txgrl Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Did it ever concern you if the MW had kids? Did you ever think abt how it might impact them if your A with MW came out? Or was it another thing abt her tht you just blocked out? OW , plz do chime in too but sometimes I feel that women are more emotional and maternal anyways , so they must think abt MM kids.. Did u? Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 While not single, xmw had a daughter as well and to be honest I never thought We'd get caught so I didn't think of the impact. One day her daughter told me she loved me and I think that scared the crap out of xmw, maybe brought the consequences to light for her Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I have four children and my MM was very concerned how it could impact my children. He has no children. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Did it ever concern you if the MW had kids? Did you ever think abt how it might impact them if your A with MW came out? IME, I knew she had a daughter before I knew she was a MW so didn't really give it much thought. We were all pretty young and her daughter was a toddler at that time. Never really gave the 'came out' much thought at that time. I think it was on my mind more 20-something years later when interacting with her daughter as an adult, which I did. Interestingly, her daughter never knew it AFAIK but she saw me a few times as a child because my first LTR, purely coincidently (shocking surprise to me), was with the daughter's best friend's mother! My main thought process back then, now discounted as the ignorance of youth, was father was a drunken dick and didn't deserve such a cute kid. The power of MW was strong Since I had 20+ years to modify that perspective and see the man he really was, you can imagine where it went. You know what they say about truth being 'in the middle'. Yup. TBH, most of the MW's I've interacted with, at any level, have kept their children stuff pretty private. Of course, nowadays, the kids are all adults and have their own kids so it's really irrelevant but I'm thinking back 25-30 years. Link to post Share on other sites
wasntlooking Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 My XMM and I talkdd about our kids a lot. When i knew they were sick id ask him how they were doing. And vice versa. We were both very much about our kids, so that was the main reason i broke it off with him. Eventually i started thinking i did not want innocent childrens lives to be broken up because of me. So i ended it. I would have loved him children as my own and vicd versa. We both adored our kids and talked about them all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 I left the thinking about one's children to said parents. Why would I wonder about them more than the parent about aftermath of the affair? In regards to general thoughts, yes I acknowledged his kids, asked about them, etc. like I would anyone else. But I did not presume to parent them directly or indirectly. Same thought process now as a step parent. I follow the decisions of their parents, bring forward any issues/concerns to my husband and let him work them out with his ex wife. I will bring up concerns but that is it. Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Did it ever concern you if the MW had kids? Did you ever think abt how it might impact them if your A with MW came out? Or was it another thing abt her tht you just blocked out? OW , plz do chime in too but sometimes I feel that women are more emotional and maternal anyways , so they must think abt MM kids.. Did u? Can't say I am concerned at all. We both know each other's kids, and have the whole time. Link to post Share on other sites
XenoMouse Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 There were no kids involved in my situation but i do think it would have made a difference. Im not a MOM or a MOM with kids and she didnt have any kids either. Im not justifying my actions in anyway but it seemed more like i was getting in the way of a couple rather then a family. If she had kids i would have looked at it from a perspective of possibly breaking up a family and i think that would have affected my decision to pursue the affair and it would have def affected how far i wanted to take it. Link to post Share on other sites
Scotia Posted February 6, 2014 Share Posted February 6, 2014 Both I and my former AP have young kids. It was a huge concern for both of us, and ultimately the main factor that brought about the end of the A. Link to post Share on other sites
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