreciated these days. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 If you think it's a game, then join a group for single gamers and win all the points you want (just don't ask ME how you're supposed to redeem those points). That way, you can kill 2 birds with 1 stone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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