JessieJ08 Posted February 11, 2014 Share Posted February 11, 2014 I have been with my guy for 4years now we have a child together so I have been sticking around in hopes that we could get better. The problem is I don't think they ever will and I feel like Im always put into situations because he leaves with no choice. Some issues we have had He can't say no to females who have disrespected our relationship for instance a woman tried to hook him up with another female he still choose to talk to this woman for reasons I really wouldn't understand, same woman also lied on him and said she didn't know we were in a relationship when I saw conversations between them about Him and I, why Idk at the time it seemed pretty immature for a guy to be going to a woman he barley knows about a relationship he just started. I also noticed he was asking his friends blessings about leaving me why would anyone need to ask or seek approval to leave someone? Another I noticed quick he was super insecure in himself he would insult me or put me down to people about anything he could find tell me I needed to dress different, how a female in a relationship should act. Then he wanted me to add his mother n Fb so she could approve of me Ok I now know that if a guy seeks his mother approval about who he dates he may have issues but then I didn't think much. After having his kid His mother threatened me a number of times. She also went on Fb and made a joke under my childs picture about my child being his. I today still have to deal with this woman and see her like everyday I dont really care for her help or anything because she has said some really rotten over the top things to me like even threatened my life due to him putting hands on me while I was pregnant. While all of that drama was going on I also had to deal with this guy single friends and him telling me he never meant to be serious with me. I just at this point feel like I can never be in love with this guy I don't think he is a good person for me or my child. Im ready to find someone who doesn't bring drama into my life but now today we haven't had any issues just now and then if his comes over to the house he wants me to drop everything and say hi to this woman its like he has never respected my feelings towards he which not saying I hate her I just dont care to be around her. I want to tell him and just have a clean slate and move on with my life but I doubt it would be so peaceful I have even thought about running away! Link to post Share on other sites
Pablo Augustus Posted February 11, 2014 Share Posted February 11, 2014 It sounds to me like you have a very testing relationship. I appreciate that you are trying to stay with your man for your child. But speaking from self experience. It does a lot of harm to a child seeing your parents have a dysfunctional relationship. If the only reason you are staying with him is to shelter your child, then I think you may be doing more damage by staying? Hopefully you find someone who treats you respectfully, and your child will model his/her future relationahips on a better example. Link to post Share on other sites
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