HeartSprinkles Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 Hello, This is my first post, OH YAY! I have searched the internet high and low for an answer to my question. My question is very simple...does he like me? I am 22 years of age, and I sound like I am in Junior High. Here is the short version of the story... I have recently been liberated from a long relationship, as recently as November. I am feeling really good about myself and I really enjoy being single. I am in college, so I see people all the time, but last semester I met a guy that really changed my mind. We were taking a higher level course at the time and we studied together with other friends often before exams. At this point I was really liking him and then he dropped the bomb...he had a girl friend. I just told myself to forget about it and remeber what being single was all about. The semester progressed and we talked before class all the time. He would always get there early to talk and work with me. The sesmter came to a close and we registered to take a new class together this semester. Here is the new semester. We are in a very high level class. After the first day of class he asked me to call him if I needed help or I wanted to borrow his book. Almost every other day we go after class and get coffee together and sit and chat. We have always laughed a lot and I really enjoy him as a friend. He speaks about his girlfriend with me and I listen. ( he doesn't always say the nicest things about her, which I do not find to be the greatest quality) He tells me about his other friends, his family, and parts of his life. We talk about other people and relationships. We share a lot in common. (he insists that he in a very private person, but he talks with me about issues that i consider to be personal) I want him to be interested in me as a friend more so than anything. I don't want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend b/c that is not my nature. I am really coming across as very pathetic and obsessive, but the words we share and the laughs I do not feel can be dismissed. I just want to know...please help... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 Originally posted by HeartSprinkles I want him to be interested in me as a friend more so than anything. I don't want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend b/c that is not my nature. Then don't give him anything more than you already are: conversation, friendly talk - and be absolutely crystal clear that you have no intention of being his 'other woman' and that you do not date guys who are already involved. Be very firm, and remind him. It sounds like he is interested in you, and if you want it to be 'friends' then you'll have to make sure there are no mixed signals. As for ruining his relationship with his girlfriend, it sounds like he is already well on his way to doing that himself. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 Ok first thing. DONT EVER IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM. That right there would probably put the nail in the coffin. Second, just keep doing what you are doing. You say you just want to be friends, which of course isnt true. But you also dont want him out of your life. So friends is the best option. You are both having a blast together. Im sure hes not going to marry this girl. If you really want to see if he likes you or not, either a) date some guy or b) pretend you met some guy and tell him about it. If he gets all wierd about it, then he definitly has some feelings for you. If not, he still likes his girlfriend and you gotta sit tight as his friend for now. Best thing to do would probably, just casually date some guys in the mean time. It at least puts you on equal footing with this guy...i'll call him billybobjim for now. If you dont, then the whole unavailible jedi mind trick will get you. we always want what we cant have. So you liked him before, and if you dont watch it he will be all you think about. Just move on temporarly for now. Be cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartSprinkles Posted January 29, 2005 Author Share Posted January 29, 2005 Here is the update.... It has been a few weeks since the semester started and we talk after class almost everyday, like it is almost expected of me to go with him for coffee. This past Tuesday we had a quiz in our class and we always work in assigned teams. His team finished way before mine, at least 15 minutes. I saw him leave and I looked down at my paper b/c I didn't want him to think that I was a freak for staring at him...(but we are kind of friends, I'm crazy). I noticed him look at me, and I felt bummed b/c he left. So, I finished my quiz with my group after 15 minutes elapsed. I leave class, not expecting him to wait for me b/c I don't think that we have that kind of friendship or he would even think of me in that way you think of someone when you wait for them. I turned the corner, and he was waiting for me. My heart melted. I don't want to over analyze, but you folks that have been in college ot in school with someone you like...this could mean a lot. Please let me know what you think.... Link to post Share on other sites
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