secret admirer Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 So I ask this girl out and she said yes. We went to the movies and went out to eat. We laughed and had a good time, but she seemed disinterested. Her body language was very closed, her arms were crossed, she sat as far away as she could, and she occasionally returned eye contact when I looked at her. It felt terrible. Any touch I made or wanted to make drifted her further away. I couldnt even get a hug goodbye. So now I'm here wondering what just happened? She still texts me like shes interested in me, but in person shes not... and why did she even go out with me that night? Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Either she's not interested in you that way or she's painfully shy. See if she keeps up the texting if you respond. You could find out if she'd like to meet again for a date. If she does, then you could mention that she seemed a bit distant and was she OK? Perhaps she'll give you some explanation. All the body signals sound like uninterested though so you need to tread carefully and make sure you are not assuming anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Thedafox Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I'm in the complete exact opposite of you, we've gone out a handful of times and each time she got closer, she held my arm when we walked or held hands in the movies. I've gotten a big hug and a kiss after our 3rd date but she does not text at all and when she does she sounds completely uninterested. I agree with what Spiderowl said, definitely bring it up if you guys go out on another date. Link to post Share on other sites
Scales Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Run for the hills dude. Did you say it was a date? This is how girls lead guys on. They go on dinner dates and a free movie and continue texting, but then drop the friend speech on you 3rd "date" or so. Don't do this to yourself. Cut her off now and save yourself the trouble of hating her later. Don't listen to what she says, look at what she does. You feel that there isn't a connection. Run for it, if she is still talking to you she is just looking for food and attention. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 First dates are scary for women, so don't read too much into her not wanting to be touchy-feeling on one. Sounds to me like she has had a lot of run-ins with guys who only want to sleep with her right away and is making it clear up front that ain't gonna happen the first date. See if she starts relaxing on the second date any, but don't try anything now you know she's taking it slow. If you make it to the third date, try holding her hand putting your hand on her back as you walk from the car to the door. If all you want is sex, this is not your girl. As others have suggested, if this is a simple internet meal ho, of which there are many, they will be prodding you for more expensive expenditures soon and then you'll know. Link to post Share on other sites
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