previous situation.. changed now what do I do ? LATEST UPDATE !

[mixwell]

So here is the latest update I have on my current situation. Im going to quickly explain it from the beginning for those of you who don't know my situation so here is a little history.

 

I was with my ex for 7 years. I moved out of state in September and she broke up with me about 2 weeks after being back there. She was going to move back but I decided it wasn't a good idea. Anyways she started hanging out with this guy friend all the time and ignoring me a little. I decided to move back out to California where she is and wanted to work things out with her. We got along fine and hung out but then she started to not want to hang out and make up excuses. She still acts jealous and asks me if I'm hooking up with this one girl I know and asks about the other girl? I dont know any other girl. She was trying to see that for herself. She has done other things like look at recepts i have and asking me about them as if it were a phone number and what not. Then on New Years eve I called her to see if she wanted to hang out and she said no. So when i was getting off the phone she was like have fun and be careful. I was like yeah i know. She said no im serious be careful.

 

So now the current situation

 

 

I just found out that she is going out with this guy friend, so now I know why she has been avoiding me and this and that. She still denied it though and I have asked her numerous times. Today is the 6th day of me not calling her. She called me 2 days ago but i was asleep and didnt answer or return her call. I think this relationship is just a crutch for her but who knows. The best thing I can do is keep up with the NC. I do want to tell her though that I know she is with him and ask her if she feels like she would rather be with him rather than work things out with us. Obviously she has made her mind up for the time but I would like to know whats in her mind.

 

Im sure I wont though and thus I am not going to even ask her because im just going to get a lie or nothing at all. I know that her heart and feelings for me are still there but I think she is still hurt about me moving away and leaving her. I mean when she was telling me to be careful on new years and i said ok and she said no i mean it be careful. Whats that about ? I know she would be happy if we got back together. There has been a lot of thinking on my end on how the relationship coulda been better. We both got stuck in a boring rut and didn't really go out and do things too often. But now I would like to do all those things and show her how much I love her but I cant. Also she asks me if i have a job yet and a place. She said this bothered her before that she worked and all I did was go to the gym late at nite and not work. So she had txt messaged me before I went into the NC saying that i am back to my old self again.

 

I am 21 as well as her and everything sexually has been the 1st with each other. We have such a strong history and have basically grown up together. I know she loves me as much as I love her but I think she is confused. I have asked her a while ago if there was a chance we would be together again in the future and she said possible. She said I dont know the future but she didn't just say NO i am done with you forever.

 

 

So has anyone been in this situation? I am sticking to NC and letting her call me but im going to keep the convos short. There are soo many questions I want to ask her though but I know that I will not get any answers. She is going to have to decide what she wants and I know there is nothing I can do about it. I am bettering my life though and hopefully tomorrow I find out if I get this job and if soo I am moving into a place right after. I have cash saved up but I need a job to qualify.

 

sometimes I get thoughts in my head. I keep thinking this is it were not going to be together. But you know what, i dated other girls when I broke up with her and she probablly thought that that was it for us too but I always came back to her because I love her and wanted to be with her. So I think thats how she is but then theres always that thought in the back of mind saying what if it isn't the same as it was when I broke up with her. What if that is the end of us.. You all know what im saying ,. So I'm trying to keep those thoughts outta my head, but its making me crazy !! I do hope that she is going through a phase though and it will pass but who knows.........

 

Any ideas/opinions ??

[FluffyCuffs]

Hi,

 

It sounds to me as though she isn't sure what she wants at this moment in time. On one hand she loves you and wants to be with you, but on the other there's that reservation that you may decide to leave her behind again.

 

It's difficult enough to lose someone you're deeply in love with once, but the thought of losing that person again is a heartache many people aren't willing to risk, no matter how much they may want to.

 

Maybe she just needs to find her feet, see if the relationship really is worth taking that risk for, date other guys and try to determine if you're the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.

