Lame boyfriends, who actually likes them?

[HofbrauBock]

Hello ladies and gentlemen,

 

I am a male and a senior in college with minor sexual/relationship experience. I've been in one relationship, a little over six months long, and messed around with a few, I try not to label them, highly sexually active promiscuous women at parties haha. Needless to say I am way below par on the college sex scale.

 

I try to keep my ego as small as possible but from what people tell me, I am attractive, funny, and outgoing. Literally, just the other day, these hot girls walked up to me and were like "OMG! Brad Pitt can we get your signature?" I told them "Ladies please please, I am not the famous actor, just a more attractive look alike." (Alright, you got me. It wasn't Brad Pitt who they mistook me for, it was actually Ryan Gosling).

 

Enough background, I am sure you guys care about this post and the faceless person behind it about as much as the last turd you flushed down the toilet so I'll be frank.

 

I want a relationship. I'm not really into sleeping around or one night stands.

 

Girls who are involved with other guys always want me. It seems to me that for X reason they are unsatisfied, unhappy, or bored with their current relationship and look at me as some star future husband material.

 

Sometimes, I really feel like I am passing up or flat out denying opportunities and fun times just because I don’t want to get mixed up in drama and I try to respect their commitment, even if they don’t.

 

My attitude is “If you want me, break up with your lame boyfriend.” I refuse to engage with a woman who is tied up or involved with another guy in any way.

 

Honestly, these situations just keep coming up and I am so ****ing sick of it. That's why I am logged onto love shack forums at 1:00 am seeking outside advice haha.

 

Do I need to change my attitude? Am I being too noble for my own good?

 

If these women aren’t happy with their relationship, for whatever reason, why don’t they just end it, be single for a while and open to whatever opportunities come their way?

 

One of my buddies says “**** it dude, it’s college and it’s about having fun. So what, they have some lame long distance boyfriend who they see once in a blue moon. So what they stay in some abusive relationship. Go get laid.”

 

BRB guys, I am going to go angrily masturbate to death and follow it up by crying myself to sleep.

[TylerDurdenn]

Literally, just the other day, these hot girls walked up to me and were like "OMG! Brad Pitt can we get your signature?" I told them "Ladies please please, I am not the famous actor, just a more attractive look alike." (Alright, you got me. It wasn't Brad Pitt who they mistook me for, it was actually Ryan Gosling).

[Arieswoman]

Maybe I have I got it wrong, but I thought that people went to college to get an education, not to get laid ?

 

If you had put as much energy into your studies as you are putting into your sex-life (or lack of it) you would have a doctorate by now.

 

Stop worrying and start studying.

 

Girls come and go but you'll always need to earn a living.

[regine_phalange]

As an engaged-men magnet, I agree with your approach. Don't settle for something unsatisfying.

 

*I also know someone who looks like Ryan Gosling's twin brother. It seems that there is a nest somewhere.

[DL2mer]

Dude I'm in my early 30's and 90% of the women that are interested in me are in relationships. You really need to avoid these types. Sooner or later you will be done the same way. There is always someone more apealling than you. It's really depressing thinking about it but that's just how it is. I'm still holding out for a quiet nerdy type girl and don't care if she's attractive or not just someone that's genuine. Just don't give in to one of these girls because you will be completely miserable. Granted the sex might be great and they might be a lot of fun but would you be willing to spend the rest of your life with someone like this? For me it's a deal breaker and I would never consider that girl again even if she comes back in your life later down the road and you think maybe she has changed. I would definitely prefer crying and violently masterbating my self to sleep every night.

Edited February 5, 2014 by DL2mer
Left something out ;)

[HofbrauBock]

@Arieswoman I agree. Despite my post, I am really not to worried about it; I am just annoyed that this situation keeps coming up. It's potentially exciting but a constantly occurring let down at the same time.

 

 

@DL2mer Thanks man. I know that in the long run it would just end up being temporary fun, short lived empty sex followed up by lame drama, but sometimes I really want to think with my other head; the one that is full of blood and lacks any brains. Hold in there, one day loveshack forums will be a thing of the past haha.

 

 

Thanks for your replies guys. I'm going to go eat a sandwhich and then woo some women who are desperate, lonely, and involved in a relationship lol.

[DL2mer]

I would be very careful my friend. Besides obvious health risk, these types of women are possessive, shameless, and can very easily become stalkers if things don't go there way.

[Omei]

I am a sweet quite nerd girl that wants to do nothing more than to bring happiness to a loyal guy....sometimes I wish I could snap my fingers and make some of the guys on here looking for a girl like me appear in my town, its hard out there to meet and find out what people want.

