kart180 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 PS Kart, your Just British. Not English, no such thing. I am a Brit. (Please thats not an invitation to quibble) Oh no more speificly I am a South Londoner but now live in Florida. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyHonesty Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Which is why you need to practice to get over it! Just ask a woman for advice on some item you're looking at or if she's looking at a computer mention how such and such computer is better, etc.. Even if the goal isn't to ask her out but just to get over your issues of anxiety of communicating with women! I think a much better way to get over that is to visit a new and reasonably exciting area. When you get lost, pick some of the women to ask for directions. This way it's more natural because it's genuine, after all you really have no idea where the hell you are going. Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyHonesty Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I know single women do shop for food but I just communication problems. Unless its about computing or tv shows I really can keep a conversion in person. I can text and IM a women no problem. Just in person I freeze up If you freeze up in person, it could be you are seeing or viewing women as beyond human, placing them on a pedestal or building them up to be much more than they are. They are just normal human beings and as soon as you see them as this, talking to them won''t be a problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks, I will try and do that, I am just good at chating online to people more than in person. The computer buying tip is a good one. have you ever tried to google "How to talk to women"? There are lot of online websites that give good adivce on talking to women. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 If you freeze up in person, it could be you are seeing or viewing women as beyond human, placing them on a pedestal or building them up to be much more than they are. They are just normal human beings and as soon as you see them as this, talking to them won''t be a problem. have you ever tried to google "How to talk to women"? There are lot of online websites that give good adivce on talking to women. I do sometimes do that to women, OnlyHonesty, i do go all in when i meet a women. Thanks for the advice, jcrew11, did watch some youtube videos about talking to women however, if i try that the women will think of this asian guy is trying to pick me up and walk away. No white women will want me. Im just going to be lonely forever. Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I do sometimes do that to women, OnlyHonesty, i do go all in when i meet a women. Thanks for the advice, jcrew11, did watch some youtube videos about talking to women however, if i try that the women will think of this asian guy is trying to pick me up and walk away. No white women will want me. Im just going to be lonely forever. Get over your thing for only white women or you probably will be lonely forever. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Get over your thing for only white women or you probably will be lonely forever. Thanks, I don't mind dating white , Latino or Asian women. Latinos are nice but I just wish I speak better Spanish. Asian being South Asian and Korean . Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 You can meet nice guys everywhere. Who's around when you get your morning coffee or have lunch? If someone catches your eye, smile at him & say hi. Have you told the married women you work with that you would be open to meeting their husband's single friends? Volunteering & getting involved in hobby groups that interest you are good ideas. You will already have something in common. I am self employed, so I work for my self and have employees. I dont go to starbucks or any coffee place since I make my own coffee in the coffee maker. When said a women said she was married I meant hypothetical situation. Yes I do agree that volunteering or hobby groups are good but as I am self employed business owner I have zero time. I may move out and go to college again but wondering what to do. I have two degrees in computing. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 I recall, thinking more exposure to women via volunteering might be an effective strategy, following that path from about age 32 until I got married, with some 'jobs'. I did everything from planting trees with tree huggers to escorting visitors in a rainforest exhibit to processing loans at a financial institution and can't recall ever meeting a single woman. Married women (or women who turned out to be married), tons of them. I was also self-employed but decided to devote the equivalent of another part-time job to meeting women and generally averaged 25-35 hours per week volunteering for about three years. BTW, it was my exW who provided the 'car show' advice, having attended a few with me not five miles from where she grew up in LA. She couldn't believe all the single guys at the car shows we went to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) I think you should focus on finding the reserved, serious, non-party goer types that don't try PUA lines on you. I really doubt anyone is simply ''nice'' for nothing in return. Edited February 13, 2014 by samsungxoxo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 I think you should focus on finding the reserved, serious, non-party goer types that don't try PUA lines on you. I really doubt anyone is simply ''nice'' for nothing in return. Ok I will do that but where do I find it. Link to post Share on other sites
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