 

At the moment she's probably very unsure of how to play things with you; you're saying that you love her and want to give the relationship another try, but in her mind she's probably thinking, "Yes, but you said you loved me before, and look what happened between us."

 

She's more than likely feeling rejected, hurt, insecure, etc and from the sounds of things, is very unsure if what you're saying to her is the truth.

 

What I would suggest you do is NOT do the NC thing. She needs reassurance that you're there for her, and aren't planning on leaving her again anytime soon. Ignoring her calls and texts will only add to what she's thinking, and that is, if you left me once, you can easily do it again. Your ignorance is doing nothing but confirming this to her.

 

I'm not saying that you should beg her for another chance, or constantly bug her, but make sure that her calls are answered and returned, and that her messages are being replied to. That way, she'll start to come around to the idea that you're serious about her, your relationship, and that you don't plan on disappearing for a second time.

 

Be there for her, as and when, she requires you to be. Inititating a text or phone call every so often won't do any harm either. She may not answer your call, or text you back right away, but you can rest assured that every piece of evidence that you're still around for her, will never be far from her mind.

 

Give her time to think things through, and hopefully everything will work out in the best way possible for the both of you.

 

x

[mixwell]

Fluffy ...Yeah but the thing is, is that I told her I was sorry for moving away and that I never meant to hurt her.. She is in a weird living condition right now (with her friends grandpa) I said i was going to be getting a place and I wanted her to move in and she was like maybe if we were together. I was like okay well its not me thats stopping it. Ive told her over and over I am there for her and that I love her and I'd never hurt her again and all that. So she knows that I care about her and I've tried my hardest. And the thing with NC is that whenever I call or want to hang out she is always too busy.. I always get i dont know. She avoids me. Why would she deny being with this guy also ?? She must have been seeing this guy even when I was still back there. I wish that she would have at least told me the truth but she lies and denies that shiz. She knows that I care about her i mean i told her that the main reason for me moving back was for her but i also said i just like it in cali better anyways.. So she doesnt believe that a big reason was for her. But it was so I dont know i said that i was there for her and all that but she seems to push away my offers. I think she needs to know that she is going to lose me. SO i dont know.

 

Thanks for the advice.

 

!

[strange love]

Mixwell I really think getting a job would help

when you get a place great

 

No sense trying to win her back without either of these

 

Just like my ex.. she has issues with my shop being disorganized thats something im working on plus other things..

 

She isnt going to agree to living with you if u dont have a place. Anything will take time, but first steps are a job and a place..

 

ok thats all I have to say

[Universe]

I would return her calls to. I'm in a very similar situation. I haven't get her back yet. But you shouldn't be rude and avoid her like that unless it's totally over and you're trying to get over her. It doesn't sound like you're trying to get over her.

I would take and return her calls, call her every so often, and don't apply any pressure. You guys were together 7 years. Not just 7 years, but the most formative 7 years of your adult life. There's so much growing to be done in that period. Give her some air. If you love her, then show her you love her by being there for her while at the same time giving her some air. This other guy is part of her growing experience. Let her grow. In the meantime, take the limited opportunities you have to show her how much you've grown and how fun, exciting, and sexy you are now.

 

All the best.

[mixwell]

I know what you're saying universe.. I am not being trying to be rude or anything by not answering the phone. She just called when I was sleeping and I decided not to call back that day. I have told her that I was there for her and all that and I care. She doesn't seem to care though. I try to be there for her and ask her if she wants to hang out and do something but it seems like she never wants to. So if anyone is avoiding it is her. I will talk to her but not until she calls me again. Here is what me calling (in my mind) is going to be saying to her

 

hey whats up i havent talked to you in a while bla blah.. to her she is thinking "yeah he is weak and i knew he would give in. i still have him strung along" I dont know thats how i feel. I would really be dissappointed if i called her only to hear the same shiz. then i will regret having called her.