[DL2mer]

I am a sweet quite nerd girl that wants to do nothing more than to bring happiness to a loyal guy....sometimes I wish I could snap my fingers and make some of the guys on here looking for a girl like me appear in my town, its hard out there to meet and find out what people want.

 

I wish I lived in Canada!!!

[Omei]

I wish I lived in Canada!!!

 

Yeah it sucks huh? I think a lot of people on this site are very moral based and true romantics looking for what we lost or miss, a lot of people on here could be very compatible but will never meet its a shame.

[Frank2thepoint]

I wish I lived in Canada!!!

 

So do I. Not just for the ladies, but also for the national health care. And Tim Hortons!

[Scales]

Here is the reality. Women in college have a boyfriend after the 1st two weeks of the semester. If you want anyone of them that is worth quality, you are going to have to give something in return if you want them to jump ship. You should just sleep with them and then try for the relationship. If they choose you then they dump their boyfriends.

 

Every girl I knew in college had a boyfriend. Seriously. Don't bother walking around looking for the single ones after the 1st week. Its nearly impossible. If you get opportunities you take them, drama be damned. Just exercise caution obviously. I'd like a hot single girl to fall into my life too, but its much more common that if shes hot shes got a bf. Either that or shes crazy.

[DL2mer]

Here is the reality. Women in college have a boyfriend after the 1st two weeks of the semester. If you want anyone of them that is worth quality, you are going to have to give something in return if you want them to jump ship. You should just sleep with them and then try for the relationship. If they choose you then they dump their boyfriends.

 

Every girl I knew in college had a boyfriend. Seriously. Don't bother walking around looking for the single ones after the 1st week. Its nearly impossible. If you get opportunities you take them, drama be damned. Just exercise caution obviously. I'd like a hot single girl to fall into my life too, but its much more common that if shes hot shes got a bf. Either that or shes crazy.

 

Honestly I dated girls like this even after college. My advice is to run as fast as you can and don't look back. I'm still working on techniques to repel these types of women. My biggest regrets in life where missing out on the real thing because I was with low quality ladies such as these.

[oldshirt]

Here is the reality. Women in college have a boyfriend after the 1st two weeks of the semester. If you want anyone of them that is worth quality, you are going to have to give something in return if you want them to jump ship. You should just sleep with them and then try for the relationship. If they choose you then they dump their boyfriends.

 

Every girl I knew in college had a boyfriend. Seriously. Don't bother walking around looking for the single ones after the 1st week. Its nearly impossible. If you get opportunities you take them, drama be damned. Just exercise caution obviously. I'd like a hot single girl to fall into my life too, but its much more common that if shes hot shes got a bf. Either that or shes crazy.

 

I turn 50 in less than two weeks. I've dated a number of women, had a variety of FWBs etc and then met my dream girl at the age of 29 and married at 31.

 

.....and she had a boyfriend of many years at the time we started seeing each other.

 

If I could step into the Wayback Machine and go back to my youth knowing what I know now, I would make a valid offer to every 18-25 year old female that I liked and was interested in that did not have a marriage license whether she had a so-called boyfriend or not.

 

If she was happy with her boyfriend or did not think I was a better deal, she'd say no and that would be that.

 

If she wasn't all that attached to the BF and thought I was better and was willing to jump ship so be it!!!!!

 

Women choose who they want to be with and if that choice is me great! If she later chooses to leave me to be with someone she thinks is better, that's life.

 

The girls with the higher market value are always going to be seeing someone. They are never going to be free and clear single. They are going to monkey swing from one branch immediately to the next branch. If you aren't will to be that next branch you are going to be sitting around waiting for something that will never happen.

 

The fact of the matter is when you see a gal with another dude you don't know what the state of their relationship is. They may say they're BF/GF but the only true test of her commitment is to make the offer. If she goes for it, she wasn't that committed after all.

Edited February 5, 2014 by oldshirt

[HofbrauBock]

I turn 50 in less than two weeks. I've dated a number of women, had a variety of FWBs etc and then met my dream girl at the age of 29 and married at 31.

 

.....and she had a boyfriend of many years at the time we started seeing each other.

 

If I could step into the Wayback Machine and go back to my youth knowing what I know now, I would make a valid offer to every 18-25 year old female that I liked and was interested in that did not have a marriage license whether she had a so-called boyfriend or not.

 

If she was happy with her boyfriend or did not think I was a better deal, she'd say no and that would be that.

