craig1990 Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Hi I've always lacked confidence with women, i've always been able to become good friends with a girl but never anything more. I've started to try and make more of an effort and my friend pushed me into getting tinder. I thought it would be pointless but i've recieved quite a lot of matches but nothing seems to be going anywhere presumably because of my lack of interesting conversation. Tinder perhaps isnt the best place for me but its more comfortable than talking to a girl in a bar for example. I'm quite self deprecating and perhaps come across as needy. What kind of things should i be talking to girls i want to date about? Conversation starters are particularly hard for me. How do i improve my confidence in general? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 Good self talk is essential. Remind yourself of your good qualities. Psyche yourself up for the date. Asking Qs without sounding like you are a reporter or a cross examining a witness is a good conversation technique. get to know the person. Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted February 7, 2014 Share Posted February 7, 2014 I can't help you as far as conversation goes…but I may be able to help as far as confidence goes. I have this friend who is maybe 5'2. skinny, geeky, wears glasses. Can't wear contacts or get laser because he is diabetic etc. Once he told me that anyone who would turn him down just because of any of these is not the kind of people he wants to be around anyway. When you truly start to believe this - despite everything you think you got working against you - the rest will come naturally. I know it's easier said than done but it's a good start. Despite everything, he has confidence and it shows. And to be honest, I'm going to ask him out the next time I see him. Link to post Share on other sites
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