 

let me as this question for you all

 

DO YOU THINK THAT I SHOULD CALL HER AND TRY TO TALK OR HANG OUT WITH HER AND TELL HER HOW I FEEL ABOUT EVERYTHING ?

 

I just want to ask her if she'd rather be with this guy rather than work things out between us. I want to tell her that when i broke up with her and dated I never did this and ask her why shes being avoiding. I want to tell her that I want to be her man and stand by her side and take care of her and love her. I want to let her know that the time in she spent with me before wasn't wasted and I want us to continue to experience life together.

 

I cant tell her this though right ?? because I will be coming off as weak and needy.. as well all know women dont like that blah blah blah... So what do I do ?? Ive told my parents about it and talked to them and it helps but it seems like i cannot tell the person that I really want to...

 

Please give me an idea ?? I want to call soo bad and talk to her but I shouldn't and I feel like im going to crack any minute.

 

CALL HER ?? OR WAIT FOR HER TO CALL AGAIN ?? What would you do in this case ????

 

Thanks for the help !

 

PS. This is the 7th day I haven't talked to her, which is the longest that we have gone without ANY communication the whole time I have known her !!

[strange love]

Look

 

let me tell you a f----ing story

 

One day I had this girlffriend snd she said I need a man with more ambition and etc etc so im breaking up with you.

 

And so what could I do back then if someone wasnt interested I didnt bother them.

 

I went and started my first bike store. I was pretty busy with that and who shows up one day ..gee it was her..

 

So once again

 

JOB

J-O-B LA OCUPATIONAOINE

 

The place part would be good too, unless you could like say take over your parents basement and make a cool little apartment.

 

Talk is cheap.. Oh baby oh baby im gonna do this im gonna do that

 

You know what I say

BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH

etc

 

ok..?

[mixwell]

I know what you are saying strangelove but I dont think that it is really because of me not having a place.. Yes it bothered her before that I didn't have a job. But this other guys has less than I do. He doesnt even have a license or a car.. not even a cell phone. He goes to drug class. My only problem would be that i dont have a job but I do have a lot of money saved up. So I dont think it is about materialistic shiz but i admit she seems like she doesnt want me to get back into the same routine of no job and basically being back to my "old self" Ok so strangelove when I get a job, or assuming the job WASN'T an issue... Then what would you say to my question on the previos post ??

[davecity]

hey mixwell,

 

I am in a similar situation so here are my thoughts. You and your ex were together for 7 years which is a substantially long time however, both of you are still VERY young, especially since both of you were each other's first everything. It is hard to distinguish between loving someone and growing use to the intimacy and dependency on another and when that is stripped away, for both parties, dumper and dumpee, it is devastating. I do not agree with fluffy in keeping up contact and letting her know that you are there for her. From what you have said and already done, it is obvious in her eyes that you care deeply for her and will continue to do so. It is good that you did not call her back after you missed her call because if it were an emergency or she needed to talk to you, she would've left a message or tried calling you again. At the same time, I wouldn't disregard her entirely but you need to distance yourself from the emotional attachment that you guys once had. Even though she is seeing another guy, emotionally she is still probably thinking about you and therefore is sometimes prone to picking up the phone and calling you. Her calling you does not necessarily mean she wants to get back together with you but simply to check up on you. It is terrible that she is keeping you on edge because she is unsure about the future of your relationship but you CANNOT dwell on this fact. Right now you are probably hanging onto the thread of hope that you will eventually get back together but this will only devastate you more. You need to find another source of stress relief and enjoyment. Perhaps getting a job will help you to get over her.

 

If she calls again, keep it brief and don't be her shoulder to cry on. Be cordial but let her know you are trying to move on by updating her on your life. Don't ask her if she wants to hang out. That gives her too much power. If you empower yourself by taking on ne activities, jobs etc, then she will see that you are changing and perhaps doubt her decision.