 

If she wasn't all that attached to the BF and thought I was better and was willing to jump ship so be it!!!!!

 

Women choose who they want to be with and if that choice is me great! If she later chooses to leave me to be with someone she thinks is better, that's life.

 

The girls with the higher market value are always going to be seeing someone. They are never going to be free and clear single. They are going to monkey swing from one branch immediately to the next branch. If you aren't will to be that next branch you are going to be sitting around waiting for something that will never happen.

 

The fact of the matter is when you see a gal with another dude you don't know what the state of their relationship is. They may say they're BF/GF but the only true test of her commitment is to make the offer. If she goes for it, she wasn't that committed after all.

 

 

This was exactly what I was looking for, a seasoned veteran who could open my eyes up. So many women seem to hop from “Branch to branch” (Awesome comparison BTW), I guess I can’t blame them. If I had women coming at me constantly, like men do to women, why wouldn’t I do the same? I would probably stay in a par relationship and break it off when I ran into something better.

 

The BF situation happens a lot but I posted because there is one woman who I am dealing with at the moment.

 

We definitely have strong chemistry, and flirt a lot; people are starting to comment on it. She’s classy, which is just another reason I am into her. She has a BF who seemed cool enough to me, the one time I met him at a party. She has started to get jealous of me talking to other women lately, it’s obvious, and I was like “What the hell is going on?” so I decided to ask her friend.

 

Her friend said their relationship is rocky. The guy has serious jealousy issues and apparently really does not like me because he saw us flirting a little and having a good time at that one party, the one time her met me. Ever since, I guess she has been trying to avoid hanging out in places where I am, because her long distance BF gives her a hard time, but she usually ends up coming anyway lol. She’s a good girl so I am guessing the dude is just really insecure with himself. I had no idea any of this background drama was happening until very recently, when I talked to her friend.

 

BLAH! DRAMA, exhausting, I know. What would you guys recommend? Let her know that I feel that we have a strong connection and I am really interested in her? I am sure her friend will spill the beans that I am into her at some point but it might be better to tell her myself?

 

I have no doubt in my mind that she is very interested in me, I think if I just push a little more it might reach the tipping point.

Edited February 5, 2014 by HofbrauBock
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[HofbrauBock]

Here is the reality. Women in college have a boyfriend after the 1st two weeks of the semester. If you want anyone of them that is worth quality, you are going to have to give something in return if you want them to jump ship. You should just sleep with them and then try for the relationship. If they choose you then they dump their boyfriends.

 

Every girl I knew in college had a boyfriend. Seriously. Don't bother walking around looking for the single ones after the 1st week. Its nearly impossible. If you get opportunities you take them, drama be damned. Just exercise caution obviously. I'd like a hot single girl to fall into my life too, but its much more common that if shes hot shes got a bf. Either that or shes crazy.

 

 

 

I really agree with your post. I keep telling myself to wait around for a "Single girl who I am attracted to and I get along with". Meanwhile, in my pants, my testicles are shriveling up and my dick ran off and attached itself to some guy who is actually getting some.

[oldshirt]

I keep telling myself to wait around for a "Single girl who I am attracted to and I get along with".

 

If you wait for the pretty, personable and sane girls to be completely free and clear of any dating entanglements, you are going to spend your life waiting on th sidelines while the guys that are willing to risk some drama, contro and maybe even a few bloody noses are going to be the ones getting the girls.

[oldshirt]

 

What would you guys recommend? Let her know that I feel that we have a strong connection and I am really interested in her?

 

I have no doubt in my mind that she is very interested in me, .

 

 

Just ask her out. There is no reason to show her your hand and spill your guts at all.

 

Just ask her out. By asking her out, you will demonstrate that your are interested.

 

If she accepts, she demonstrates that she is interested.

 

Actions always speak louder than words.

[HofbrauBock]

Just ask her out. There is no reason to show her your hand and spill your guts at all.

 

Just ask her out. By asking her out, you will demonstrate that your are interested.

 

If she accepts, she demonstrates that she is interested.

 

Actions always speak louder than words.

 

 

Sounds good to me. I'll toss my line out there and see if she bites. She ended up going to a party that I was at a few nights ago and mentioned to me that 'her boyfriend has no idea that she is there' and she was 'pretending to be going to sleep by her texts' lol. Maybe she I trying to hop on the next branch. I'll let you guys know how it ends up next week.

[man_in_the_box]

Go ahead and I hope someone plows your future girlfriend in return because they like risking a bit of drama.