Dating single parents with full vs partial custody

[irc333]

I had recently been corresponding with a woman online for a few times. Very good volley, she really liked my initial email.

 

However, come to find out she has full custody of her children. Usually this is kind of a deal breaker with me, because every time I dated a woman with full custody, they never really had time to date.

 

They were usually caught up in the kids activities like they'd volunteer to ferry around the kids friends for Cub Scouts, Soccer, etc. Have the her kids friends over to swim at the pool, etc.

 

Some single mothers would always have the house where the parents would send THEIR kids over to play.

 

She claims she doesn't do that anymore and now keeps it a sanctuary and won't allow such things. She pretty much keeps to herself. Also, with full custody come the ability to not have to deal with the "Ex" anymore. There's lack of drama in her case.

 

So she had a defense in her situation, but in my experience there's always a situation where if someone had full custody of the children , I figured it's best for them to start dating when the kids are at least at the age where they are having their own dating interests or they're old enough to use the microwave, etc.

 

I'm not sure if anyone can concur? (Not being judgmental here, just curious as to what the trend is when it comes to dating parents who have kids FULL time)

[amaysngrace]

Full custody does not mean that the other parent never gets visitation.

 

When my children were small I had full custody and still plenty of time for sexy time.

 

If you're truly interested in this woman why don't you make time to spend with her while she's busy with her children? My guy came to soccer games and school functions with me when they were small. Why can't you?

[Tayken]

I'm not sure if anyone can concur? (Not being judgmental here, just curious as to what the trend is when it comes to dating parents who have kids FULL time)

 

Here is the blunt answer and one way to look at the situation.....Personal experience, I overlooked this when I met my ex who had full custody of her child. When I told her I wanted out, she tried to pull the full custody stunt saying I can have our child every other weekend.....after 5 months in mediation, I served her ass and all of a sudden she agreed in her response to 50/50

 

So when I hear / see that a woman her full custody, it's usually a red flag. If you decide to pursue a relationship with her......you could be looking at a mirror image of what is going to happen to you

 

Unless a parent is abusive, a drunk / drug user....parents shouldn't seek full custody based on their own hidden agenda.

[irc333]

Here is the blunt answer and one way to look at the situation.....Personal experience, I overlooked this when I met my ex who had full custody of her child. When I told her I wanted out, she tried to pull the full custody stunt saying I can have our child every other weekend.....after 5 months in mediation, I served her ass and all of a sudden she agreed in her response to 50/50

 

So when I hear / see that a woman her full custody, it's usually a red flag. If you decide to pursue a relationship with her......you could be looking at a mirror image of what is going to happen to you

 

Unless a parent is abusive, a drunk / drug user....parents shouldn't seek full custody based on their own hidden agenda.

 

 

Well, in this woman's case that I've been speaking with, the father decided to duck out of the picture altogether. Even bailed on his child support. She's fine with this and says her children are flourishing well without him these days.

[carhill]

Dated a number of women who had full custody and had two LTR's with such women. No big issues. Sometimes there were 'family' dates, sometimes mom got a sitter, sometimes the kids went over to grandparents or friends. I never saw their having full custody as any sort of impediment. Of course, I understood that, push come to shove, their kids came first and I respected that. If I wanted to always potentially be numero uno, I'd date a single childless woman. Ultimately I did, and married her.

 

Come to think of it, I can't recall any woman who specifically said she had partial custody, but perhaps that's reflective of age. At most, men were 'every other weekend' fathers during the majority of my dating years, so I guess in a sense the lady had 'partial' custody but it sure seemed like full-time to me.