2sunny Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Why not have him served everything at his work? Just to cover all bases... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 It's a shame that he's going to these extremes to keep from getting exposed. I wanna just pick up the phone call his wife and put it all out on the table BUT I'm not gonna go there. Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Quite frankly he has a right to request a DNA test. Although he should have answered the papers when he was served this first time. This is not a knock to you....please don't take it that way. But if I was a man that was not married to a female that claimed I got them pregnant, I would ask for a test too. I know to many men that have been fooled and many more that have stepped up to take care of kids that are not theirs too. Link to post Share on other sites
MovingPast Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 In the state I live in and probably yours also, child support is a SET percentage of the non custodial parent (20 - 22 percent for one child here, 22 - 25 for two and so on) A child has a legal right to be supported just as if it's parents were married when the child was born, so no marriage makes no difference in the amount of support the child deserves. 850 is not an outrageous amount. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Quite frankly he has a right to request a DNA test. Although he should have answered the papers when he was served this first time. This is not a knock to you....please don't take it that way. But if I was a man that was not married to a female that claimed I got them pregnant, I would ask for a test too. I know to many men that have been fooled and many more that have stepped up to take care of kids that are not theirs too. I think that maybe you misunderstood me. I stated from the beginning that I have no problem with him getting a DNA test. I wanted him to get one to prove it once and for all. What pisses me off is he DIDNT care about getting one UNTIL he saw that dollar sign and now he thinks if he ask for a test and claim he's getting a lawyer that will prolong him paying even longer. He's playing games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 My daughter will be 6 months on feb 13th. Why didn't he get a test 6 months ago to prove she's NOT his?! He didn't cause he thought it would just go away. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Hurtnomorerika, I've been reading your threads from the very beginning and I am still hoping that this ends well for you and your daughter* I guess I just cannot believe what your A turned into with pregnancy, the back and forth emotional And physical roller coaster, to being dumped, to having your daughter all alone, to attorneys, Child Support, contesting Child Support to TODAY. All because of unprotected sex with a man who is Married that chose to have sex with a woman not His Wife!! I feel horrible for everything you've had to go through. I feel horrible for everything His Wife WILL have to go through. I feel Horrible for what His Children are going to go through! I DON'T however feel an ounce of sympathy for what MM is going through or will go through. He the biggest type of douche there is.! I wish there was some way that Only MM could be made to "pay" without it affecting everyone else around him. You, Stay strong* do what you Need to do to take care of Your daughter and You!!* 5 Link to post Share on other sites
rumbleseat Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I think the saddest part of this is that it's him rejecting his own child, who had zero to do with any of the emotions involved. She is truly an innocent party in all of this. Your ex is putting money and covering his own rear before her, and that's just sad. It says a lot about him. It's "me first" all the way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
yellowmaverick Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 My daughter will be 6 months on feb 13th. Why didn't he get a test 6 months ago to prove she's NOT his?! He didn't cause he thought it would just go away. Yes. Compartmentalization at its best. He dealt with his child the same way he dealt with his marriage and his affair. Did this really surprise you? In any event, I am glad that your daughter will have the financial support that she needs. I only hope that his other children are not adversely affected by the large amount that will no longer be available for THEIR financial support. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 I think the saddest part of this is that it's him rejecting his own child, who had zero to do with any of the emotions involved. She is truly an innocent party in all of this. Your ex is putting money and covering his own rear before her, and that's just sad. It says a lot about him. It's "me first" all the way. Exactly! He doesn't care if my baby doesn't gave formula as long as hrs not caught. It's really sad, but God will take care of him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
rumbleseat Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 I don't know how he can look at himself in the mirror everyday knowing he would rather see his own child go without than take responsibility (not saying she ever would if it was just you but you would think that he would want to make sure his own child has"more than enough") 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 I don't know how he can look at himself in the mirror everyday knowing he would rather see his own child go without than take responsibility (not saying she ever would if it was just you but you would think that he would want to make sure his own child has"more than enough") It really baffles me! I'm do full right now. He still too much of punk to call and say "hey, can we work this out"?! Amazing! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 He showed he lacked character - when he had decided to participate in an affair. No reason to think he's changed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 I don't know how he sleeps at night. He can get a lawyer all he wants but he's going to look really when the judge asks him has did anything for the baby and he says No. I can't wait until the test results are read and I can laugh in his face and everything still goes just like they were supposed too. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruffian1 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 He's playing games. Yes, he most certainly is, just as his A with you was a game. He is delaying the inevitable, sooner or later, his BS is going to find out. It's just a matter of time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Was anything different expected to come out of an affair other woman pregnancy? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Was anything different expected to come out of an affair other woman pregnancy? No that's why I haven't bothered his household other than getting the childsupport that my daughters entitled too. You play, you pay. He never has to have anything to with her, however he will take responsibility for the child he HELPED create. It is what it is. Regardless, of the situation that doesn't give him the right to say to hell with that baby I'm not doing nothing for her. He's in for a surprise just like he wants an attorney, I have an attorney. I'm ready for whatever he tries he WILL NOT get way from taking responsibility I learned my lesson MAYBE he will learn his too after it's all said and done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Yes, he most certainly is, just as his A with you was a game. He is delaying the inevitable, sooner or later, his BS is going to find out. It's just a matter of time. Yep, it's just a matter of time. He's really only hurting himself and the longer he plays around the further behind he will get in child-support. He's already 4,000 behind, he's playing himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 No that's why I haven't bothered his household other than getting the childsupport that my daughters entitled too. You play, you pay. He never has to have anything to with her, however he will take responsibility for the child he HELPED create. It is what it is. Regardless, of the situation that doesn't give him the right to say to hell with that baby I'm not doing nothing for her. He's in for a surprise just like he wants an attorney, I have an attorney. I'm ready for whatever he tries he WILL NOT get way from taking responsibility I learned my lesson MAYBE he will learn his too after it's all said and done. That's all fine and dandy but... the state can take his money, but can't make him be a father. You might be on your own on this one ( alone expect for the money ) and I just want to make sure you know that. I'm sure you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Sometimes I just want to kick someone that hard that he will forget his name. It's so frustrating that some couples can't have a kid and they want it so much, and this bastard doesn't want to know his kid. Heaven and hell are here, he'll pay in his life, and I don't mean money. Erica hang in there girl! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 That's all fine and dandy but... the state can take his money, but can't make him be a father. You might be on your own on this one ( alone expect for the money ) and I just want to make sure you know that. I'm sure you do. Yes, I know that and thank you for reassuring me. I had forgot that he didn't want anything to do her and he may not ever. Thanks for reminding me, I really needed that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Sometimes I just want to kick someone that hard that he will forget his name. It's so frustrating that some couples can't have a kid and they want it so much, and this bastard doesn't want to know his kid. Heaven and hell are here, he'll pay in his life, and I don't mean money. Erica hang in there girl! Thank you! He will pay for it sooner or later. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruffian1 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Thank you! He will pay for it sooner or later. Please don't loose sight of the fact that one day, next month or in 16 yrs., he may want a relationship with his daughter. Maybe he will still be with his W or single or with another OW. Especially if he is paying he may eventually seek a father/daughter relationship. He is just not in a hurry at this point. He is not going to play by your rules or assumptions. Don't count on him being a check in the mail only. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hurtnomorerika Posted February 8, 2014 Author Share Posted February 8, 2014 Please don't loose sight of the fact that one day, next month or in 16 yrs., he may want a relationship with his daughter. Maybe he will still be with his W or single or with another OW. Especially if he is paying he may eventually seek a father/daughter relationship. He is just not in a hurry at this point. He is not going to play by your rules or assumptions. Don't count on him being a check in the mail only. Thank you but I never said that. I would like for him to have a relationship with her. What rules or assumptions are you referring too? I don't remember listing either. He will follow guidelines he will not be able to throw his weight around and feel the he can do whatever, whenever I will not tolerate that. Link to post Share on other sites
goodyblue Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 850 for one child ? Jesus Christ that's outrageous.[/quote Okay, I am kind of laughing. Poor baby has to pay 850. Meanwhile the child's mother pays the mortgage, the power, the gas, the water, gets him clothes and food, books... outrageous is it? Jesus. Take a chair. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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