 

hope that helped

 

david

[strange love]

im not saying materialistic is a motivation

 

should you call her.,.. no

email her...um let me see ..no

text her... why bother.. write a poem instead.. maybe save it for her when she is nice to you.. wow theres an idea..

look i didnt call my ex for 3 whole months or email her

why do you whine about 7 days..?

 

What is DRUG CLASS?

 

I love it "he doesnt even have a cell phone" great.. our position in life is determined wheter or not we have a cell phone.

 

having trouble keeping your mind off her? why not go burry your head in some other girls lap for a few hours..

 

 

Just let her come to you.. be nice and sweet maybe be a little cocky.. I wish you could see some of the things I have done.. but whatever those days are over.

I wonder if I could turn you into super player.. and no not like players of today im talking more like u know monkey hustle style or starsky n hutch or the all time king

 

SHAFT

 

Hey baby can I buy you a fish sandwich?

get somethijg going with that internet chick and while your busy with that your ex is

liable to show up..ok?

The idea is finding stuff to do

For me what I do.. well I slut my self around a bit.. I do things here at the shop.. I cultivate other relationships ie friendships..

[mixwell]

see I agree with you David, but fluffy gave me that little change of opinion I am used to hearing... No offense to her but since she now knows that i care and have let her know I am there I would like an update from fluffy if she runs into this thread again.... I know my ex is still thinking about me but I always get thoughts in my head about what if she is having soo much fun with this guy and she is forgetting about me... BUT I KNOW THAT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR HER TO BE LIKE THAT.. You cannot just forget someone who has been the most important person in your life.. I hope that when she is thinking about me though that she feels the emptiness that I feel. (not to be mean but you know what i mean) I think when she calls I will not tell her everything going on with me but just kinda broadly describe it by saying I have been busy improving my life.. I will not say all the things I am doing and go into detail. That was it will arouse her curiosity. I have a feeling though that once I get my own place she is going to be calling more because she is SOO jealous she is going to have all these thoughts in her head. Do I have girls over there ? Im not going to use it though to make her jealous or be a dlck but i know that it will make her jealous and let all these thoughts run through her mind. O well though, she had the chance to move in with my but says "I would if we were together" WTF is that ? Uhh you have a current b/f and your telling me that you would if we were together ??? well bitch you are the one that doesnt want to be together so i dont know what you are talking about.. (sorry) Anyways thanks davecity !!

 

Take care.

[mixwell]

sorry I mean drug rehab class.. I was just bringing up that IF it were because of me not having this or that.. this guy has less and I know a cell phone isnt my idea of sucess... forget I mentioned it.. I know I am whining bout 7 days but I have never been through this before and I am just trying to make sure that I am doing the right thing. burying my face in some other girls lap isnt a bad idea.. but id like it to be the other way around strangelove haha.. ohh boy I wish i had alzheimers so I could forget about this shlt right now.. (not really i dont wish i had it)

 

Alright im out.. peace..

[Universe]

hey whats up i havent talked to you in a while bla blah.. to her she is thinking "yeah he is weak and i knew he would give in. i still have him strung along" I dont know thats how i feel. I would really be dissappointed if i called her only to hear the same shiz. then i will regret having called her.

 

let me as this question for you all

 

DO YOU THINK THAT I SHOULD CALL HER AND TRY TO TALK OR HANG OUT WITH HER AND TELL HER HOW I FEEL ABOUT EVERYTHING ?

 

First: You were together for 7 years. After that long, she's not going to be saying to herself, "I still have him strung along." It's not like that. Obviously she feels that something in the relationship was damaged or was damaging her and she wanted to stop it. So if you want her back, you have to really think about what got damaged and how. Look at some books on relationships. Most problems in relationships have the same or a similar source. Then you need to show her that you've changed whatever it was that was causing the damage from your end. To tell her this will do little and can hurt (i.e. Who are you trying to convince?). You must show her through action and attitude during whatever contact you have.

