Bohdi10 Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 I took this girl to the football game yesterday and I really like her. I kind have been talking to her and hanging out with her on occasion. We went to the bar after the game and got pretty drunk. This one guy who is the husband of someone she works with was at the game and he was very flirtatious with her. I didn't make a big deal about it but it was weird. He was a little too friendly. So as I got more drunk i got a little jealous. When we were both on our way home later in the night i let her know that i liked her and that is was why i was wondering why she was so weird with that guy. She said that she didn't want a boyfriend right now. I got defensive and said, what am i not good enough for you? and she said that wasn't it, she said she just was at the point in her life that she didn't want a boyfriend. We just argued about that and it didn't end well. I gave her a hug and she was not very happy. Alot different then earlier in the night. It ruined my whole night and i'm really down about it now. I left her a message last night and apologized and said i was being a stupid drunk. I also text her this morning and said that i was sorry. What would you do at this point? Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 Back away, she'll either contact you or she won't. It was right for you to apologize, but she told you she doesn't want a serious boyfriend right now. You can't expect her to feel the same way about you as you felt towards her. If she doesn't call, move on. Just learn not to get intoxicated on a date or act possessive of someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bohdi10 Posted January 17, 2005 Author Share Posted January 17, 2005 Yeah, I figured I would just wait until she gets back to me , but should I apologize again if she calls me? Or is that overkill? I wasn't planning on getting drunk, she really wanted to stay and drink more so I went with it. I realize how dumb i acted and probably left a bad taste in her mouth. I am such an idiot, and it totally ruined a perfectly good day. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 Everybody messes up at some point. If she does call, just apologize and leave it at that. If you want to see her again, go ahead and ask her out.. If she's interested, have fun but take things slow. If she doesn't call, don't beat yourself up about what happened. There will be other girls you will want to date. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 Best thing to do right now is, nothing. You've already attempted to say you're sorry, and she knows you feel badly.. so leave the ball in her court so to speak to get back with you when she's ready. IMO if or when she does call you, it would be appropriate to once again apologize.. just tell her that you had drank to much, and although you know it isn't a good reason to have behaved that way, that you feel badly for what happend. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bohdi10 Posted January 17, 2005 Author Share Posted January 17, 2005 Thank you to everyone who has given me advice. It is greatly appreciated. I am just down about the whole situation. I'm one of those guys who just doesn't like anyone to be mad at them. I get bothered when people are mad and I'm quick to try to fix things. I'm a happy guy and when something like this happens I want to get rid of the sad feelings as fast as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 The best thing to do is run the opposite way, that is if you don't want to have your heart broken!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 By the way, I don't think you screwed up. I think that she is just not what you are looking for Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 see, BOHDI10, you really cannot do this early on in a relationship with a women. First you need to show her you nice and sensitive and caring side then after a few months you show her your dark, evil, azzholey side. you did this too early and now she is mad. it will be hard to recover but life will go on, it always does. don't sit around waiting for her call but do move on and start meeting and dating other women. women are the best, each one is a different animal, unique and special. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2005 Share Posted January 17, 2005 women are the best, each one is a different animal, unique and special. HMMMMMM Alpha! Awwww You're too sweet...By chance...Are you getting laid babe? You seem so floaty! Very unlike ya! Heeee Hawwww! Ride 'em cowboy! Link to post Share on other sites
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