trying to play cards, is that so wrong?

[i am insane]

putting this stuff down here seems a whole lot easier in my head. and the fact im typing this on my 2DS with a piece of cardboard doesn't help, but that's not what i wanna talk about

what i wanna talk about got my mom to be in court tomorrow where she may be sent off to jail. but that's the ending to my little tale cause im just trying to avoid getting to the root of the issue. here it is: i wanna play trading cards...seems so simple doesn't it? well it ain't, at least not for me.

i don't know when i started liking them, but the fact is I did. something about playing strategy, outwitting my opponent, andngetting every small victory i could just sends a jolt of excitement through the likes of i have never felt before. i had found something i had really enjoyed. if this were anfairy tale, it would end there, with me all happy and smiling, but sadly that's not the case. i started to want to play cards more and more, that sense of excitement while playing almost addicting. at first my mom and grandma were happy to see i had found a hobby i enjoyed so much and were willing to help me. but soon things went south. i skipped out on school work to go play cards at my "locals" a mile away from my house. and when i got home i'd stay up all night organizing my cards in binders. so late i sometimes overslept and missed school the next day.

because of that, my family stopped helping go play cards. forcing me to walk there, and either sell my cards to play in weekly tournaments or use my own saved up money to pay. god, i seriously am going off topic am i? seems i do that a lot, heh heh

but the real issue is that my mom got hurt cause of me going to play cards. she caused a "public disturbance", and is going to court tomorrow to settle it. all i want to do is go and have fun, i've tried explaining to my mom that i can work me playing cards around school but she's usually too upset/hurt to listen. and so i'm on here asking whoever is willing to help me. cause i can't take the constant reminders that there's something i want to do so bad (play cards) and it's just out of my reach. so what do i freakin' do?!? i just can't make this descision on my own, and my mom believes she's the only "right", so i can't ask her for help. enough beating around the bush, god i hate it when i do that

 

so, for god's sake and mine, HOW DO I FREAKIN' GO PLAY CARDS AGAIN???

[melodymatters]

As an American woman who is likely a lot older than you I have no idea what sort of cards/card games you are referring to but that is irrelevant. You could be obsessed with drawing unicorns or standing on your head and I would not judge you for that. BUT, butbutbut it always comes down to ONE BASIC THING: You've got to take care of "business" first !

 

Plenty of people collect fancy cars say, and that is all fine and dandy as long as their responsibilities are met. You need to attend to your school, or work or responsibilities FIRST and then whatever free time or money you have should be yours and yours alone to do whatever you want with.

 

I'm know nothing about moms going to jail for causing public disturbances but if you were being successful in all other areas of your life, I doubt your mom would be so upset about your hobby. If you ARE a grown man and everything else is taken care of, than perhaps you need to get your own apartment where it won't be anyone elses business what you do with your free time or money ?

[ASG]

Most of my friends play or have played card (Magic the Gathering was their game of choice).

They were obsessed. They'd be at the shop at midnight for new releases and I even knew people who actually played it professionally.

 

However, you can't let it take over your life. They still went to school/work and then went to tournaments at weekends. And I swear... there seemed to be one every single weekend!

 

And this is what you're doing wrong. You are letting the cards take over your life. You get no sympathy from me on that. I've seen people successfully balance it, so I know it can be done.

 

And I'm gonna tell you... My brother? Wasn't the most social guy. He had no friends in school before he started playing strategy games (miniatures, then cards). Believe it or not, that world developed his social skills. He still managed to make it to school every day!

[crederer]

Most of my friends play or have played card (Magic the Gathering was their game of choice).

They were obsessed. They'd be at the shop at midnight for new releases and I even knew people who actually played it professionally.

 

However, you can't let it take over your life. They still went to school/work and then went to tournaments at weekends. And I swear... there seemed to be one every single weekend!

 

And this is what you're doing wrong. You are letting the cards take over your life. You get no sympathy from me on that. I've seen people successfully balance it, so I know it can be done.

 

And I'm gonna tell you... My brother? Wasn't the most social guy. He had no friends in school before he started playing strategy games (miniatures, then cards). Believe it or not, that world developed his social skills. He still managed to make it to school every day!

 

*nerd alert*

 

Just joking man. Everything you said is accurate.

[Andy_K]

Here's the deal. You've let people down. You've let yourself down. You've shown addictive behaviour and lost the trust they had in you.

 

If you want to be allowed to make your own decisions again, you've got to show that you're responsible. Tell your mum you will give up cards completely for a month and just focus on your schoolwork and other responsibilities, to show you can. To show you can control yourself and win some trust back. And tell her that if you can do that off your own back for a month, then you've shown you can be controlled and responsible, and you can be trusted to start playing again without letting it go too far.

 

On the other hand, if you can't do it then you are addicted and need help.

[Els]

Most of my friends play or have played card (Magic the Gathering was their game of choice).

They were obsessed. They'd be at the shop at midnight for new releases and I even knew people who actually played it professionally.

 

However, you can't let it take over your life. They still went to school/work and then went to tournaments at weekends. And I swear... there seemed to be one every single weekend!

 

And this is what you're doing wrong. You are letting the cards take over your life. You get no sympathy from me on that. I've seen people successfully balance it, so I know it can be done.

 

And I'm gonna tell you... My brother? Wasn't the most social guy. He had no friends in school before he started playing strategy games (miniatures, then cards). Believe it or not, that world developed his social skills. He still managed to make it to school every day!

 

This, pretty much.

 

MTG is awesome, but like all other awesome things, if you let it rule your entire life, you're going to be in for a lot of trouble.

 

Edit: Oh, and if you play Pokemon or Yugioh or something else other than MTG? You're doing it wrong.

Edited February 11, 2014 by Elswyth

[MyEvilTwin]

I might think in your situation that the most important thing at this point would be damage control--

your mom going to court over how upset she was with whatever to do with your card playing has me thinking you have some work to do at home with understanding your mom's reasoning and limitations to your card playing.

 

 

At the end of the day your relationship with your mom is probably more important than cards, yes?

 

 

How about some sympathy for your mom knowing that you had something to do with that she was arrested?

Instead of playing cards today, I might think about how I could make my mom's life a little easier.

Maybe I'd do the dishes for her or make dinner.

The next day I'd vacuum for her.

And so on.

3 weeks from now, after having done good things for her numerous times, I'd ask if I could go play cards now, with a set time to be back home.