 

ok - She called you last, right? So you can call her back without appearing weak. Returning a call is not weak. Think about it. Now, what you say when you call her back is another story. You can very easily appear weak by saying the wrong thing once you've called. So I say you should call her back. But make sure you're in a good head space when you do it. Make sure you're relaxed and feeling comfortable with yourself. Be positive. Get it through your head that she is taking steps to move on with her life independent of you. If you can't respect that, then you don't really love her and you need to take some time to think about who you really are and what your love really is.

If you can respect the fact that she's trying to grow and create a better situation for herself, then you can mention that you know about her dating the other guy. Don't act threatening at all. Just calmly say, "I heard that you and (so and so) are together now." Then wait for her to respond. She'll either confirm it or deny it. Either way, you must accept it in stride and just say, "I understand."

So you can "CALL HER AND TRY TO TALK OR HANG OUT WITH HER". But DO NOT tell her how you feel about everything. Do not talk about the past unless she brings it up. She knows that you still want her, correct? So there's no need to repeat the fact. To pour your needy heart out will only push her further away. You need to determine whether what you're feeling is derived from need and insecurity or from love and respect. Telling her how you feel is a need that you are having. It does nothing for her unless she doesn't already know how you feel. So don't bring it up. If she brings it up, then by all means, be honest with her. But do not gush on her and do not press her to come back. Doing so will serve the opposite.

You are trying to establish a rapport with her. This will open the door for her to respect and love you again. Whether or not she chooses to walk through is COMPLETELY out of your control. But whether or not you create a situation for that door to be opened IS within your control. But it's up to you to open it.

 

Good luck.

[mixwell]

Sorry Universe the reason we did break up was because of me moving out of state and not being there.. We had our little fights here and there but the relationship was going good. But moving away was what did it. I mean there were little things but if I had not moved away we would still be together. I still think I want to wait for her to call me again. IF I decide to call her back I'm just going to say oh i saw you called me on Friday. I will act like I didn't notice and that i am just returning her call and I will keep it short. But i dont think as of this moment that I am going to call her back. I have a feeling she will be calling me in the next couple of days because with her being at work she is going to really be wondering why i havent called since she will have idle time on her hands. i dont know thats what I feel. She had this past weekend off and yesterday so I am sure she has hang out so she didn't have time to just literally sit there and think about it.. Who knows. I will just be waiting for her to call me. In the meantime I am just worrying about getting my life together and getting a damn job and looking for an apartment.

 

Take care !

[strange love]

Gosh you are high maintenance Mixwell

 

Heres another tip for you

 

want a better insight into how women think go to the comic book store and grab one of those true romance issues

 

I jus want to say when I post to you its from experience... I would hope you heed my advice..

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

ohh boy I wish i had alzheimers so I could forget about this shlt right now..

 

my grandmother has alzheimers and it is devastating for her and all our family

 

i wouldn't joke about that one dude or wish that

 

i know you are only joking but how about getting hypnotised to completely forget her?

 

[Universe]

how about getting hypnotised to completely forget her?

 

Someone needs to see Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Anyone going through a break up should see this movie. It's amazing.

[mixwell]

sorry BrainRightHeartWrong I didnt know. So the final verdict ??

 

 

Return her call tomorrow and keep it short and simple ????

OR

Keep up with NC ????

 

Like I said IF I do call I might just say something like I was scrolling through the recent calls in my cell and noticed you called on Friday and that I never received the missed call . Im going to just keep the convo short and simple IF I do call.. what say ye the people of this thread ??

[Universe]

I still say call her.

 

I was scrolling through the recent calls in my cell and noticed you called on Friday and that I never received the missed call.

 

Say that. Keeping it short and simple is best. Little good can be accomplished over the phone. If you want her back, try to focus more on the moments that you are physically together. But on the phone, be calm, pleasant, and confident.

 

Do what you want. But I don't think ignoring her will do anything to win her back.

