Ronni_W Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 tlees, You are NOT going crazy. I disagree with people who are suggesting to do nothing. Why be passive aggressive about this, and put your marriage at even further risk than it already is? What is it that YOU feel will be your most appropriate course of action at present...other than just ignoring, denying that there is a real and serious problem? Whether it is an emotional affair or there's already been sexual contact between them, YOU are the one who best knows, deep down, what to do that will be best for your marriage under the circumstance. Follow your own heart and instincts on this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 (edited) tlees, You are NOT going crazy. I disagree with people who are suggesting to do nothing. Why be passive aggressive about this, and put your marriage at even further risk than it already is? What is it that YOU feel will be your most appropriate course of action at present...other than just ignoring, denying that there is a real and serious problem? Whether it is an emotional affair or there's already been sexual contact between them, YOU are the one who best knows, deep down, what to do that will be best for your marriage under the circumstance. Follow your own heart and instincts on this. There is no marriage, with a cherry on top. Doing nothing YET is not passive aggressive. (Dude, you're in confirmation bias mode from recent articles). Yas Edited February 7, 2014 by Yasuandio Link to post Share on other sites
lockedoutluv Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 To everyone else, please explain PBJs. I don't understand the code there. I get the BJ part, what is the "P"? So many frustrating codes on this site and the FAQ is completely not updated. Urban Dictionary (the true source for anything current cultural) seems to peg the 'P' as either 'public' or 'private', so I guess you take your pick. But in the context of the thread, I think she is really talking about peanut butter and jelly because she asks "make me". Regardless, there is definitely an EA going on here. If there is any redeeming quality of this conversation, she definitely seems to be trying her best to push him away, but he is very aggressive. Having said that, she could have just closed her browser. It's definitely outside the bounds of your boundaries so you should definitely need to have a conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I agree with the others. Doesn't matter that he is engaged. You can read plenty of stories here of affairs with engaged and married people. If you think this innocent, why was she trying to hide her texting while you two were in a restaurant? She must like him a lot to not even be able to keep from texting him with you right there. They already go to work and school together, yet she is taking time away from you to text him. Expect her to change account passwords soon to ones you won't know, if she doesn't already have a secret email one for him. You might want to set up another email address, that doesn't identify you, and use it as a secondary contact email address for her email account. That way if she changes her email password, you can request it be reset using the secondary email address. It will also probably be used to inform you if she changes her pw. Sure she will realize her pw has been changed if you reset it, but by then you will hopefully have enough evidence. In the meantime, if she does notice the secondary email contact, you can say her account must have got hacked. Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Urban Dictionary (the true source for anything current cultural) seems to peg the 'P' as either 'public' or 'private', so I guess you take your pick. But in the context of the thread, I think she is really talking about peanut butter and jelly because she asks "make me". Regardless, there is definitely an EA going on here. If there is any redeeming quality of this conversation, she definitely seems to be trying her best to push him away, but he is very aggressive. Having said that, she could have just closed her browser. It's definitely outside the bounds of your boundaries so you should definitely need to have a conversation. BJ is a BJ even if you have to P before, or S afterwards. Yas Link to post Share on other sites
lockedoutluv Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 BJ is a BJ even if you have to P before, or S afterwards. Yas Feel free to be focused solely on sex, but the OP is going to look kind of psycho blaming his wife for giving the guy blow jobs, when just perhaps the guy is really good at smearing jam and peanut butter on two slices of bread (which to my read is what it really sounds like). Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 (edited) Feel free to be focused solely on sex, but the OP is going to look kind of psycho blaming his wife for giving the guy blow jobs, when just perhaps the guy is really good at smearing jam and peanut butter on two slices of bread (which to my read is what it really sounds like). Oh dear, maybe you are right, and I'm psycho. Psycho I will not confirm or deny. Hahahahahahahahaha! I seldom use acronyms, but to this poster, LMAO is extremely accurate. Yas PS. Please excuse me. I have to sign off of LS tonite cause my tummy is growling. I'm gonna go fry me up a GCSLWLOB (Grilled Cheese Sandwich Lubricated With Lots Of Butter). Edited February 8, 2014 by Yasuandio PS 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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