friskywife Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 If a wife feels she is being "neglected", does she have a right to ask if he taking care of things on his own? I know he has been visiting certain sites when I am not here and I flat out asked for sex the other nite, but he was busy with his online game. I was just wondering can I flat out ask him if he jerking off and just doesn't have any left for me? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 I don't know that I would address the masturbating, as that is something he would probably be doing whether or not he was having sex with you. What you definitely have a right to do is ask why he isn't having sex with you. You may want to tell him point blank that you feel he is neglecting you sexually, and that it is not only frustrating - it is hurtful as well. He may be oblivious as to exactly how you feel about it. Hopefully you two can figure out if its a lower sex drive, a problem he may have mentally about it, or what not. I'd leave masturbation out of it, and focus on the sex (or lack thereof) between the two of you. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 Yes you an ask him! And yes, you are right to assume he is jerking off! My husband would refuse me sex, but look at porn all day. It took me a couple of months, but it finally hit me that he was masterbating all the time! I thought that his sex drive was so low that porn wouldn't make him hard either. I was dumb. He was jerking off so much that he didn't need sex. Now that has nothing to do with you, mind you, but lately, I'll get a little bit horny, but rather than go to hubby, get him hard, go down on him, have sex with him until I orgasm, and then getting back up to finish him, I'll just masterbate. Sometimes, masterbating makes me hornier, and I go to him any way But back to you, yes, he's masterbating and neglecting you. Once I tried everything else, I just flat out got porn out of the house, and now hubby and I have a VERY active sex life, and I couldn't be happier Link to post Share on other sites
aFighter Posted January 20, 2005 Share Posted January 20, 2005 Originally posted by friskywife If a wife feels she is being "neglected", does she have a right to ask if he taking care of things on his own? Ok first up, Yes, you have the right to ask. You are not being selfish. I know he has been visiting certain sites when I am not here and I flat out asked for sex the other nite, but he was busy with his online game. THAT is being selfish. He seriously needs to sort out his priorities. He chose a GAME!? Dear god in heaven... I was just wondering can I flat out ask him if he jerking off and just doesn't have any left for me? Like I said, you have every right to ask him and communicate calmly and with thought about how you are feeling. Don't just blurt out "are you jacking off and just don't want to make love to me??" You get the idea. Good luck with it and let us know how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
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