[mixwell]

ok universe ! I think i will call her tomorrow when I get up and just chat for a little bit. I will call her at work, because that way she wont be hanging out with someone or whatever. Im sure she will be in a better mood to because she can kill a little time at work.. So unless i get a bunch of posts later on today saying NO dont call then I think I will call her.. The anticipation right now is high !! haha o well im going to bed its already 5am !! So I will update this after I call her if there is anything interesting we talk about.. Until tomorrow .......

 

Peace

[mixwell]

So I called my ex at work and chatted for a little bit. She said "I was just thinking about why you haven't called me" She said she thought that I was mad at her. I told her no I wasn't and that I just checked my phone for the recieved calls and I saw she called and thats why I was calling her back right now. She asked if I had a girlfriend yet and i said no. She asked about Diana (my chick friend) and I said we hang out sometimes. I then told her that I ran into some girl from high school that we kinda knew and talked to her blah blah... I then said "I just figured you didn't call me because you were busy with your boyfriend" She was like and who is that ? I said the guy you've been hanging out with all the time. She kept saying no sorry I dont think so. Then I said its ok you don't have to deny it. I was like its obvious and I figured it out by now that you are with him and she still denied it. I know she is going out with him because I saw an email of hers saying hey stud blah blah and then XOXO ?? She wouldnt say stud and XOXO is otherwise. I know my ex and she isn't like that with friends...Then I changed the subject and chatted a little more and said so what are you doing today? she said going to her aunts.. I said so you probly wouldnt wana do anything later huh? she said no im supposed to watch a movie tonight.. blah blah... So I said ok well call me if you want to. she said ok and we hung up....

 

My question is why would she deny them being together soo bad even though I basically said I figured it out that you are going out ?? Do you think that she thinks that if I knew that I would lose interest or what ? Does she just still want me to think that there is a chance ?? I dont get it... And why is she asking if I have a gf yet and asking about my chick friend ?? I want to tell her that I have physical proof that they are together and what not.. I just dont know why she lies bout it? I found out by checkin email but how can I tell her that I know for sure ?? We dont have mutual friends or anything.. I was thinking about just saying I saw her or something ?? We had both been somewhere one day like 2 weeks ago.. Its like a downtown area and she went by the place we used to go eat and have some drinks.. She went with her bf to the movies there and had passed by the place.. I said yea I went there too and she said oh I didnt see you and I said the same.. Do you think I should just say I saw the two of them holding hands or something ? I dont know what I can say about how I know for sure.. I am not going to say I saw the email !!

 

So what can I do to let her know ?? and what do you think of the convo ??

 

I just feel like calling her back just to say stop lying I know for sure and you can say no but I have seen otherwise. I dont know how to say it in a nice way. I just want her to admit she is going out with him and stop lying.. I know she might get mad but I dont know.. I just want her to know that I know and to stop lying to me...

 

 

Help me out here people please !!

 

Thanks !!

[strange love]

oK LET ME POINT SOME THINGS OUT TO YOU

 

welcome to pyschology 101

 

She said "I was just thinking about why you haven't called me" She said she thought that I was mad at her.

This shows you are on her mind..

 

She asked if I had a girlfriend yet and i said no.

honestly thats all you had to say.. you could have added in im dating or..

 

I just figured you didn't call me because you were busy with your boyfriend" She was like and who is that ? I said the guy you've been hanging out with all the time. She kept saying no sorry I dont think so.

 

Ok DUH she said this cause she doesnt want to scare you completely off....

 

But you started in with the other crap..

You should have made up and excuse to go then, saying damn I have to go meet someone.. just to see what she would say.

 

You still havent bothered to figure out what is she really likes.. When things are going good you start in about the other guy.. if she had a good time talking to you she would probably ask u out or agree to hang out with you finally.

But your not consistant.

 

In any case you will read this and completely disregard any advice from me as you usually do.

