MissTakes Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 So, NC has officially crashed and burned... it was going well until I ran into him a few weeks ago and we had our "big talk." It was even okay after that for a week or two - we exchanged 3-4 texts, but they were business related. Then a few days ago, it started going downhill - he texted me on the pretext of business, but added some inappropriate comments. I called him out on it, and he ruefully apologized. Then some upsetting stuff came up in other areas of my life. All I wanted was to be able to talk to my xMM, and, wouldn't you know it? He just happened to text me that night. As I told him, even - though I didn't want to, and knew I shouldn't, I couldn't resist. We talked for the next three days solid. Now, I haven't talked to him at all today (small victories!), and it's not like I'll see him... well, at least any time soon. We now live in different parts of the country; however, I will be back for a business trip that I will see him on in about 5 weeks, and he knows about the trip. Anyone have some advice? I keep telling myself "You did it once, you can go NC again!" but the EA is pulling me in so hard... Link to post Share on other sites
kalimata Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 This pattern of ups and downs will continue as long as you keep in touch with your MM. Note he is not your xMM until you obey NC. YOU ARE STILL IN THE AFFAIR if you are in contact with him. Even once. The surge of neurotransmitters in your brain will make it difficult for you each time he contacts you. You will be going through classic withdrawal symptoms. Just like a crack addict. The only way to stop this is to go cold-turkey. Here are some suggestions to ensure NC: - Get a new cell phone #. Ask your provider to block all of MM's known numbers. - Get a new email address. Block all of MM's known email addresses - Notify his wife of the A and that you are trying to move on with your life, and he keeps contacting you. - Send a formal NC letter to him, certified return receipt. - If he contacts you again after all of the above, then file a restraining order against him Link to post Share on other sites
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