OnlyHonesty Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Exactly, I've been upfront about my weight. It's not like I've been trying to hide it from him or try to make myself appear smaller than I am. Once I told him how insecure I was about my weight he could have asked to see a full body picture but he never did. I'm pretty sure he knows what he's getting himself into and if he didn't love me for me he probably would have declined my offer to meet. Reading that made me feel so much better thank you <3 I'm still going to try and make life style changes but so I'll feel better about myself. Clearly there is still some ambiguity because if there wasn't, this thread wouldn't exist. As far as I am concerned, if two people are to meet then everything should be as transparent as possible, there should be no 'I'm pretty sure he knows what he's getting himself into' it should be 'I am 100% certain he knows exactly what to expect and I know exactly what to expect'. You say that you didn't send him full body shots because he didn't ask for them but it would have been simple for you to send some. It could have been anything, you could have told him a story about an outing or an event and said 'check out this pic'. So the question remains, did you not send a full body pic because he didn't ask or did you not send one because you were afraid. You said you came here for encouragement, I assumed you came here for the truth. The truth isn't always encouraging but encouragement isn't always truthful. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyHonesty Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I completely agree with the above. Which is why I offered the 5:2 thing. It's quite the different way to approach how we eat, why we eat the way we do, and how to change that, if it's not what we should be doing. Good snippet.... Another aspect that many do not consider is the efficiency of the digestive system (stomach acid) and the thyroid (Iodine). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Justwaiting2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Author Share Posted February 5, 2014 Clearly there is still some ambiguity because if there wasn't, this thread wouldn't exist. As far as I am concerned, if two people are to meet then everything should be as transparent as possible, there should be no 'I'm pretty sure he knows what he's getting himself into' it should be 'I am 100% certain he knows exactly what to expect and I know exactly what to expect'. You say that you didn't send him full body shots because he didn't ask for them but it would have been simple for you to send some. It could have been anything, you could have told him a story about an outing or an event and said 'check out this pic'. So the question remains, did you not send a full body pic because he didn't ask or did you not send one because you were afraid. You said you came here for encouragement, I assumed you came here for the truth. The truth isn't always encouraging but encouragement isn't always truthful. I mostly came here to get things off my chest, and to make myself better about the situation. I know I didn't come here to be put down and to feel even worse about myself. He's never asked for one, and if he had asked for one I would have been scared to death but I would have shown him one. I mean he knows how much I love him if he wanted one he knows I would show him. I guess I was looking for people to say "if he really loves you size doesn't matter" I know the truth hurts, why do you think I'm so insecure? Because I know I'm too heavy. A lot of his friends are heavy so I really doesn't think he cares what size iam. Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 A lot of his friends are heavy so I really doesn't think he cares what size iam. Well then, end of story. There really is nothing to continue to worry or obsess about is there? Think of it this way: You'll never have a chance to re-live the next few weeks leading up to your b/f's visit or the time you finally meet. It's a once-in-a-lifetime experience. And, it ought to be a time of fun, wonder, excitement and eager anticipation. I repeat: You don't get a second chance to re-live this moment in time. So, trust your gut and your guy. And spend the remaining time leading up to your first meeting doing positive things that will make your time together as memorable as possible and a time both of you will look back upon with warm thoughts and no regrets. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyHonesty Posted February 5, 2014 Share Posted February 5, 2014 I mostly came here to get things off my chest, and to make myself better about the situation. I know I didn't come here to be put down and to feel even worse about myself. He's never asked for one, and if he had asked for one I would have been scared to death but I would have shown him one. I mean he knows how much I love him if he wanted one he knows I would show him. I guess I was looking for people to say "if he really loves you size doesn't matter" I know the truth hurts, why do you think I'm so insecure? Because I know I'm too heavy. A lot of his friends are heavy so I really doesn't think he cares what size iam. I have had a tough time facing the truth myself and often it is very hard to hear, I have felt angry and anxious from hearing it before. However, one thing that always seems to result (eventually) is it being the only way to make true and positive change. If you look back on page one, some have said "if he really loves you size doesn't matter" and in many cases, this will be true.Good luck with the meet. Link to post Share on other sites
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