 

strange love

[mixwell]

let me continue the story I thought was finished.. So i hang up with her and then she calls me back again was like ohh soo lets finish our convo.. I was thinking WTF ? I thought we had already.. So basically i told her that I knew she was with him blah blah and she keeps denying it.. She then kept on questioning me about my chick friend and some other girl that I knew from highschool.. So we still had a nice little chat and all that. We hung up.. She then calls me back again and we talk a little longer.. I mean this is all within like 5 min intervals.. So we talk again and she says something to the effect that I should get a house out here with the money I have and I said I dont even have enough for a down payment.. I said maybe if I had someone else to help me I would. She said well I don't have anyone either and I said well I am not the one that is stopping anything. She said yeah you are.. So I was like how ?? she said because Im hanging out with girls now!! ?? I was like no you broke up with me.. So the convo still wasn't bad though I mean we did talk about it.. But she was like dood if i were going out with him I would tell you and I wouldn't lie.. So maybe I am taking the email too seriously ?? but saying whats up stud and XOXO I still don't get.. Anyways I said well you can call me to and if you are bored just hit me up and we can hang out. I said it wouldn't hurt you to hang out with me for 1 day (in a joking manner) I am kinda glad that we did talk though because she had thought that I was mad at her. So it was a good chat but I still don't know if she is with him or not but I also got to get out that I am hanging out with girls and I am improving. And by saying the thing with the house and saying it isn't me stopping anything from us getting back together it lets her know that kinda also but I didn't say anything in a needy way though.. So now I will go back to NC and let her call me and make the next move..

 

Sorry strangelove I wrote this before reading your post and i just type all this out. so I am going to read your post and respond again..

 

So here is the latest update AGAIN !!

[mixwell]

Ok strangelove now I am ready to respond..

 

It honestly made me feel good to know that I was on her mind. I know what you are saying strangelove about not bringing up the relationship stuff but even though I DID (like a dumb as$) things still went pretty well. Like I said she called me back 2 times after the 1st inital call I made to her.. This was all in like a 30 min interval. She seemed like she really wanted to talk to me. I know you shouldnt bring up the past and this and that but its like once I got on the phone I started thinking about this stuff and then my dumbas$ side kicked in and I started asking questions..

 

She was also asking me a lot of questions though too. I mean not just the chick friend and the other I told you about from highschool. But like I said I had eaten at this really good brazilian place with my friends and she was like with who? and i mentioned my guy friends and she was like oh so there weren't any girls there? And she brought it up a couple of other times. So it sounds like she really wanted to know what girls (if any) i was involved with. After talking to her though I decided that if she calls me again I will not talk about that stuff again and just have a normal convo... Like you said strangelove by keeping up a good convo and not talkin about the relationship she will call me more and be more likely to hang out.

 

I invited her to call me when she wants to and if she is bored or something we can hang out if I am not busy. Also though she sounded really kinda sad on the phone like before we hung up. Kinda bummed out like the way she said I have to go I have customers il talk to ya later. and when she said bye.. she sounded like she really wanted to keep talking to me.

 

Also real quick about that girl I ran into from highschool i said i got her number and this and that. She was like do you think she is cute. I said shes not bad. She asks if she was hitting on me and this and that and said be careful of the girls you're hanging out with they just want your money.. haha.. It was in a joking manner but I dont know. I hate to repeat myself but SHE WAS REALLY QUESTIONING ME ABOUT OTHER GIRLS !!.. So I am going back to NC like i said and we will see what happens from here...

 

It was nice talking to her though and we will see how long it takes her to call me back..

 

OK thats it for now... I do listen to your advice also bro !!

 

I will keep you updated.. peace...

[whoaNelly]

Careful bro she could just be stringin you along makin sure she has a backup plan. Girls are vindictive like that and you got to be careful don't play with fire cuz in the end you'll end up getting burnt. Take it slow and at the same time make sure to live your own life. Folow your heart but at the same time don't let your mind (and her) play trick on you.

 

Take Care, God Bless and good luck