borntorun Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 About 2 weeks ago my girlfriend of 5 months told me she wanted to break up. It caught me really off guard because things seemed to be going well. We had spent New Years together and had a nice time, no indications that anything was wrong. I feel like it may be my fault because i have been under a lot of stress with a medical situation within my family and probably did not be as attentive to her as i should have been. She said we were just so different and that i never told her how i felt. That is true, but Im not a very expressive person . I went to see her the following day and told her that i dont want to break up and that i really care about her. The next day was her last day of work (we had worked together which is how we met) I told her my feelings again and she said we could get together that weekend and see what happens. Of course i havent heard from her. I sent her a letter a few days ago and told her i loved her and that id rather not break up. I dont know whether to call her or not. I know this all seems like she wants nothing to do with me but i really think thats not the case.im just not sure what the problem is. any one have any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
jcs0521 Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 I'm afraid no contact is the best thing for you to do. Not easy I know, but contacting her will just push her further away. You've told her how you feel, she knows, telling her over again will just make her resent you. Try to concentrate on yourself, accept what she has told you and if you think there are things you would willingly change about yourself for your own benefit, not just hers, go ahead and do it. Learn from what all this has put you through. Also don't think of her with rose tinted specs, if there are medical problems in your family has she been supportive? Think about the good and bad aspects of your time together. She may contact you in the future, but for now please put yourself first. Don't chase after her. Go out with your friends, do things that make you happy. She'll come back on her own IF she wants to. I know this is hard, but it's the only way. Hugs to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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