Bonny Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Hi, well I broke up with my ex about a year ago because of trust issues. Since then he has been living with another woman, which seems to be a relationship of mutual convenience. I initiated no contact straight after the break up and did not return any of his calls or emails for about 6 months. Then we had to work together briefly and became friends again. Since then, he has been calling or texting me every other week - usually late at night when he's drinking or out with his friends saying he misses me, wishes we were together etc etc. I have never once picked up the phone or replied to his text - I'm not a booty call. He usually apologises the next day. My question is - do you think he genuinly misses me and wants to be with me, or is he just hoping that one day I will cave and sleep with him again? (we used to have fireworks sex, and I'm informed this woman is a bit frigid). I guess if he really wanted me he would get serious and arrange to meet me when he's sober, but I'm certainly not going to suggest that. For the last year I have been a total cold fish to him. Even when we've met up for work and he's flirted, I have given him no indication that I'm still infatuated with him. I have not even looked at another guy this entire time. I feel lonely and it's getting harder and harder to resist my ex. Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
moon Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 The guy really sounds like a loser. Re-read your post again and again. Pretend you are reading a letter a friend has written you. It sounds hard to continue to fight off the advances of this guy, but he sounds like a womanizer and an alcoholic. Do you really want to live that hell with him? Change your phone number. He's really trying to make you not get over him. He wants his cake and to eat it too. Why's he living with somebody else if he actually wants you?????????? Think about it. Sounds like the kind of guy you should run from and run from fast. Good for you for getting out of that relationship. Do you really think your "trust issues" will be cleared up if you got back together??? I know love is tricky, but you sound sort of blinded by it. I'd move on and get caller ID. Link to post Share on other sites
cyberbabie30 Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 HI I agree with moon, I was and still am in a simular situation as you. But i have no interest in my ex i broke up with 6 years ago Who I might ad still calls me from time to time and its mostly when things arent going good with the current woman he is with. I even went as far as moved and changed my phone number and i still hear from him. He managed to fine me!!! I have even told mine i wasnt interested, Sorry to say but sometimes they just dont get it. In time he may give up, but do your self a favor run like moon says and as fast as you can. I also currently have another ex chasing me and emailing me once a week, and we also broke up due to trust issues 4 months ago, lets just say i found things out that gave me a good reason to not trust him. And remember a lepard never changes their spots. I have learned that from experience, They dont change i learned that the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
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