Author Welsh Posted February 10, 2014 Author Share Posted February 10, 2014 (edited) I had an interview this morning for a job I've ignored him and not made any contact He's just text me saying good luck So he says he wants space and yet he's texting me, but he complained I text him too much. This man is confusing me crazy. Edited February 10, 2014 by Welsh Link to post Share on other sites
Lokie Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 He said if I hadn't have pushed we could have been fine in a few days. Oh Welsh, this statement from him is so cruel - and total BS by the way. And girl, I have been where you are now. I hope you heed some of the great advice others have said. I know how hard it is to walk away from a man you love and relationship you don't want to lose. It takes huge amounts of courage and faith. It requires digging up every morsel of self-esteem you possess, knowing you deserve better. IMHO, this man is not ready for you at this time in his life. You sound like an amazing girlfriend, ready for the type of intimacy that can last a lifetime. He does not. Loving relationships do not include this type of ambivalence. Because each partner loves and respects the other and wants them to feel safe, they communicate clearly and openly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Welsh Posted February 10, 2014 Author Share Posted February 10, 2014 I am very grateful to all the support you have all provided me, thank you so much. I'm in a better place than I thought I'd be, however I'm still struggling. Up and down. Like last night, I thought time to invest in myself and look after me and be selfish for once in my life (always told I'm too nice) but then I woke up feeling miserable and down. Then back up slightly when I went for my interview thinking yeah I can do this I can get this. Then I left the interview and he had text me wishing it went well. I replied with a blunt thanks. Which is not in my character at all and he will know that. I haven't heard from him since that. However I'm nervous tomorrow to get my stuff from his. My idea and plan is to just gather my things and not say a word to him, is this the right thing to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Lokie Posted February 11, 2014 Share Posted February 11, 2014 Welsh, PLEASE bring a friend or have a friend do this retrieval for you. You are too raw to be seeing him now. From your posts, it appears that he has too much sway over you at the moment. I've seen it happen (and I've had it happen) that these types of "business exchanges" with exes rarely are just business. You could easily end up in bed with him and be way more confused than you are now. PLEASE bring or send a friend. Best, L. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Welsh Posted February 11, 2014 Author Share Posted February 11, 2014 I have this horrible gut instinct they spent the evening together last night and it's really tearing me up, both online and offline at similar times. It would never work as he's a manager and she's a part time sales. After everything I've done for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Welsh Posted February 11, 2014 Author Share Posted February 11, 2014 I shocked myself I've just got my stuff and I didn't cry infront of him. He kept trying to offer me a drink, ask if I wanted help and was asking about my job interview. I said bye and he said hope you have a nice day see you soon. I left something there and as soon as I left he text me to say id left the teddy there. Link to post Share on other sites
JessieJ08 Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 I think you would be better off Letting this guy Go! He is nothing special if you can't see that by now when will you? Another thing he choose to leave you ok well Don't sit and pout about it go meet someone new turn it into a positive, maybe he would have actually cheated on you if you had gotten the relationship you want with him. Which by the way wouldn't be what you want because your mad over a female he slept with and still communicates with. Why are you wasting time being sad for a relationship that was not true or meaningful for you in the first place? I hope you figure it out I know it is hard for us females to let men go but realize there is someone out there who will give you true love and respect the more time you waste crying or chasing someone who doesn't know what love is and what being in a relationship is about, there is a good guy you could be meeting and getting to know. Protect your heart also don't just give it to a guy because he is your Boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted February 13, 2014 Share Posted February 13, 2014 For you two to work, he would have needed to break all ties to her, which he didn't; it makes me believe that all the things he said and planned with you weren't meant seriously. He's betrayed you for sure in my very honest opinion, and so far you've been played. Stay in strict NC, you're not his backup plan and if you really want to get him to wake up you'll have to give it plenty of time and let him realize this by himself. There are ex's who contact again after 5 (!!!) years even, and I'm very sure he's the type that returns with a tucked tail. He even tries to keep you as 'friend', for now that is. I'm sorry, and yes, it will hurt for a while, but you'll always be far better off without a cheater. Focus on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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