i want him back but he has a gf, i have a bf

[venus2]

can someone help me.

 

my so call ex boyfriend and i are seeing other people. What happen is that i cheated on him. i told him that we should see other people so that way we can find out if we really love each other.( trying to prove that you don't know what you have until you lose it). he agreed, confident that i wouldn't see other people, but little did he know i was cheating on him already. Sounds bad i know...but thats not the point. He eventually found out that i was cheating on him by going through my phone and wallet. He was devastated and confronted me. i didn't deny it, but instead yelled at him about going thru my stuff.

 

Any how, he still wanted me around because he loves me and b'cuz of our 7 yr relationship together. 2 1/2 months ago, i found out through his phone's text messages that he's seeing someone...(though he promised he'll tell me if he's seeing someone). he didn't tell me. I wasn't upset i felt relief that i don't have to feel bad about the cheating part. But i don't feel that way anymore. Now that he's with his gf and me with my bf, (we're still seeing each other) some how i feel sad and miss him as a boyfriend. we have talks and sad tearful moments when we talk about the cheating and lies. i feel so sad now that he's not my boyfriend. i know i have a boyfriend and i care and love him to.

 

the funny thing is that my current boyfriend was suppose to be a casual thing but he turned out to be soooo good to me that we became an item...leading me to cheat on my ex boyfriend. im so confused about what i want. after losing him i realized that i still have feelings for him and that i need him still. BUT i love my boyfriend also. i try to accept the fact that its over, but its hard when my ex and i still spend time here and there. Plus he doesn't make it easier when he tells me and text me that he loves me and misses me....even though he's with his gf. What does he want from me? my stuff is still at his place....and we do get intimate when im over. Does that mean he still cares about me? what direction should i go. and if i should let him go and accept the fact that there is no "us" what can i do to surpass that pain and heart ache? beside spending it with my current boyfriend. my ex is always on my mind, now that he's not my boyfriend anymore

 

some how i can't get over him...how can i convince him of having a second chance with me...making him want to be with me and not the other girl? i really can't picture him not in my life. and he says the same about me. But as time flys he won't leave the other girl even though they been together for 2 months and me with my boyfriend almost 2yrs. what should i do?

 

need help badly...he just texted me, telling me he misses me after he spent the whole 4 days with his girlfriend.

[lost_in_chgo]

Why on earth would he want to ruin a perfectly good relationship with his girlfriend?

For what? So he can get cheated on again?

 

If you have any hope, it would probably start with owning up to what you did and begging his forgiveness and never doing it again.

 

This looks to me like a classic scenario.

You don't want him, and you don't want anyone else to have him.

[strange love]

Doesnt life suck?

You have 2 guys into and I have no guys into me.. (wait thats a good thing since im not gay..right ok whew)

 

In any case why the hell did you cheat on him in the first place

I'll tell you why Ego or the other guy provided something that was missing.

 

Can you get him back.. probably guys are alot more stupid then women so you have that in your favour.

 

How to get him back.. thats a bit tricky. I did notice you mentioned you are intimate with him, this means you are both cheating ... Im surprised your new guy hasnt figured out whats going on.

 

You might have a better chance at get your old flame back if you dump your new guy.

 

Or

 

You could see if they might want to time share you..you know one week old flame gets u weekdays and new flame gets u weekends

 

At some point you have to make a choice young jedi..

 

does he really care about you... im sure in some way yes

but at the same time you could be just a booty call... men love those.

 

I would have to think up more ways u could get him back.. but ultimately you have to see it from him side. You cheated on him.. you left him for someone else.. what is his guarrentee you will stick around this time?

 

well... other then that

good luck

and

have a party

[mixwell]

if you think about your ex all the time and shiz im sure you'd rather be with him.. You should tell him that you would like to work things out with him and see how it goes. When I had broken up wit my ex i always thought about her even when i was seeing other girls. I think that is your subconcious telling you what you really want. I just wonder if my ex still thinks about me with her new b/f ?? im sure she does because we have been together for 7 years and she broke up wit me because i moved outta state but i am back now so its weird. I dont know bout my situation. but i would tell him and you're going to have to prove to him that you are there to stay...

 

take care..

 

MixweLL

[VirginiaBob]

I feel so bad for this guy. You seem to be playing games like crazy with both of these guys. You are what is wrong with women and people in general. It's one thing to casually date more than one person, but it's another thing to be emotionally involved with more than one person. It's cheating.