hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Well, well, well. I spoke with my case worker and she said that MM called in yesterday after receiving his judgement for childsupport. NOW, he wants to have a DNA test and get a lawyer. Im so pissed off. He's been gone all this time, havent cooperated with ANYTHING. All of a sudden he wants to talk. She said, that her supervisor gave her permission to allow him a week to have his lawyer contact her and if she doesnt hear anything everything will go as planned. He also said he cant pay that much $850 because he has four other kids. He also claimed he never got any of the other paperwork. Well how did you get that?! I dont think its fair, he gets a chance at anything, but hey it is what is. I will be calling her first thing next friday. Link to post Share on other sites
sweet_pea Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Does xMM make a lot of money? And why are you waitin until next Friday to tell his wife? Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 Yes, he does and when I said her I meant my caseworker. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 850 for one child ? Jesus Christ that's outrageous. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Well, well, well. I spoke with my case worker and she said that MM called in yesterday after receiving his judgement for childsupport. NOW, he wants to have a DNA test and get a lawyer. Im so pissed off. He's been gone all this time, havent cooperated with ANYTHING. All of a sudden he wants to talk. She said, that her supervisor gave her permission to allow him a week to have his lawyer contact her and if she doesnt hear anything everything will go as planned. He also said he cant pay that much $850 because he has four other kids. He also claimed he never got any of the other paperwork. Well how did you get that?! I dont think its fair, he gets a chance at anything, but hey it is what is. I will be calling her first thing next friday. That's good - let the DNA test show evidence that he owes for support. It shouldn't really delay his obligation. Link to post Share on other sites
sweet_pea Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Oops, it's Friday so that'll be my excuse for reading that wrong. Thanks for clearing that up for me Link to post Share on other sites
sunburned Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 (edited) He's been gone all this time, havent cooperated with ANYTHING. All of a sudden he wants to talk. She said, that her supervisor gave her permission to allow him a week to have his lawyer contact her and if she doesnt hear anything everything will go as planned. He also said he cant pay that much $850 because he has four other kids. He also claimed he never got any of the other paperwork. Well how did you get that?! . What an asshat. Edited February 8, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fix quote 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 850 for one child ? Jesus Christ that's outrageous. How did they come up with that amount? I have no idea what CS costs are, but that does seem high. He must make a shi.t load of money a month. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 How did they come up with that amount? I have no idea what CS costs are, but that does seem high. He must make a shi.t load of money a month. Yes, he makes good money. I pay childcare so maybe thats how they came up with it. He's a b****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 Oops, it's Friday so that'll be my excuse for reading that wrong. Thanks for clearing that up for me No problem, Sweet pea. Link to post Share on other sites
MissTakes Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 How did they come up with that amount? I have no idea what CS costs are, but that does seem high. He must make a shi.t load of money a month. I don't think that actually sounds like that much at all - I'm assuming the $850 is monthly? The estimate cost of raising a kid is over $250,000, not including college expenses. At $850/month, for 18 years, that comes out to a total of $183,600. So yes, he'd be paying for substantially more than half of the child-rearing costs - but when you're raising a child, you either a) don't have the free time to be earning money, really or b) have to pay someone to watch your child so that you can earn money. Also, this sounds fairly standard just from what I know about wealthy individuals and family law situations. A family friend who recently got divorced is paying his ex-wife $3,000 per month in alimony for the next 10 years - that's more than half of his monthly salary. They didn't have any kids together, and they were only married for 7 years, late in life (a second marriage for both of them). 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I have no problem with that amount if he can really afford it..And as long as ALL the money is put away for your child, or spent on your child and isn't part of your own spending money. Not saying you'd do this, but many who do receive CS DO this, spend it for other things. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I don't think that actually sounds like that much at all - I'm assuming the $850 is monthly? The estimate cost of raising a kid is over $250,000, not including college expenses. At $850/month, for 18 years, that comes out to a total of $183,600. So yes, he'd be paying for substantially more than half of the child-rearing costs - but when you're raising a child, you either a) don't have the free time to be earning money, really or b) have to pay someone to watch your child so that you can earn money. Also, this sounds fairly standard just from what I know about wealthy individuals and family law situations. A family friend who recently got divorced is paying his ex-wife $3,000 per month in alimony for the next 10 years - that's more than half of his monthly salary. They didn't have any kids together, and they were only married for 7 years, late in life (a second marriage for both of them). And people wonder why men don't want to get married. Even if he was paying for every single thing the child ever needed himself, 850+ a month is still waaaaay more than that kid needs. I'm basing this on my job. I receive a lot of income wit holding for support orders. The average seems to be between 250 to 400. So seeing one that's double, triple what I usually see is surprising. Good thing I'm not paying it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 Well, I dont want anyone throwing stones at me. I didnt come up with the amount the courts did and I pay $125 a week for childcare so I can work. That plays a part in it too. I dont care how much it is as long as he's being made to be responsible. Hell, he had the opportunity to bring his pay stubs and everything to court and he ignored it all. BUT NOW, he sees those dollar signs, that got his attention. Its about time! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 7, 2014 Author Share Posted February 7, 2014 I have no problem with that amount if he can really afford it..And as long as ALL the money is put away for your child, or spent on your child and isn't part of your own spending money. Not saying you'd do this, but many who do receive CS DO this, spend it for other things. I see what you're saying, but I dont care if he's left with nothing. He didnt care about his daughter well being all he cared about was making sure he didnt get caught. I hope he has luck with finding a lawyer to even take his case. Thats even more money because he has to pay lawyer fees, court costs, cost of dna, etc. He was sent the paperwork for all that in Nov and he ignored it. I will make sure that all of it is spent on his daughter meaning everything she needs, food, keeping a roof on her head, and clothes on her back, etc. Im sure now he wishes he would have done the RIGHT thing from the beginning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Well, I dont want anyone throwing stones at me. I didnt come up with the amount the courts did and I pay $125 a week for childcare so I can work. That plays a part in it too. I dont care how much it is as long as he's being made to be responsible. Hell, he had the opportunity to bring his pay stubs and everything to court and he ignored it all. BUT NOW, he sees those dollar signs, that got his attention. Its about time! No no don't get me wrong, I was merely making a surprised observation that's all. If the court says he owes that then who am I to say different ? Ally ell you one thing for sure, it'd be lower if he cooperated. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Ally ell you one thing for sure, it'd be lower if he cooperated. It'd be zero if he hadn't screwed around on his wife. 17 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGypsy Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 It's to help support. You need to remember that includes helping to put a roof over the child's head, utilities, food, clothes, etc. Depending on where they live COL for that area and the income of the non custodial parent it sounds entirely reasonable. He shared in the fun of making of this child. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SugarHibiscus Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 It's to help support. You need to remember that includes helping to put a roof over the child's head, utilities, food, clothes, etc. Depending on where they live COL for that area and the income of the non custodial parent it sounds entirely reasonable. He shared in the fun of making of this child. You took the words right out of my mouth. $850 isn't a lot for where I live. (One of the largest three cities in the U.S.) It's all about income AND COL. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Both parents are financially responsible for this child. usually it is based off income of both parents and there is nothing wrong with parents working to support their children. I don't think any parent should feel as if they are owed staying home and taking care of a child if it wasn't a joint decision, and I believe this pregnancy wasn't planned. $125 a week is incredibly cheap for child care. His children shouldn't have to 'pay' for their fathers indiscretion. They are innocent in all this and I believe his other children are to be taken into account when determining child support. If he is wealthy as you state, I have no doubt he will hire a lawyer and could get this order put on hold until his lawyer has time to adequately defend him/represent him. Just be prepared for this so you aren't 'counting any chickens before they are hatched' (as my grammy used to say). Do you have representation? I know it isn't right, but I have a feeling he will play dirty to get his support lowered, which isn't unheard of. Child support is reimbursement to the custodial parent for expenses related to child rearing - it does include rent/mortgage, utilities, food, etc. People tend to think that every dime that is paid must be spent on diapers, clothes, formula, etc. That's not accurate. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SugarHibiscus Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I'm sure the court took his other children into account when deciding how much he should pay. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 OP, don't worry too much about the money. If your award is court-ordered, they will garnish wages to assure you get paid. Yes, you might have to jump through some hoops to confirm DNA, but in the grand scheme of your child's life, it is just an annoyance. Look at the big picture. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Was all the info about the court and dna tests sent through regular mail or was he served? If it went by regular mail he can claim he didn't receive it and it will start all over now. What a pain in the butt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Was all the info about the court and dna tests sent through regular mail or was he served? If it went by regular mail he can claim he didn't receive it and it will start all over now. What a pain in the butt. I've heard a few horror stories. Since all you need is a " last known address " sometimes the guy doesn't even know he has had a child support case against him until it was too late to even contest paternity. The particular story I'm thinking of the guy even proved that the kid wasn't his, but because she had the court summons mailed to his " last known address " which was actually where she lived and then just destroyed the papers once they arrived, it all became a huge **** storm and the court wouldn't overturn his " paternity. " What a nightmare the system is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Was all the info about the court and dna tests sent through regular mail or was he served? If it went by regular mail he can claim he didn't receive it and it will start all over now. What a pain in the butt. It was mailed to him and served to him. The case worker said that when the papers were served actually given to someone else ( I believe it was his wife). He happened to move during the the court papers were served, however, I found out that he moved and gave the new apt number. She said she mailed the court papers to the new address. He changed his address to his mother 's address. I guess to keep anything else from coming to his house and his wife finding out. It's mighty strange that he didn't get any if the other papers but he got the judgement papers AT the new apt he moved to ha! He's just lying. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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